I think he’s cheating

[Anonymous]

I agree he's cheating. However, I'm that type that wants documentation. I still would get the proof so he can't ever say I made it up. I say hire a P.I. They will have the video, and photos. Or if you have a good friend.

Not to mention my curiosity. Is he going to prostitutes? One of my good friends use to do P.I. work. She followed a DH one day. His wife knew something was up, but there weren't any big time gaps. Around lunch hour she followed him to a strip club. He went in then came back out. She saw him take something out of his truck which was actually condoms, and went back inside. Apparently it was one of those places that also had sex in a back room. Oh and this guy was a lawyer. Poor wife was totally sickened and grossed out. Sad to think you married a decent person, only to find out otherwise.

OP do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree he's cheating. However, I'm that type that wants documentation. I still would get the proof so he can't ever say I made it up. I say hire a P.I. They will have the video, and photos. Or if you have a good friend.

Not to mention my curiosity. Is he going to prostitutes? One of my good friends use to do P.I. work. She followed a DH one day. His wife knew something was up, but there weren't any big time gaps. Around lunch hour she followed him to a strip club. He went in then came back out. She saw him take something out of his truck which was actually condoms, and went back inside. Apparently it was one of those places that also had sex in a back room. Oh and this guy was a lawyer. Poor wife was totally sickened and grossed out. Sad to think you married a decent person, only to find out otherwise.

OP do you have kids?

That is when my ex would bang a married SAHM. Her house was free since husband at work, kids are school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree he's cheating. However, I'm that type that wants documentation. I still would get the proof so he can't ever say I made it up. I say hire a P.I. They will have the video, and photos. Or if you have a good friend.

Not to mention my curiosity. Is he going to prostitutes? One of my good friends use to do P.I. work. She followed a DH one day. His wife knew something was up, but there weren't any big time gaps. Around lunch hour she followed him to a strip club. He went in then came back out. She saw him take something out of his truck which was actually condoms, and went back inside. Apparently it was one of those places that also had sex in a back room. Oh and this guy was a lawyer. Poor wife was totally sickened and grossed out. Sad to think you married a decent person, only to find out otherwise.

OP do you have kids?

Honestly if there is a sexual problem at home then cheap easy well-protected sex with a professional where there is no emotional tie is the best you can hope for in terms of infidelity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree he's cheating. However, I'm that type that wants documentation. I still would get the proof so he can't ever say I made it up. I say hire a P.I. They will have the video, and photos. Or if you have a good friend.

Not to mention my curiosity. Is he going to prostitutes? One of my good friends use to do P.I. work. She followed a DH one day. His wife knew something was up, but there weren't any big time gaps. Around lunch hour she followed him to a strip club. He went in then came back out. She saw him take something out of his truck which was actually condoms, and went back inside. Apparently it was one of those places that also had sex in a back room. Oh and this guy was a lawyer. Poor wife was totally sickened and grossed out. Sad to think you married a decent person, only to find out otherwise.

OP do you have kids?

Honestly if there is a sexual problem at home then cheap easy well-protected sex with a professional where there is no emotional tie is the best you can hope for in terms of infidelity.

Yeah. Most of the time they are still having sex with the wife. And a sex worker in the back of a seedy strip club that is doing many men for $ is high risk. Condoms or not. High volume of skeeves daily in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree he's cheating. However, I'm that type that wants documentation. I still would get the proof so he can't ever say I made it up. I say hire a P.I. They will have the video, and photos. Or if you have a good friend.

Not to mention my curiosity. Is he going to prostitutes? One of my good friends use to do P.I. work. She followed a DH one day. His wife knew something was up, but there weren't any big time gaps. Around lunch hour she followed him to a strip club. He went in then came back out. She saw him take something out of his truck which was actually condoms, and went back inside. Apparently it was one of those places that also had sex in a back room. Oh and this guy was a lawyer. Poor wife was totally sickened and grossed out. Sad to think you married a decent person, only to find out otherwise.

OP do you have kids?

Honestly if there is a sexual problem at home then cheap easy well-protected sex with a professional where there is no emotional tie is the best you can hope for in terms of infidelity.

Yeah. Most of the time they are still having sex with the wife. And a sex worker in the back of a seedy strip club that is doing many men for $ is high risk. Condoms or not. High volume of skeeves daily in there.

For the right amount of $ u can go bare back.

[Anonymous]

Completely gross, and huge herpes risk, but apparently the guy referred to here was using condoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree he's cheating. However, I'm that type that wants documentation. I still would get the proof so he can't ever say I made it up. I say hire a P.I. They will have the video, and photos. Or if you have a good friend.

Not to mention my curiosity. Is he going to prostitutes? One of my good friends use to do P.I. work. She followed a DH one day. His wife knew something was up, but there weren't any big time gaps. Around lunch hour she followed him to a strip club. He went in then came back out. She saw him take something out of his truck which was actually condoms, and went back inside. Apparently it was one of those places that also had sex in a back room. Oh and this guy was a lawyer. Poor wife was totally sickened and grossed out. Sad to think you married a decent person, only to find out otherwise.

OP do you have kids?

Honestly if there is a sexual problem at home then cheap easy well-protected sex with a professional where there is no emotional tie is the best you can hope for in terms of infidelity.

Yeah. Most of the time they are still having sex with the wife. And a sex worker in the back of a seedy strip club that is doing many men for $ is high risk. Condoms or not. High volume of skeeves daily in there.

OP here;
He works very near a sleazy strip club. OMG.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree he's cheating. However, I'm that type that wants documentation. I still would get the proof so he can't ever say I made it up. I say hire a P.I. They will have the video, and photos. Or if you have a good friend.

Not to mention my curiosity. Is he going to prostitutes? One of my good friends use to do P.I. work. She followed a DH one day. His wife knew something was up, but there weren't any big time gaps. Around lunch hour she followed him to a strip club. He went in then came back out. She saw him take something out of his truck which was actually condoms, and went back inside. Apparently it was one of those places that also had sex in a back room. Oh and this guy was a lawyer. Poor wife was totally sickened and grossed out. Sad to think you married a decent person, only to find out otherwise.

OP do you have kids?

That is when my ex would bang a married SAHM. Her house was free since husband at work, kids are school.

Not to derail, but how did you find out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Completely gross, and huge herpes risk, but apparently the guy referred to here was using condoms.

Among other things. Christ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree he's cheating. However, I'm that type that wants documentation. I still would get the proof so he can't ever say I made it up. I say hire a P.I. They will have the video, and photos. Or if you have a good friend.

Not to mention my curiosity. Is he going to prostitutes? One of my good friends use to do P.I. work. She followed a DH one day. His wife knew something was up, but there weren't any big time gaps. Around lunch hour she followed him to a strip club. He went in then came back out. She saw him take something out of his truck which was actually condoms, and went back inside. Apparently it was one of those places that also had sex in a back room. Oh and this guy was a lawyer. Poor wife was totally sickened and grossed out. Sad to think you married a decent person, only to find out otherwise.

OP do you have kids?

Honestly if there is a sexual problem at home then cheap easy well-protected sex with a professional where there is no emotional tie is the best you can hope for in terms of infidelity.

Yeah. Most of the time they are still having sex with the wife. And a sex worker in the back of a seedy strip club that is doing many men for $ is high risk. Condoms or not. High volume of skeeves daily in there.

OP here;
He works very near a sleazy strip club. OMG.

Eh, I think most clubs don't have any sex going on in the back. The answer is probably simpler -- either hooking up with a woman or a man behind your back. Agree that he is probably cheating no. There is basically no other reasonable explanation. Can't believe he didn't throw them away.

Do you have any other signs? A plan?

[Anonymous]

Have to ask a) what you were doing going through the glove compartment in his truck and b) why do you think he is being so careless? I mean if the man left a cock rink and viagra lying around your house he wants to be caught, what is that about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were all jumping the gun, there are perfectly reasonable explanations for this.

I also keep condoms in my work truck, it’s not for an extramarital affair, I sometimes use them to protect my tools ⚒️ f I m working in a wet area, I also use mail order knock off Viagra as an additive to drywall compound to help it set up faster.

Of course, everyone on DCUM thinks the worst of contractors.
You are all condemning this man when really all we have here is someone who cares about their tools and their work.

Good communication is the key to a good contracting relationship. Too many contractors are not taking into account the voice of the homeowner and installing what they have on hand or want to install. This guy needs to listen to his customer, not just install what he wants — be it a tryst in a Target parking lot, a longterm affair, or other — when it’s unclear if that’s what the customer wants and needs.

I think we all agree that construction is a series of compromises, if the customer is willing to be pleased there are no lengths to which your contractor should not go to please you. Sometimes all it takes is a two hour and one minute long phone call to get lots of stuff cleared up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were all jumping the gun, there are perfectly reasonable explanations for this.

I also keep condoms in my work truck, it’s not for an extramarital affair, I sometimes use them to protect my tools ⚒️ f I m working in a wet area, I also use mail order knock off Viagra as an additive to drywall compound to help it set up faster.

Of course, everyone on DCUM thinks the worst of contractors.
You are all condemning this man when really all we have here is someone who cares about their tools and their work.

Good communication is the key to a good contracting relationship. Too many contractors are not taking into account the voice of the homeowner and installing what they have on hand or want to install. This guy needs to listen to his customer, not just install what he wants — be it a tryst in a Target parking lot, a longterm affair, or other — when it’s unclear if that’s what the customer wants and needs.

I think we all agree that construction is a series of compromises, if the customer is willing to be pleased there are no lengths to which your contractor should not go to please you. Sometimes all it takes is a two hour and one minute long phone call to get lots of stuff cleared up.

Communication is a process that involves two people, the rate at which it happens depends on both parties involved. In this kind of relationship there are several common pitfalls that can be avoided with experience.

1) Usually it’s the contractor who has to talk the customer out of their dreams and back into the space of what is possible in reality. Occasionally though it is the other way around; the contractor has a sense of limitless possibilities that inevitably have to be scaled back come time for actual construction. Perhaps the contractor is not sensitive to budget limitations or existing space constraints. In that case, certainly convene a meeting to avoid miscommunication.
2) Both parties have to listen to what the other party says they want. Otherwise there can be unpleasant surprises if your client wants tile but you heard slate or the contractor said all along they were intent on making a bathroom and you wanted a kitchen.
3) Be honest. If you say you want a tiled shower but deep down inside you want a huge bathtub there’s no way anyone can read your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's a cock ring. Bigger because it goes around all the equipment. Sounds like your husband is gay.

Straight men use cock rings if they have election issues. With viagra, sounds like he does.

Not this straight man!

Also, didn't we have a woman here a couple of years ago who was having sex with her contractor in either the truck cab or the truck bed? OP should use a black light to check the cab and bed of the truck for fluid stains.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were all jumping the gun, there are perfectly reasonable explanations for this.

I also keep condoms in my work truck, it’s not for an extramarital affair, I sometimes use them to protect my tools ⚒️ f I m working in a wet area, I also use mail order knock off Viagra as an additive to drywall compound to help it set up faster.

Of course, everyone on DCUM thinks the worst of contractors.
You are all condemning this man when really all we have here is someone who cares about their tools and their work.

Good communication is the key to a good contracting relationship. Too many contractors are not taking into account the voice of the homeowner and installing what they have on hand or want to install. This guy needs to listen to his customer, not just install what he wants — be it a tryst in a Target parking lot, a longterm affair, or other — when it’s unclear if that’s what the customer wants and needs.

I think we all agree that construction is a series of compromises, if the customer is willing to be pleased there are no lengths to which your contractor should not go to please you. Sometimes all it takes is a two hour and one minute long phone call to get lots of stuff cleared up.

Communication is a process that involves two people, the rate at which it happens depends on both parties involved. In this kind of relationship there are several common pitfalls that can be avoided with experience.

1) Usually it’s the contractor who has to talk the customer out of their dreams and back into the space of what is possible in reality. Occasionally though it is the other way around; the contractor has a sense of limitless possibilities that inevitably have to be scaled back come time for actual construction. Perhaps the contractor is not sensitive to budget limitations or existing space constraints. In that case, certainly convene a meeting to avoid miscommunication.
2) Both parties have to listen to what the other party says they want. Otherwise there can be unpleasant surprises if your client wants tile but you heard slate or the contractor said all along they were intent on making a bathroom and you wanted a kitchen.
3) Be honest. If you say you want a tiled shower but deep down inside you want a huge bathtub there’s no way anyone can read your mind.

What if your contractor has a style where they start on the project with a really broad idea with the flexibility to allow design changes at any point in construction? Design/build arrangements are a more collaborative process that usually result in the highest level of customer satisfaction.