Frat sweetheart

[Anonymous]

No offense to those who did this in the past, but nowadays I would be so disappointed if my daughter chose to do this.

If you like hanging out at a certain frat then do that but why get a cringey title?

[Anonymous]

My VA sorority had two Big Brothers: one was a LT BF of one of the sisters and the other guy just a regular at our parties. Both from different fraternities.

They attended lots of our events but we got into trouble with our Natl HQ when it was discovered that sometimes they’d come to our chapter mtgs. These guys also appeared on our composite photo and were painted as Big Brothers.

Our natl org made it clear that we were not to have Big Bros - especially since our charter stated that our organization was only for women. This was in the early 90s.

My older and wiser, real older brother cautioned me when I was going away to college to NEVER become a “little sister” and to do so would be dangerous - he knew all about horrific predatory behavior of fraternity brothers and the terrible way the little sisters were treated and abused.

Yes, you were a pass around and/or a party girl who’d get high and drunk with the brothers and/or just a groupie. Sigma Phi Epsilon had Golden Hearts and they were derisively called “Golden Boxes.”

Another fraternity called the little sisters something like Star Dusters (we called them Dust Busters). Sometimes, such an “honor” was a beauty contest, but often, not in the least.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, sororities have guys they pick to be their “sweet hearts” as well. Usually a long-term boyfriend, or good guy friend that was already hanging out with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They get “passed around.” A lot.

Yes. Essentially, this. There are unflattering names for them. The women who marry in know about it (years after the fact), not by choice - it leaks out. It's kind of sad.

It sounds like it is not the secret I thought it was, so maybe that will bring more awareness to this awful practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They get “passed around.” A lot.

Yes. Essentially, this. There are unflattering names for them. The women who marry in know about it (years after the fact), not by choice - it leaks out. It's kind of sad.

It sounds like it is not the secret I thought it was, so maybe that will bring more awareness to this awful practice.

There are unflattering names about the women who “mary in” and attend fraternity reunions too-perhaps this thread will bring more awareness to them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They get “passed around.” A lot.

Yes. Essentially, this. There are unflattering names for them. The women who marry in know about it (years after the fact), not by choice - it leaks out. It's kind of sad.

It sounds like it is not the secret I thought it was, so maybe that will bring more awareness to this awful practice.

There are unflattering names about the women who “mary in” and attend fraternity reunions too-perhaps this thread will bring more awareness to them!

I don't think the wives care, as they were not passed around. If it wasn't you, then don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is friends with a frat sweetheart. All of the candidates were long term girlfriends of one of the frat brothers. These girls are at every event, are friends with all the guys, and serve more of a motherly role in their frat experience than you are imagining.

If you are willing to call the frat boys mothaf***ers, then yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My VA sorority had two Big Brothers: one was a LT BF of one of the sisters and the other guy just a regular at our parties. Both from different fraternities.

They attended lots of our events but we got into trouble with our Natl HQ when it was discovered that sometimes they’d come to our chapter mtgs. These guys also appeared on our composite photo and were painted as Big Brothers.

Our natl org made it clear that we were not to have Big Bros - especially since our charter stated that our organization was only for women. This was in the early 90s.

My older and wiser, real older brother cautioned me when I was going away to college to NEVER become a “little sister” and to do so would be dangerous - he knew all about horrific predatory behavior of fraternity brothers and the terrible way the little sisters were treated and abused.

Yes, you were a pass around and/or a party girl who’d get high and drunk with the brothers and/or just a groupie. Sigma Phi Epsilon had Golden Hearts and they were derisively called “Golden Boxes.”

Another fraternity called the little sisters something like Star Dusters (we called them Dust Busters). Sometimes, such an “honor” was a beauty contest, but often, not in the least.

Why would anyone not required to go to a chapter meeting ever go to a chapter meeting??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My VA sorority had two Big Brothers: one was a LT BF of one of the sisters and the other guy just a regular at our parties. Both from different fraternities.

They attended lots of our events but we got into trouble with our Natl HQ when it was discovered that sometimes they’d come to our chapter mtgs. These guys also appeared on our composite photo and were painted as Big Brothers.

Our natl org made it clear that we were not to have Big Bros - especially since our charter stated that our organization was only for women. This was in the early 90s.

My older and wiser, real older brother cautioned me when I was going away to college to NEVER become a “little sister” and to do so would be dangerous - he knew all about horrific predatory behavior of fraternity brothers and the terrible way the little sisters were treated and abused.

Yes, you were a pass around and/or a party girl who’d get high and drunk with the brothers and/or just a groupie. Sigma Phi Epsilon had Golden Hearts and they were derisively called “Golden Boxes.”

Another fraternity called the little sisters something like Star Dusters (we called them Dust Busters). Sometimes, such an “honor” was a beauty contest, but often, not in the least.

Why would anyone not required to go to a chapter meeting ever go to a chapter meeting??

+1

I kind of shows that the girl's life IS the frat, which is sad.

[Anonymous]

Wow, sounds like it varies. My experience was, my sorority sister became sweetheart of a fraternity. Her boyfriend was in that fraternity. The brothers came to the sorority house and sang her a song. It was sweet. As far as I know, the title of sweetheart didn't convey any responsibilities or anything. The fraternity brothers held her in esteem, like they would have her back if she had any trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sounds like it varies. My experience was, my sorority sister became sweetheart of a fraternity. Her boyfriend was in that fraternity. The brothers came to the sorority house and sang her a song. It was sweet. As far as I know, the title of sweetheart didn't convey any responsibilities or anything. The fraternity brothers held her in esteem, like they would have her back if she had any trouble.

Yes, that is the "image".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is friends with a frat sweetheart. All of the candidates were long term girlfriends of one of the frat brothers. These girls are at every event, are friends with all the guys, and serve more of a motherly role in their frat experience than you are imagining.

OP here and this is what about what I was imagining. Baking cookies and bringing them food, helping plan their events, decorating. Things that an 18-22 year old should not be doing for men unless she’s getting paid to do it. Horrible.

What part about they’re literally friends with these guys, do you not understand? I wouldn’t want to do those things for a random group of guys if asked/expected, but those are exactly the things I enjoy doing for my friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sounds like it varies. My experience was, my sorority sister became sweetheart of a fraternity. Her boyfriend was in that fraternity. The brothers came to the sorority house and sang her a song. It was sweet. As far as I know, the title of sweetheart didn't convey any responsibilities or anything. The fraternity brothers held her in esteem, like they would have her back if she had any trouble.

Yes, that is the "image".

Just go ahead and admit you were never in greek life. The above is all it is. There is absolutely nothing sexual about a fraternity sweetheart, no matter how much you want to demonize it. It’s always one of the guys girlfriends and the girl is treated with genuine respect.

[Anonymous]

OP, is your DD dating one of them?

[Anonymous]

To the twisted armchair troll that is posting repeatedly on this thread who is trying to make this sound like something it’s not, go back to your nasty fantasy novels, because that’s the only place that a “frat sweetheart” is what you seem to think.