who pays for dinner, and how do you decide?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is your Dad? Watch his cognitive decline. Finances is the first indicator of dementia type problems, but often unnoticed by family.

But more likely it was Father’s Day weekend!!!!! Family came in for Father’s Day! And it was an expensive restaurant because of the vegan.

How much could his meal have been really?!? This is between the kids not the Dad.

It's nothing to do with "cognitive decline" when a father doesn't quick-reach for his credit card on Father's Day weekend, especially after suffering through a freaking vegan meal for his precious special vegan daughter.

I mean, this right here. He probably thought he was doing something nice by suggesting a vegan restaurant even though that would never have been his first choice. And then he didn’t reach for his wallet because it was Father’s Day weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you poor? To guys are pissed about paying for Father's Day dinner? Seriously?

Seriously, WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you poor? To guys are pissed about paying for Father's Day dinner? Seriously?

Seriously, WTF.

Well, clearly they have financial concerns. Dad always pays - probably with an understanding that they are financially strapped and so they were taken aback. I kind of don’t get the big emphasis on sister and being a Vegan and practicing cooking for next year business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you poor? To guys are pissed about paying for Father's Day dinner? Seriously?

Seriously, WTF.

Hey, I'm poor and I budget for things like taking a parent out for their birthday, father's day, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you poor? To guys are pissed about paying for Father's Day dinner? Seriously?

Seriously, WTF.

Well, clearly they have financial concerns. Dad always pays - probably with an understanding that they are financially strapped and so they were taken aback. I kind of don’t get the big emphasis on sister and being a Vegan and practicing cooking for next year business.

If they were men they would be expected to pay. Maybe because they are women they feel it is unfair?

[Anonymous]

What kind of person makes their Father pay for meals when they're out? Especially, during Fathers day weekend? Grow up and stop being petty. If you can't afford to eat out, don't.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe you guys are even the slightest bit mad at your dad. Is your sister poor?

We have a seven figure income but I would think one day when my kids are adults, the one day or weekend they would treat us would be Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. Of course if my kids were still in school I would not expect them to pay but If they were working, come on, they should be able to take out their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is your Dad? Watch his cognitive decline. Finances is the first indicator of dementia type problems, but often unnoticed by family.

But more likely it was Father’s Day weekend!!!!! Family came in for Father’s Day! And it was an expensive restaurant because of the vegan.

How much could his meal have been really?!? This is between the kids not the Dad.

It's nothing to do with "cognitive decline" when a father doesn't quick-reach for his credit card on Father's Day weekend, especially after suffering through a freaking vegan meal for his precious special vegan daughter.

And people try (and usually fail ) to claim that vegans are the obnoxious, judgemental ones out there. Don't worry sweetie, no one's going to come take your precious bacon away.

[Anonymous]

Do research before your next visit and find some fun but less expensive places to suggest. If he suggests something else, look it up before going. If it is too expensive, tell him it’s out of your price range.

[Anonymous]

Wait, what? From what I understand, of the four kids, only 2 were in town for fathers day. The other two live on the west coast. So you and your sister took your dad out to dinner, and you both paid for 1.5 persons for dinner and are freaking out? Or maybe you each had a spouse and kid, so you each paid for your respective family plus one additional person (i.e. your sister paid for dad and you paid for mom)?

So paying for one additional person beyond your nuclear family is what you're each freaking out about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you poor? To guys are pissed about paying for Father's Day dinner? Seriously?

Seriously, WTF.

Hey, I'm poor and I budget for things like taking a parent out for their birthday, father's day, etc.

Then look at the menu of the proposed restaurant, and say you can’t afford to pay for it. Or just say you can’t go out on Saturday at all. Budgeting is fine, but you have to actually do it. You can’t just go along and then all of a sudden cheap out. You have to plan and be realistic and speak up when needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you poor? To guys are pissed about paying for Father's Day dinner? Seriously?

Your reading comprehension is laughably poor. Please try again, paying special attention to the words “Saturday,” “Sunday” and “extra.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys are nuts. You went to visit your father on Father's Day weekend. He should not pay for anything. He was trying to do something nice by finding a WHOLE restaurant your sister could eat at - not just one item on a menu. Suck. It. Up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is your Dad? Watch his cognitive decline. Finances is the first indicator of dementia type problems, but often unnoticed by family.

But more likely it was Father’s Day weekend!!!!! Family came in for Father’s Day! And it was an expensive restaurant because of the vegan.

How much could his meal have been really?!? This is between the kids not the Dad.

It's nothing to do with "cognitive decline" when a father doesn't quick-reach for his credit card on Father's Day weekend, especially after suffering through a freaking vegan meal for his precious special vegan daughter.

I mean, this right here. He probably thought he was doing something nice by suggesting a vegan restaurant even though that would never have been his first choice. And then he didn’t reach for his wallet because it was Father’s Day weekend.

“Father’s Day weekend” is not a thing. Father’s Day is Sunday. You sound like one of those ridiculous adult who insist on celebrating an entire “birthday week.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is your Dad? Watch his cognitive decline. Finances is the first indicator of dementia type problems, but often unnoticed by family.

But more likely it was Father’s Day weekend!!!!! Family came in for Father’s Day! And it was an expensive restaurant because of the vegan.

How much could his meal have been really?!? This is between the kids not the Dad.

It's nothing to do with "cognitive decline" when a father doesn't quick-reach for his credit card on Father's Day weekend, especially after suffering through a freaking vegan meal for his precious special vegan daughter.

I mean, this right here. He probably thought he was doing something nice by suggesting a vegan restaurant even though that would never have been his first choice. And then he didn’t reach for his wallet because it was Father’s Day weekend.

“Father’s Day weekend” is not a thing. Father’s Day is Sunday. You sound like one of those ridiculous adult who insist on celebrating an entire “birthday week.”

They were coming into town to celebrate Father’s Day. As you can clearly see from this thread, apparently most people think that adult sons and daughters should be prepared to pay for their father during that weekend for that occasion. And then there’s defensive, cheap people like you. If you can’t afford it, look up the menu and open your mouth: “I can’t afford to pay for dinner at this place and for dinner tomorrow night—can we pick up pizza tonight?”