For married people: how often do you think of an ex or "the one that got away"?

[Anonymous]

Yes but also know he was definitely not right for me.

[Anonymous]

Never.

Being in a relationship with a particular person at one stage of life does not mean that the two people are well suited for a long-term relationship. Some people continue to grow, while others find their comfort zone along the way. People often grow differently than others.

If you keep thinking about the past, you are missing the present, and limiting your future growth.

High school and college reunions serve a purpose regarding past relationships. Many probably come to view "the one that got away" as "dodging a bullet" after meeting up later in life.

[Anonymous]

I am happily married but all the time. We could never have what my husband and I have, but I still have fond almost sisterly/maternal feelings remaining towards him. I pray he finds the good things in life and becomes happy.

Though we can’t be friends in the true sense anymore I think it’s important to have people who are warm and rooting for you, even if its unseen. Life is long and we don’t always make it to the end with as many friends as we’d like. New/Old, Silver/Gold and such.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think of her all the time. I think I partially married my wife to get back at her or get revenge. Also the wife was just "easier" and would do anything to make me happy. One that got away was much pricklier and more demanding. But I still think of her on a daily basis.

Wow. This sounds like a soap opera. How long have you been married?

[Anonymous]

A lot. But my wife is much easier

[Anonymous]

Once a year or so. It has been almost 20 years. I am certain we would be divorced if I had gone with the ex.

[Anonymous]

Only if music/place/event triggers a particular memory. But, I don't kid myself that the grass would be or would have been greener.

[Anonymous]

One ex I think of on occasion when it comes to sexual fantasy. Although I ran into her a year ago and she doesn't look that good so that unfortunately killed the fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Whenever things get tough, I do wonder what it would be like if I had ended up with my college girlfriend. I dont think I'll ever love my wife the way I loved her

[Anonymous]

Yes, but less frequently as the years go by. I have the habit of romanticizing the good times and wondering “what if”, but then I snap out of it and remember the reasons why it didn’t work.

[Anonymous]

Some times but never out of regret. My ex was a professional athlete and my life would be very different had I stayed with him. I think I reminisce because I still can't believe that time in my life happened (I'm pretty but live a very normal life by most measures and don't really fit the WAG mold). That time was also very emblematic of my 20s...going out to events, being whisked away on trips, getting attention etc.

All that being said, I love my husband dearly and wouldn't trade him or my life for anything.

[Anonymous]

I have every ex in my spank bank and they all get brought out, some more than others. So I think about an ex at least once a day but sometimes twice.

[Anonymous]

0% And I dated some wonderful guys and our relationships ended amicably. I was even engaged for 2 years to one of them. I thank my lucky stars that I met and married DH. He's the one for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have every ex in my spank bank and they all get brought out, some more than others. So I think about an ex at least once a day but sometimes twice.

Male or female?

[Anonymous]

Maybe daily. Maybe a week or so goes by. I'm not sure.

I think, somewhere in the recesses of my subconscious, an alternate reality lives on where we're still together.