So annoyed the cheaters are not getting consequences

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anything can really give you equanimity after your husband runs off with his ten years younger student and is now introducing your kids to her, your kids who don’t yet know that she was the AP or that the divorce was because of infidelity. She’s 42 and they were together for like 15 years. The OW is 30. He is a seriously immature person and I don’t see a grown up in their relationship, but it won’t matter bc he is independently wealthy. She will have kids, my friends kids will have half siblings, it just sucks to lose creative control of your family.

You never have as much control over your family as you think She does however have 100% control over her attitude. Sure it was shitty but she can move forward and have an awesome lif if she so chooses.

She can have a great life but the kids are gonna be f’d up.

That's their choice to be effed up. My dad cheated and split up the family and I'm no more effed up than my friends who have parents who remained happily married for years and less effed up than the kids whose parents stayed together or were miserable or who split and spent the years post-divorce battling each other. A large part of how messed up they will be is how the adults in their life act their mom being miserable and her bestie telling them that they have no choice but to be effed up isn't going to work in their favor.

I doubt you are not f’d up. F’d people always compare thrr we mark each to their most f’d up friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will be blunt from a place of love

Other than the betrayed spouses, no one cares.

My subordinate cheated and left his wife, it's not a good look but he is a great producer so it's really not my concern

Or put it this way: the last president cheated on his wife. Who was a model. While she was pregnant. With a porn star.

And no one cares.

Tell your friend to live her best life. That is the best revenge.

I disagree nobody cares. Family doesn’t want her/him at family events, nobody wants to invite them to gatherings, we don’t want our kids sleeping at their house. I’m not your friend find people that don’t care but I’m not one of them.

There are people that care.

[Anonymous]

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Is it just a handful of posters who post incessantly about how cheaters are the worse? I don't get it. No one I know in real life harbors such seething resentment.

Yes, I have come to believe there is one open marriage poster on one extreme and one EVIL CHEATING on the other extreme they basically argue with each other. Perhaps they are ex spouses.

NP. That about sums it up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anything can really give you equanimity after your husband runs off with his ten years younger student and is now introducing your kids to her, your kids who don’t yet know that she was the AP or that the divorce was because of infidelity. She’s 42 and they were together for like 15 years. The OW is 30. He is a seriously immature person and I don’t see a grown up in their relationship, but it won’t matter bc he is independently wealthy. She will have kids, my friends kids will have half siblings, it just sucks to lose creative control of your family.

You never have as much control over your family as you think She does however have 100% control over her attitude. Sure it was shitty but she can move forward and have an awesome lif if she so chooses.

She can have a great life but the kids are gonna be f’d up.

That's their choice to be effed up. My dad cheated and split up the family and I'm no more effed up than my friends who have parents who remained happily married for years and less effed up than the kids whose parents stayed together or were miserable or who split and spent the years post-divorce battling each other. A large part of how messed up they will be is how the adults in their life act their mom being miserable and her bestie telling them that they have no choice but to be effed up isn't going to work in their favor.

I doubt you are not f’d up. F’d people always compare thrr we mark each to their most f’d up friends.

I'm not effed up sorry that disappoints you and your world view that cheaters are doomed to screw everyone up for all eternity and everyone related to them must live a life of misery.
let's talk about you, you must be pretty effed up to be so invested in your friend's personal life that you are upset her ex isn't receiving sufficient karma ( I mean you've posted 2 threads on this alreayd pretty freaking obsessive), it's also telling that you seem to want the kids and your friends to be effed up, you want me, someone, you don't know to be effed up. That makes you a pretty effed-up and toxic person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ But obviously lots of emotionally healthy people disagree with you and do care. I’m one. Never been cheated on but I think cheaters have a massive character defect that likely manifests itself in other areas of their life.

I think cheaters have bad character. They are liars. And, most of all, I just find them absolutely pathetic. Selfish, immature and entitled. Zero integrity.

Betrayal is a really bad flaw.

It’s one of the big sins. Adultery.

It's number 7 out of 10, Not as bad as saying the lord's name in vain, but worse than stealing.

The 10 Commandments List, Short Form
You shall have no other gods before Me.
You shall not make idols.
You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.
Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.
Honor your father and your mother.
You shall not murder.
You shall not commit adultery.
You shall not steal.
You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
You shall not covet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will be blunt from a place of love

Other than the betrayed spouses, no one cares.

My subordinate cheated and left his wife, it's not a good look but he is a great producer so it's really not my concern

Or put it this way: the last president cheated on his wife. Who was a model. While she was pregnant. With a porn star.

And no one cares.

Tell your friend to live her best life. That is the best revenge.

I disagree nobody cares. Family doesn’t want her/him at family events, nobody wants to invite them to gatherings, we don’t want our kids sleeping at their house. I’m not your friend find people that don’t care but I’m not one of them.

There are people that care.

Yes we know you're the brave soul who told your brother not to bring his girlfriend to Thanksgving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get that your friend is devastated, hurt, betrayed and she is watching him run off to be happy while she is alone however she isn't helping herself by becoming bitter.

I read a great saying ages ago, that was something similar to 'bitterness, resentment or anger is like drinking poison but expecting the other person to get sick'.

At some stage your friend needs to help herself otherwise she will drown in her bitterness. She needs to focus on herself and turn away from them and what is happening in their lives. Its hard but she needs to.

Perhaps when she is ready if she stops looking at them and really looks at her marriage she may look back and see it wasn't what she thought it was. Then perhaps she can look at her ex and see who he really is. It will eventually hopefully look really unappealing to her.

I love this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anything can really give you equanimity after your husband runs off with his ten years younger student and is now introducing your kids to her, your kids who don’t yet know that she was the AP or that the divorce was because of infidelity. She’s 42 and they were together for like 15 years. The OW is 30. He is a seriously immature person and I don’t see a grown up in their relationship, but it won’t matter bc he is independently wealthy. She will have kids, my friends kids will have half siblings, it just sucks to lose creative control of your family.

You never have as much control over your family as you think She does however have 100% control over her attitude. Sure it was shitty but she can move forward and have an awesome lif if she so chooses.

She can have a great life but the kids are gonna be f’d up.

That's their choice to be effed up. My dad cheated and split up the family and I'm no more effed up than my friends who have parents who remained happily married for years and less effed up than the kids whose parents stayed together or were miserable or who split and spent the years post-divorce battling each other. A large part of how messed up they will be is how the adults in their life act their mom being miserable and her bestie telling them that they have no choice but to be effed up isn't going to work in their favor.

I doubt you are not f’d up. F’d people always compare thrr we mark each to their most f’d up friends.

Well, at least that doesn't read as drunk-posting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anything can really give you equanimity after your husband runs off with his ten years younger student and is now introducing your kids to her, your kids who don’t yet know that she was the AP or that the divorce was because of infidelity. She’s 42 and they were together for like 15 years. The OW is 30. He is a seriously immature person and I don’t see a grown up in their relationship, but it won’t matter bc he is independently wealthy. She will have kids, my friends kids will have half siblings, it just sucks to lose creative control of your family.

Maybe this is why the marriage didn’t work. She felt the need to control the entire family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anything can really give you equanimity after your husband runs off with his ten years younger student and is now introducing your kids to her, your kids who don’t yet know that she was the AP or that the divorce was because of infidelity. She’s 42 and they were together for like 15 years. The OW is 30. He is a seriously immature person and I don’t see a grown up in their relationship, but it won’t matter bc he is independently wealthy. She will have kids, my friends kids will have half siblings, it just sucks to lose creative control of your family.

You never have as much control over your family as you think She does however have 100% control over her attitude. Sure it was shitty but she can move forward and have an awesome lif if she so chooses.

She can have a great life but the kids are gonna be f’d up.

That's their choice to be effed up. My dad cheated and split up the family and I'm no more effed up than my friends who have parents who remained happily married for years and less effed up than the kids whose parents stayed together or were miserable or who split and spent the years post-divorce battling each other. A large part of how messed up they will be is how the adults in their life act their mom being miserable and her bestie telling them that they have no choice but to be effed up isn't going to work in their favor.

This.

[Anonymous]

I disagree nobody cares. Family doesn’t want her/him at family events, nobody wants to invite them to gatherings, we don’t want our kids sleeping at their house. I’m not your friend find people that don’t care but I’m not one of them.

There are people that care.


Yes we know you're the brave soul who told your brother not to bring his girlfriend to Thanksgving.

NP. I care, too. I have no desire to hang around people I don’t respect. You must hate that your narrative just doesn’t hold. Lots of people judge cheaters, even if they don’t do it to the cheater’s face.

[Anonymous]

The people closest to the situation care of the mouse. But by the time you get to coworkers, it really isn’t that big of a deal.
My boss cheated on his wife. His AP, now fiancé, works in a different department, but stops by the time to his office. I think it’s gross. I don’t particularly like my boss. But I still have to work for him.
Honestly, his affair has nothing to do with me or my work. It’s nothing I sit around and ponder. But when I do see her sitting in his office, I am like “ewwwww”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ But obviously lots of emotionally healthy people disagree with you and do care. I’m one. Never been cheated on but I think cheaters have a massive character defect that likely manifests itself in other areas of their life.

+1. I recently found out that a friend of mine who split with another friend of mine. I’ve never thought she was a great person and the cheating just confirmed it. We are friends mostly because I care about her kid and wanted to stay connected after the divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anything can really give you equanimity after your husband runs off with his ten years younger student and is now introducing your kids to her, your kids who don’t yet know that she was the AP or that the divorce was because of infidelity. She’s 42 and they were together for like 15 years. The OW is 30. He is a seriously immature person and I don’t see a grown up in their relationship, but it won’t matter bc he is independently wealthy. She will have kids, my friends kids will have half siblings, it just sucks to lose creative control of your family.

You never have as much control over your family as you think She does however have 100% control over her attitude. Sure it was shitty but she can move forward and have an awesome lif if she so chooses.

She can have a great life but the kids are gonna be f’d up.

That's their choice to be effed up. My dad cheated and split up the family and I'm no more effed up than my friends who have parents who remained happily married for years and less effed up than the kids whose parents stayed together or were miserable or who split and spent the years post-divorce battling each other. A large part of how messed up they will be is how the adults in their life act their mom being miserable and her bestie telling them that they have no choice but to be effed up isn't going to work in their favor.

I doubt you are not f’d up. F’d people always compare thrr we mark each to their most f’d up friends.

I'm not effed up sorry that disappoints you and your world view that cheaters are doomed to screw everyone up for all eternity and everyone related to them must live a life of misery.
let's talk about you, you must be pretty effed up to be so invested in your friend's personal life that you are upset her ex isn't receiving sufficient karma ( I mean you've posted 2 threads on this alreayd pretty freaking obsessive), it's also telling that you seem to want the kids and your friends to be effed up, you want me, someone, you don't know to be effed up. That makes you a pretty effed-up and toxic person.

lol this is my one and only thread on this and you have issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:^ But obviously lots of emotionally healthy people disagree with you and do care. I’m one. Never been cheated on but I think cheaters have a massive character defect that likely manifests itself in other areas of their life.

I think cheaters have bad character. They are liars. And, most of all, I just find them absolutely pathetic. Selfish, immature and entitled. Zero integrity.

Betrayal is a really bad flaw.

It’s one of the big sins. Adultery.

It's number 7 out of 10, Not as bad as saying the lord's name in vain, but worse than stealing.

The 10 Commandments List, Short Form
You shall have no other gods before Me.
You shall not make idols.
You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.
Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.
Honor your father and your mother.
You shall not murder.
You shall not commit adultery.
You shall not steal.
You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
You shall not covet.

If we’re going biblical then heck, it’s considered an unforgivable sin and an unrepentant adulterer goes to hell.