Live in Nanny left in the middle of the night

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Anonymous wrote:The parents have big jobs, long hours and quite a few little kids. It was too much work I guess.

if that’s all it was she would have told them that and given notice. There is more to this story.

That’s more than enough. They clearly overworked her. With 3 or more kids and a expectation to be ‘on’ 8 or more hours a day the family should have 2 nannies on rotation.

LOL!! Most women raised 3 or more kids all by themselves just one generation ago. Two or more nannies? LOL

no they didn’t. They had a village. Today there is no more village unless you’re extremely lucky.

There was no village. Kids with working mother's were latchkey kids. Stop with the village crap because there never was one. Yes, there were extended families but now Grandma's also work and do not want to take care of their grandkids.

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Anonymous wrote:Something felt very unsafe to this nanny. No one does something like this without a valid reason.

Meh. Some people are immature and don't handle transitions or conflict well or get a better offer in this hot job market and then leave without any notice. It's not specific to nannies, but people do just ghost jobs these days. OP sounds like she wants to gossip about her "friend."

I don't think it has to be something nefarious. Parents freak out and can become aggressive about child care. She wanted to quit immediately for whatever reason and there was no way that conversation with the parents was going to be calm. I can see a young person wanting to avoid that.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents have big jobs, long hours and quite a few little kids. It was too much work I guess.

if that’s all it was she would have told them that and given notice. There is more to this story.

That’s more than enough. They clearly overworked her. With 3 or more kids and a expectation to be ‘on’ 8 or more hours a day the family should have 2 nannies on rotation.

LOL!! Most women raised 3 or more kids all by themselves just one generation ago. Two or more nannies? LOL

no they didn’t. They had a village. Today there is no more village unless you’re extremely lucky.

There was no village. Kids with working mother's were latchkey kids. Stop with the village crap because there never was one. Yes, there were extended families but now Grandma's also work and do not want to take care of their grandkids.

+1. Villages only existed in some neighborhoods "back in the day". Most kids were on their own.

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Anonymous wrote:She might be sorry she burned that bridge if she ever needs a reference or verified employment history.

Who knows if wages were paid on the books? Parents frequently lie to their friends about that.

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Anonymous wrote:What does her contract say about paying back for the use of the room/food/utilities and whatever other perks?

I'm guessing youre hearing the 1-sided story.
Are you sure " left in the middle of the night" wasn't an embellishment? Maybe the Nanny left after she put the kids to bed/her shift was over, had a huge argument with the parents which she felt was the last straw, packed up her items, and by then it was 10/1030/maybe even 11pm...not as dramatic as the title of your post makes it seem.

Who would sign such a contract!

I could see some lawyer parents trying to get a nanny to sign a predatory contract. These parents were paying her well, nice room, van but I think they just dumped too much on her. They work a lot, go to gym daily, so it was long days for the nanny. The kids are a handful.

She left in middle of night which indicates fear. Maybe the dad tried to force himself on her. It was more than burn out.

It indicates bad character.

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Happened to my family. My dad and his wife had several young kids, they had two nannies. The girls were friends, they were sent to us from a local church that had programs for the girls to come out and be nannies for a year.

One day when I got home from school, the girls snuck all their stuff out the back door and told me (age 16) they were quitting, and I had to watch the kids til my parents got home from work. Which I did. Never saw the girls again.

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It could be immaturity on the nanny's part, or something terrible on the employers' part. No way to know with this little information. The fact that it was the middle of the night does make the imagination go in a salacious direction, though.

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My question for parents is - What would your reaction be if your Nanny handed you their resignation? Would you be angry/shocked? Or understanding and accommodating even though it would mean a big hassle and work problems for you and your spouse?

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Anonymous wrote:What does her contract say about paying back for the use of the room/food/utilities and whatever other perks?

I'm guessing youre hearing the 1-sided story.
Are you sure " left in the middle of the night" wasn't an embellishment? Maybe the Nanny left after she put the kids to bed/her shift was over, had a huge argument with the parents which she felt was the last straw, packed up her items, and by then it was 10/1030/maybe even 11pm...not as dramatic as the title of your post makes it seem.

Who would sign such a contract!

I could see some lawyer parents trying to get a nanny to sign a predatory contract. These parents were paying her well, nice room, van but I think they just dumped too much on her. They work a lot, go to gym daily, so it was long days for the nanny. The kids are a handful.

She left in middle of night which indicates fear. Maybe the dad tried to force himself on her. It was more than burn out.

It indicates bad character.

Bad character on part of employers make it necessary for nanny to leave in middle of night.