I would like to hear from professionals about screen use

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM would testing at the 99th percentile be considered “favorable but not outstanding.”

You people are disturbed.

You aren’t comprehending what the two PPs have written.

Too much TV as a child?

In what possible way have I not comprehended it? They are trying to argue that my kid could have possibly tested above 99th percentile if she didn’t watch as much TV. Correct?

[Anonymous]

Never, ever ask DCUM about screen-time value or daycare, OP. No other opinions are accepted here. All TV and video games are good. All daycare is good.

Trust me, let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM would testing at the 99th percentile be considered “favorable but not outstanding.”

You people are disturbed.

You aren’t comprehending what the two PPs have written.

Too much TV as a child?

In what possible way have I not comprehended it? They are trying to argue that my kid could have possibly tested above 99th percentile if she didn’t watch as much TV. Correct?

No, go back and read it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM would testing at the 99th percentile be considered “favorable but not outstanding.”

You people are disturbed.

You aren’t comprehending what the two PPs have written.

Too much TV as a child?

In what possible way have I not comprehended it? They are trying to argue that my kid could have possibly tested above 99th percentile if she didn’t watch as much TV. Correct?

No, go back and read it again.

They wrote that my kid could have done better, if she didn’t have as much screen time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never, ever ask DCUM about screen-time value or daycare, OP. No other opinions are accepted here. All TV and video games are good. All daycare is good.

Trust me, let it go.

+1. Defensiveness. Let it go. Run from this thread and don’t come back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never, ever ask DCUM about screen-time value or daycare, OP. No other opinions are accepted here. All TV and video games are good. All daycare is good.

Trust me, let it go.

Hint: Larla doesn’t like never watching TV and going to her preschool that only serves tofu. She’s going to hate you forever for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

Better than getting in everywhere and testing 99th percentile?

Yes your kid can do better. Use that time to teach them something useful like how to cook. Too much screen time is bad no matter how smart your kid is. Smart doesn’t mean well rounded especially if they’re only 8 there’s so much still to learn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

Better than getting in everywhere and testing 99th percentile?

Yes your kid can do better. Use that time to teach them something useful like how to cook. Too much screen time is bad no matter how smart your kid is. Smart doesn’t mean well rounded especially if they’re only 8 there’s so much still to learn.

When did I say my kid was 8?

As it happens, we do all sorts of things: STEM kits, cooking, running around the playground, setting up elaborate birthday parties for her stuffed animals, etc.

Today she spent 4 hours at a birthday party at a local park, running around and playing. She spent another easily 3 hours on a different playground. Yes, she also watched TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

An hour and a half of screen time a day is a lot.

And it’s widely known that it’s best not to watch TV before school or before bed. Just look it up when you stop “lol”

Why do you keep saying “TV?” How old are you? Most kids’ screen time is not watching TV shows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

An hour and a half of screen time a day is a lot.

And it’s widely known that it’s best not to watch TV before school or before bed. Just look it up when you stop “lol”

Why do you keep saying “TV?” How old are you? Most kids’ screen time is not watching TV shows.

Many parents don’t let their kids use computers for screen time ever and limit it to occasional family movie night using a *gasp* TV. Not everyone parents like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

An hour and a half of screen time a day is a lot.

And it’s widely known that it’s best not to watch TV before school or before bed. Just look it up when you stop “lol”

Why do you keep saying “TV?” How old are you? Most kids’ screen time is not watching TV shows.

Wow, you really do have no ability to see beyond your own experience. It’s amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm … let’s see.

I watched a ton of TV. So did DH.

We have 3 MA’s between us. We make a combined $450K. We both graduated with honors from top 20 research universities.

Oh, and my sister is a professor at an R1 research university, despite also watching a ton of TV.

Are you people really trying to argue that if we had watched less TV, we would be more successful?

Yes. Are you physically as healthy and coordinated as you could be? Are you as satisfied and emotionally happy and connected as you can be? Do you love books and discussing ideas as much as you could?

This justification of watching TV based on one criteria is ridiculous.

Yes to all of that. I feel 100% fulfilled in my life.

And yet here you are, tilting at windmills

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm … let’s see.

I watched a ton of TV. So did DH.

We have 3 MA’s between us. We make a combined $450K. We both graduated with honors from top 20 research universities.

Oh, and my sister is a professor at an R1 research university, despite also watching a ton of TV.

Are you people really trying to argue that if we had watched less TV, we would be more successful?

Yes. Are you physically as healthy and coordinated as you could be? Are you as satisfied and emotionally happy and connected as you can be? Do you love books and discussing ideas as much as you could?

This justification of watching TV based on one criteria is ridiculous.

Yes to all of that. I feel 100% fulfilled in my life.

And yet here you are, tilting at windmills

Yes I am! Doesn’t take away from anything. Deal.

[Anonymous]

Weird thread.

[Anonymous]

You want to hear from professionals about screen time so you posted to an anonymous message board where you have no way of verifying who anyone is?

Ok.