Live in Nanny left in the middle of the night

[Anonymous]

If that's really how it went down, it's because she was afraid of one or both of the parents. Someone must have done something pretty bad to make her that afraid.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a terrible job. How many kids/ages?

[Anonymous]

Your friends sound like selfish p*icks. You don’t both go to the gym when your nanny has already worked a long day and your young children haven’t had any time with you. I’ll bet the nanny thought there was no point in discussion because it was clear they wouldn’t change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her contract say about paying back for the use of the room/food/utilities and whatever other perks?

I'm guessing youre hearing the 1-sided story.
Are you sure " left in the middle of the night" wasn't an embellishment? Maybe the Nanny left after she put the kids to bed/her shift was over, had a huge argument with the parents which she felt was the last straw, packed up her items, and by then it was 10/1030/maybe even 11pm...not as dramatic as the title of your post makes it seem.

Who would sign such a contract!

I could see some lawyer parents trying to get a nanny to sign a predatory contract. These parents were paying her well, nice room, van but I think they just dumped too much on her. They work a lot, go to gym daily, so it was long days for the nanny. The kids are a handful.

Living in is mostly for the benefit of the employers as is a nanny car so a nice room and a van aren’t the perks they might think. I would hope they would pay well for those long hours and number of young children. I’ll bet the nanny’s new job provides the same pay with less hours and stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The parents have big jobs, long hours and quite a few little kids. It was too much work I guess.

if that’s all it was she would have told them that and given notice. There is more to this story.

I agree. She was scared and ghosted them. OP, can you think of anything about your friends that seems off or suspicious? I think the nanny was afraid of your friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The parents have big jobs, long hours and quite a few little kids. It was too much work I guess.

if that’s all it was she would have told them that and given notice. There is more to this story.

I agree. She was scared and ghosted them. OP, can you think of anything about your friends that seems off or suspicious? I think the nanny was afraid of your friends.

DP. I can't help but wonder if someone hit on her in a way that felt threatening, if not assault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her contract say about paying back for the use of the room/food/utilities and whatever other perks?

I'm guessing youre hearing the 1-sided story.
Are you sure " left in the middle of the night" wasn't an embellishment? Maybe the Nanny left after she put the kids to bed/her shift was over, had a huge argument with the parents which she felt was the last straw, packed up her items, and by then it was 10/1030/maybe even 11pm...not as dramatic as the title of your post makes it seem.

Who would sign such a contract!

I could see some lawyer parents trying to get a nanny to sign a predatory contract. These parents were paying her well, nice room, van but I think they just dumped too much on her. They work a lot, go to gym daily, so it was long days for the nanny. The kids are a handful.

Yeah if you have a lot of little kids and work long hours you can’t also go to the gym everyday.

[Anonymous]

We had a live out FT nanny quit by leaving me a voice mail at my office on Monday morning. She got a different job, not nannying, and didn’t want to deal with quitting. She was too young and inexperienced and wasn’t doing well in the position. We were so screwed trying to find someone new right away. Not mistreated, she was just really immature and obviously didn’t like nannying. We should never have hired her.

[Anonymous]

I would be very upset to learn that my new nanny ghosted her former employer. If her reason was abuse, that would turn me off as well since she could bring whatever trauma she experienced into dealing with my children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset to learn that my new nanny ghosted her former employer. If her reason was abuse, that would turn me off as well since she could bring whatever trauma she experienced into dealing with my children.

You're ghosting your kids for your job anyway. What's the difference? LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset to learn that my new nanny ghosted her former employer. If her reason was abuse, that would turn me off as well since she could bring whatever trauma she experienced into dealing with my children.

You are awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset to learn that my new nanny ghosted her former employer. If her reason was abuse, that would turn me off as well since she could bring whatever trauma she experienced into dealing with my children.

You are awful.

You would risk your kids to someone who you didn’t think was fit because you thought it made you a better person? Are you even a parent?
I would wish her the best but she wouldn’t be my nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset to learn that my new nanny ghosted her former employer. If her reason was abuse, that would turn me off as well since she could bring whatever trauma she experienced into dealing with my children.

You are awful.

You would risk your kids to someone who you didn’t think was fit because you thought it made you a better person? Are you even a parent?
I would wish her the best but she wouldn’t be my nanny.

Do you ask every nanny candidate if she's ever been sexually assaulted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset to learn that my new nanny ghosted her former employer. If her reason was abuse, that would turn me off as well since she could bring whatever trauma she experienced into dealing with my children.

You are awful.

You would risk your kids to someone who you didn’t think was fit because you thought it made you a better person? Are you even a parent?
I would wish her the best but she wouldn’t be my nanny.

Do you ask every nanny candidate if she's ever been sexually assaulted?

I’ve had the same nanny since my oldest was born, but I would not ask that. I would ask if she was currently employed though, which is a standard question . In this scenario, she would have 1. lied in the interview and said no, 2. told the truth that she was employed and then lied about giving notice or 3. told the said yes, but conditions are so terrible that instead of giving notice, I am going to leave in the middle of the night. If she told me #3, I would not hire her. If I found out she lied (scenario 1 or 2) I would not keep her.

[Anonymous]

Any nannies in here? Would be interesting to hear what they think of quitting via ghosting.