For married people: how often do you think of an ex or "the one that got away"?

[Anonymous]

Can people state their gender when they respond?

[Anonymous]

Never! My husband is so far above all my exes that I don’t miss any of them. I picked a great lifetime partner.

[Anonymous]

Never

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe daily. Maybe a week or so goes by. I'm not sure.

I think, somewhere in the recesses of my subconscious, an alternate reality lives on where we're still together.

It's me, I'm a woman. Though I suspect that was obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe daily. Maybe a week or so goes by. I'm not sure.

I think, somewhere in the recesses of my subconscious, an alternate reality lives on where we're still together.

It's me, I'm a woman. Though I suspect that was obvious.

Why would that be obvious?

[Anonymous]

I have great memories of hot sex, but no regret about the one the got away in terms of marriage. I am more concerned about the temptation that is all around me now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think of her all the time. I think I partially married my wife to get back at her or get revenge. Also the wife was just "easier" and would do anything to make me happy. One that got away was much pricklier and more demanding. But I still think of her on a daily basis.

Whaaaat. Also on a daily basis, wow…how long haha you been married??

[Anonymous]

Several times a year. Not sure we would have made it long term but the passion and sex were amazing. Love DH but I felt so alive with that ex.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman. In the very early years, way more than now…I think it was a panic about the finality of marriage and would find myself suddenly doubting the relationship whenever my husband - the person who I’d just committed myself to for LIFE 😱 - did or said something that really bothered me. We’ve been married 10 years and it’s now more like…once every 8-10 months, and more just in a hm, wonder what ever happened to him / interesting to think about how my life would/could have been totally different (and, in most aspects, not in a good way).

There were some days in the very early years where it would have been scary to run into him, but over time I’ve fallen more and more in love with my husband and the life we’ve built (and feel completely unconnected to my ex, although I don’t think it’s weird to occasionally reminisce about the intensity of what we had back when I was young and carefree )

[Anonymous]

I used to think about my first real love quite often but I’m glad she “got away”. She ended up having a tough life and passing away two years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot, but in fondness, no struggle. I’m glad to have the idea of that beautiful love to carry with me. We never had the struggles of “real life” and it give me a lot of fuel knowing that love itself is joyful.

same. I'll always love them and think of them fondly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A lot, but in fondness, no struggle. I’m glad to have the idea of that beautiful love to carry with me. We never had the struggles of “real life” and it give me a lot of fuel knowing that love itself is joyful.

same. I'll always love them and think of them fondly.

Are they non binary? Why not state their gender?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot, but in fondness, no struggle. I’m glad to have the idea of that beautiful love to carry with me. We never had the struggles of “real life” and it give me a lot of fuel knowing that love itself is joyful.

same. I'll always love them and think of them fondly.

Are they non binary? Why not state their gender?

What is with the obsession on the gender of these responses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot, but in fondness, no struggle. I’m glad to have the idea of that beautiful love to carry with me. We never had the struggles of “real life” and it give me a lot of fuel knowing that love itself is joyful.

same. I'll always love them and think of them fondly.

Are they non binary? Why not state their gender?

What is with the obsession on the gender of these responses?

"Obsession of gender"- what? Why are you so defensive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot, but in fondness, no struggle. I’m glad to have the idea of that beautiful love to carry with me. We never had the struggles of “real life” and it give me a lot of fuel knowing that love itself is joyful.

same. I'll always love them and think of them fondly.

Are they non binary? Why not state their gender?

What is with the obsession on the gender of these responses?

"Obsession of gender"- what? Why are you so defensive?

PP, some people are weirdly cagey on here. Paranoia