Live in Nanny left in the middle of the night

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset to learn that my new nanny ghosted her former employer. If her reason was abuse, that would turn me off as well since she could bring whatever trauma she experienced into dealing with my children.

You are awful.

You would risk your kids to someone who you didn’t think was fit because you thought it made you a better person? Are you even a parent?
I would wish her the best but she wouldn’t be my nanny.

Do you ask every nanny candidate if she's ever been sexually assaulted?

I’ve had the same nanny since my oldest was born, but I would not ask that. I would ask if she was currently employed though, which is a standard question . In this scenario, she would have 1. lied in the interview and said no, 2. told the truth that she was employed and then lied about giving notice or 3. told the said yes, but conditions are so terrible that instead of giving notice, I am going to leave in the middle of the night. If she told me #3, I would not hire her. If I found out she lied (scenario 1 or 2) I would not keep her.

Realistically, no one is going to admit to this in an interview and you're unlikely to you know the truth. Plus, none of this would prevent something happening after you hire her. If your existing nanny were raped this weekend, she might bring that baggage into the job but she probably wouldn't tell you about the rape.

In other words, you are being a shitbag troll because you're a jackass.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny and have never ghosted an employer because I still want to see the kids. That said, I’ve never worked for creeps before. Clearly this nanny felt unsafe in her job/living space. My assumption is the dad was inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

I quit today after working for the same business for 8 years. I just sat outside my work unable to make myself go inside.
I am not burning any bridges. Any work place would be glad to have me, and I suspect they expect me back by Friday when it gets busy. There's just so much wrong with my work right now that I'm better off staying home or I would go crazy.
New hires quit within months, weeks, and even days after being hired. There is not one big thing, but collection of small things that nobody cares to fix.
It was not a pleasant thing to do and I suspect it was even harder for the nanny, but I think her employers know exactly why she quit like that.

[Anonymous]

I left once not in the middle of the night but as soon as the dad left for work. I packed my bags that night and had everything ready to go as soon as he left. He was extremely physically abusive to us all. The mom took the kids after we were all threatened with a loaded gun. After she left I had to get out as well. I drove straight to his lawyers office and handed his lawyer the car keys and credit card, left the car there.

[Anonymous]

Something felt very unsafe to this nanny. No one does something like this without a valid reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that's really how it went down, it's because she was afraid of one or both of the parents. Someone must have done something pretty bad to make her that afraid.

This. My first reaction as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The parents have big jobs, long hours and quite a few little kids. It was too much work I guess.

if that’s all it was she would have told them that and given notice. There is more to this story.

That’s more than enough. They clearly overworked her. With 3 or more kids and a expectation to be ‘on’ 8 or more hours a day the family should have 2 nannies on rotation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bad boss

+1 your friends nanny was not being compensated enough to either deal with all those little kids, the parents or both.

Tell your friend she needs to pay way more to get a nanny who is willing to deal with all that.

You don’t know any of that to be true. Stop bring do judgmental

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I quit today after working for the same business for 8 years. I just sat outside my work unable to make myself go inside.
I am not burning any bridges. Any work place would be glad to have me, and I suspect they expect me back by Friday when it gets busy. There's just so much wrong with my work right now that I'm better off staying home or I would go crazy.
New hires quit within months, weeks, and even days after being hired. There is not one big thing, but collection of small things that nobody cares to fix.
It was not a pleasant thing to do and I suspect it was even harder for the nanny, but I think her employers know exactly why she quit like that.

And you gave no notice? No references for you!

[Anonymous]

Wowwwww you friends must have been absolutely awful employers. I did that early in my career, 17 years ago. The family was horrible.

- nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor thing! She didn't know how to tell her bosses, and maybe didn't know how to say goodbye to the kids. I hope they were not mistreating her in any way.

Poor thing??? Poor parents. I wonder what the nanny stole. There's a reason people leave under cover of darkness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does her contract say about paying back for the use of the room/food/utilities and whatever other perks?

I'm guessing youre hearing the 1-sided story.
Are you sure " left in the middle of the night" wasn't an embellishment? Maybe the Nanny left after she put the kids to bed/her shift was over, had a huge argument with the parents which she felt was the last straw, packed up her items, and by then it was 10/1030/maybe even 11pm...not as dramatic as the title of your post makes it seem.

Nannies are at will employees. Shove it!

[Anonymous]

Mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The parents have big jobs, long hours and quite a few little kids. It was too much work I guess.

if that’s all it was she would have told them that and given notice. There is more to this story.

That’s more than enough. They clearly overworked her. With 3 or more kids and a expectation to be ‘on’ 8 or more hours a day the family should have 2 nannies on rotation.

LOL!! Most women raised 3 or more kids all by themselves just one generation ago. Two or more nannies? LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I never heard of that. Your friend must be a nightmare. Good for the nanny.

Why assume that?? Perhaps she was a crappy nanny/person. I would assume that successful people with big jobs are not a nightmare.
Someone who lives with families and works for $25/hour is more likely to be bad at decision making etc.