I would like to hear from professionals about screen use

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

An hour and a half of screen time a day is a lot.

And it’s widely known that it’s best not to watch TV before school or before bed. Just look it up when you stop “lol”

Yeah, you’re not going to convince me with your fearmongering. But enjoy feeling superior for no good reason!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

Better than getting in everywhere and testing 99th percentile?

[Anonymous]

All depends on the age of your child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

Better than getting in everywhere and testing 99th percentile?

Sure, perhaps a gifted school or testing off the charts. But I also meant better physically, socially, behaviorally, etc. You can’t prove a negative so you have no idea where she might be had she not had excess screen use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

Better than getting in everywhere and testing 99th percentile?

Sure, perhaps a gifted school or testing off the charts. But I also meant better physically, socially, behaviorally, etc. You can’t prove a negative so you have no idea where she might be had she not had excess screen use.

Exactly. And moreover, you don’t know my kid at all, so your assertion is really pretty nervy of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

Better than getting in everywhere and testing 99th percentile?

Sure, perhaps a gifted school or testing off the charts. But I also meant better physically, socially, behaviorally, etc. You can’t prove a negative so you have no idea where she might be had she not had excess screen use.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Hmm … let’s see.

I watched a ton of TV. So did DH.

We have 3 MA’s between us. We make a combined $450K. We both graduated with honors from top 20 research universities.

Oh, and my sister is a professor at an R1 research university, despite also watching a ton of TV.

Are you people really trying to argue that if we had watched less TV, we would be more successful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

Better than getting in everywhere and testing 99th percentile?

Sure, perhaps a gifted school or testing off the charts. But I also meant better physically, socially, behaviorally, etc. You can’t prove a negative so you have no idea where she might be had she not had excess screen use.

Exactly. And moreover, you don’t know my kid at all, so your assertion is really pretty nervy of you.

No, she’s right actually. You’re justifying x by a favorable but not outstanding outcome. And further, you’re asserting that all kids should have excessive screen time like your daughter even though you don’t know their kids at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professionals meaning child psychologists, child development experts, pediatricians, teachers. Not just fellow parent-quacks like me.

I am quite strict about screen use for my 5yo. 20-30 min after each meal and that’s it, other than FaceTime. As she gets older I’ll probably relax enough to allow a movie or two each weekend in the company of family or friends.

I also rarely use my phone in front of her, and when I do I explain what I’m doing (ordering dinner, texting her dad a grocery list).

DH goes along with this but also thinks I’m slightly cuckoo since just about everyone else we know is fairly laissez faire (other than two close friends who do similarly). Everyone else pays lip service (I wish he would stop playing so many video games!) but they’ve thrown up their hands.

At what point should I loosen the apron strings? I just want DD to live a full life, and I feel that the addictiveness of screens takes away from that life. I do practice what I preach and don’t use my phone excessively.

After each meal, so 1.5 hr a day? That’s not super strict

That’s actually a lot of screen time OP. You should not allow screen use before school, btw.

Not OP, but lol ok.

My 5 year old gets a lot of screen time, but does a ton of other things as well (full-time preschool, ballet, soccer, swimming, lots of playdates, etc.). She got into every private school we applied to for K and tested in the 99th percentile.

But sure — screen time before school is so awful.

DP here. Think how much better your child could have done without all the screentime.

Better than getting in everywhere and testing 99th percentile?

Sure, perhaps a gifted school or testing off the charts. But I also meant better physically, socially, behaviorally, etc. You can’t prove a negative so you have no idea where she might be had she not had excess screen use.

Exactly. And moreover, you don’t know my kid at all, so your assertion is really pretty nervy of you.

No, she’s right actually. You’re justifying x by a favorable but not outstanding outcome. And further, you’re asserting that all kids should have excessive screen time like your daughter even though you don’t know their kids at all.

Did I ever say they should have excess screen time? No. I said I don’t think it’s damaging my kid at all.

[Anonymous]

Only on DCUM would testing at the 99th percentile be considered “favorable but not outstanding.”

You people are disturbed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm … let’s see.

I watched a ton of TV. So did DH.

We have 3 MA’s between us. We make a combined $450K. We both graduated with honors from top 20 research universities.

Oh, and my sister is a professor at an R1 research university, despite also watching a ton of TV.

Are you people really trying to argue that if we had watched less TV, we would be more successful?

Yes. Are you physically as healthy and coordinated as you could be? Are you as satisfied and emotionally happy and connected as you can be? Do you love books and discussing ideas as much as you could?

This justification of watching TV based on one criteria is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm … let’s see.

I watched a ton of TV. So did DH.

We have 3 MA’s between us. We make a combined $450K. We both graduated with honors from top 20 research universities.

Oh, and my sister is a professor at an R1 research university, despite also watching a ton of TV.

Are you people really trying to argue that if we had watched less TV, we would be more successful?

Yes. Are you physically as healthy and coordinated as you could be? Are you as satisfied and emotionally happy and connected as you can be? Do you love books and discussing ideas as much as you could?

This justification of watching TV based on one criteria is ridiculous.

Yes to all of that. I feel 100% fulfilled in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM would testing at the 99th percentile be considered “favorable but not outstanding.”

You people are disturbed.

You aren’t comprehending what the two PPs have written.

Too much TV as a child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm … let’s see.

I watched a ton of TV. So did DH.

We have 3 MA’s between us. We make a combined $450K. We both graduated with honors from top 20 research universities.

Oh, and my sister is a professor at an R1 research university, despite also watching a ton of TV.

Are you people really trying to argue that if we had watched less TV, we would be more successful?

Yes. Are you physically as healthy and coordinated as you could be? Are you as satisfied and emotionally happy and connected as you can be? Do you love books and discussing ideas as much as you could?

This justification of watching TV based on one criteria is ridiculous.

Yes to all of that. I feel 100% fulfilled in my life.