For married people: how often do you think of an ex or "the one that got away"?
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Anonymous
| Am I the only one struggling with those memories? I think a lot of people have them. |
Anonymous
| Never |
Anonymous
| A lot. But I would never tell my husband. |
Anonymous
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Basically never. Occasionally an ex will drift through my social media feed or come up in conversation with friends and I'll honestly struggle to remember them with any specificity. I've been with my DH for nearly 15 years. Longest relationship before him was 2 years, and I never lived with anyone else.
Probably the closest I come is sometimes thinking what will happen if I outlive my DH. But I don't think about exes, I just kind of muse about whether I'd want to be with someone again (would probably depend on my age) and if so, whether I'd look for someone like DH or someone different. I think I'd probably look for something different. But not because I don't like my DH -- I love him. More because I wouldn't want to replace him or try to recreate our marriage, but instead have a different kind of relationship with someone really different. |
Anonymous
| Every day. She died. |
Anonymous
| Less than once a year. |
Anonymous
| A lot, but in fondness, no struggle. I’m glad to have the idea of that beautiful love to carry with me. We never had the struggles of “real life” and it give me a lot of fuel knowing that love itself is joyful. |
Anonymous
| Much more frequently than I'd like. BUT he generally comes to mind at moments that illustrate why I thankful I am that I married my husband instead. |
Anonymous
| A lot. Like too much. It's my favorite go-to daydream/fantasy. My DH has no idea--doesn't even know about this person. Those events are seared into my memory--kind of hard not to think about it. |
Anonymous
| On a related note, how often do you meet someone and think "wow, if we weren't in our respective situations in life, we could have a great relationship." |
Anonymous
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Why would I stop.
They were a person in my life I loved and it was a great time. Wrong timing, oh well. |
Anonymous
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A lot, but I'd never tell my wife.
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Anonymous
Yeah see I never think of my exes and I think it is because I had some struggles of real life with all of them and they handled "real life" poorly. Versus DH who is a survivor and hustler in his own way and has handled real life and its failures and successes brilliantly. |
Anonymous
| Neither of us have a 'one that got away'. Neither of us still even very much liked old BF or GF by the time all was said and done. We met at 25. We are in our 50s now. His HS GF has 4 different baby daddies and a mustache now. I haven't even kept track of any old BFs, and frankly none were really 'knock me off my feet/blow me away'. I only had that with my husband. |
Anonymous
| I think of her all the time. I think I partially married my wife to get back at her or get revenge. Also the wife was just "easier" and would do anything to make me happy. One that got away was much pricklier and more demanding. But I still think of her on a daily basis. |