I think he’s cheating

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You were all jumping the gun, there are perfectly reasonable explanations for this.

I also keep condoms in my work truck, it’s not for an extramarital affair, I sometimes use them to protect my tools ⚒️ f I m working in a wet area, I also use mail order knock off Viagra as an additive to drywall compound to help it set up faster.

Of course, everyone on DCUM thinks the worst of contractors.
You are all condemning this man when really all we have here is someone who cares about their tools and their work.

Good communication is the key to a good contracting relationship. Too many contractors are not taking into account the voice of the homeowner and installing what they have on hand or want to install. This guy needs to listen to his customer, not just install what he wants — be it a tryst in a Target parking lot, a longterm affair, or other — when it’s unclear if that’s what the customer wants and needs.

I think we all agree that construction is a series of compromises, if the customer is willing to be pleased there are no lengths to which your contractor should not go to please you. Sometimes all it takes is a two hour and one minute long phone call to get lots of stuff cleared up.

Communication is a process that involves two people, the rate at which it happens depends on both parties involved. In this kind of relationship there are several common pitfalls that can be avoided with experience.

1) Usually it’s the contractor who has to talk the customer out of their dreams and back into the space of what is possible in reality. Occasionally though it is the other way around; the contractor has a sense of limitless possibilities that inevitably have to be scaled back come time for actual construction. Perhaps the contractor is not sensitive to budget limitations or existing space constraints. In that case, certainly convene a meeting to avoid miscommunication.
2) Both parties have to listen to what the other party says they want. Otherwise there can be unpleasant surprises if your client wants tile but you heard slate or the contractor said all along they were intent on making a bathroom and you wanted a kitchen.
3) Be honest. If you say you want a tiled shower but deep down inside you want a huge bathtub there’s no way anyone can read your mind.

What if your contractor has a style where they start on the project with a really broad idea with the flexibility to allow design changes at any point in construction? Design/build arrangements are a more collaborative process that usually result in the highest level of customer satisfaction.

Agreed. Flexibility is a very important trait when you are in a project because you never know what will come up. The problem is if the contractor has more of a life is a jazz solo style, where they decide to make changes unilaterally on their own timeline based on what they want to do, it’s really hard to make it collaborative and satisfying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were all jumping the gun, there are perfectly reasonable explanations for this.

I also keep condoms in my work truck, it’s not for an extramarital affair, I sometimes use them to protect my tools ⚒️ f I m working in a wet area, I also use mail order knock off Viagra as an additive to drywall compound to help it set up faster.

Of course, everyone on DCUM thinks the worst of contractors.
You are all condemning this man when really all we have here is someone who cares about their tools and their work.

Good communication is the key to a good contracting relationship. Too many contractors are not taking into account the voice of the homeowner and installing what they have on hand or want to install. This guy needs to listen to his customer, not just install what he wants — be it a tryst in a Target parking lot, a longterm affair, or other — when it’s unclear if that’s what the customer wants and needs.

I think we all agree that construction is a series of compromises, if the customer is willing to be pleased there are no lengths to which your contractor should not go to please you. Sometimes all it takes is a two hour and one minute long phone call to get lots of stuff cleared up.

Communication is a process that involves two people, the rate at which it happens depends on both parties involved. In this kind of relationship there are several common pitfalls that can be avoided with experience.

1) Usually it’s the contractor who has to talk the customer out of their dreams and back into the space of what is possible in reality. Occasionally though it is the other way around; the contractor has a sense of limitless possibilities that inevitably have to be scaled back come time for actual construction. Perhaps the contractor is not sensitive to budget limitations or existing space constraints. In that case, certainly convene a meeting to avoid miscommunication.
2) Both parties have to listen to what the other party says they want. Otherwise there can be unpleasant surprises if your client wants tile but you heard slate or the contractor said all along they were intent on making a bathroom and you wanted a kitchen.
3) Be honest. If you say you want a tiled shower but deep down inside you want a huge bathtub there’s no way anyone can read your mind.

What if your contractor has a style where they start on the project with a really broad idea with the flexibility to allow design changes at any point in construction? Design/build arrangements are a more collaborative process that usually result in the highest level of customer satisfaction.

Agreed. Flexibility is a very important trait when you are in a project because you never know what will come up. The problem is if the contractor has more of a life is a jazz solo style, where they decide to make changes unilaterally on their own timeline based on what they want to do, it’s really hard to make it collaborative and satisfying.

I am positive your contractor is fully committed to your satisfaction, will listen carefully to you during all project meetings, and will make sure that this is a balanced and collaborative process.

Your contractor even used an Oxford comma, I mean come on, that just screams attention to detail.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]I found condoms in my husbands work truck while looking for a house key, I was surprised. They were Trojan her pleasure. Hes only had the truck for 4 months, it was brand new when he got it. We haven’t used condoms in 10 years, we’ve never had sex in a vehicle. I didn’t say anything about it to him so I’d have time to gather more info. No one else uses this truck. In the house I’ve also found mail order viagra I didn’t know about. And a large aluminum ring. It seems to be too big to be a penis ring. What else could it be? The diameter is almost the width of two quarters. It’s very smooth. I want to figure out what the ring is before I talk to him so I won’t be gaslighted. [/quote]

Cock ring?

It’s prostitution, does not need to be strip club, etc.. a massage parlor will do the trick, and not hard to find. Cock ring may be part of some low level BDSM, if you want to find out, put tracker on truck. Outside chance he is gay.

[Anonymous]

OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?

Guy here. Seems unbelievable, but not entirely impossible. I mean, where the heck is he self-fulfilling himself? In a parking lot somewhere? If I were using one or both of those things, I would actually be kind of excited to let my wife know all about it. The fact he didn't tell you is definitely odd. Yeah I would call BS on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?

Anything is possible but chances are good he’s lying to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?

Guy here. Seems unbelievable, but not entirely impossible. I mean, where the heck is he self-fulfilling himself? In a parking lot somewhere? If I were using one or both of those things, I would actually be kind of excited to let my wife know all about it. The fact he didn't tell you is definitely odd. Yeah I would call BS on this.

Op here

The whole story is I came home from a night away. The sheets are changed, there’s a v wrapper in the trash, the condoms are in the house (box open but all accounted for) and so is the wandering c ring. He claims condoms and v are for us and the ring for self fulfillment. Cat puked on the bed so he had to change the sheets just like the last time I was out of town.
I know it sounds ridiculous I’m even questioning his explanations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?

Guy here. Seems unbelievable, but not entirely impossible. I mean, where the heck is he self-fulfilling himself? In a parking lot somewhere? If I were using one or both of those things, I would actually be kind of excited to let my wife know all about it. The fact he didn't tell you is definitely odd. Yeah I would call BS on this.

Op here

The whole story is I came home from a night away. The sheets are changed, there’s a v wrapper in the trash, the condoms are in the house (box open but all accounted for) and so is the wandering c ring. He claims condoms and v are for us and the ring for self fulfillment. Cat puked on the bed so he had to change the sheets just like the last time I was out of town.
I know it sounds ridiculous I’m even questioning his explanations

OP. My goodness. Do you have a security camera because you sound like the type that needs to see it. Why would you need condoms? Because he is banging someone else?

[Anonymous]

Guy here, and I'm sorry, but this is b.s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?

Guy here. Seems unbelievable, but not entirely impossible. I mean, where the heck is he self-fulfilling himself? In a parking lot somewhere? If I were using one or both of those things, I would actually be kind of excited to let my wife know all about it. The fact he didn't tell you is definitely odd. Yeah I would call BS on this.

Op here

The whole story is I came home from a night away. The sheets are changed, there’s a v wrapper in the trash, the condoms are in the house (box open but all accounted for) and so is the wandering c ring. He claims condoms and v are for us and the ring for self fulfillment. Cat puked on the bed so he had to change the sheets just like the last time I was out of town.
I know it sounds ridiculous I’m even questioning his explanations

This sounds super super suspicious. I think buy some survellance equipment, put it on your bureau, start it up. And then go away and see if you get anything. or maybe you'll get to see your DH jerking off. Win win, right?

[Anonymous]

PS my DH always changes the sheets when I come back from being out of town - just so we can have clean sheets. So it could be legit. Does your cat puke a lot?

[Anonymous]

How can the condoms be for you ... if you don't use them ever?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PS my DH always changes the sheets when I come back from being out of town - just so we can have clean sheets. So it could be legit. Does your cat puke a lot?

No. Just no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?

Guy here. Seems unbelievable, but not entirely impossible. I mean, where the heck is he self-fulfilling himself? In a parking lot somewhere? If I were using one or both of those things, I would actually be kind of excited to let my wife know all about it. The fact he didn't tell you is definitely odd. Yeah I would call BS on this.

Op here

The whole story is I came home from a night away. The sheets are changed, there’s a v wrapper in the trash, the condoms are in the house (box open but all accounted for) and so is the wandering c ring. He claims condoms and v are for us and the ring for self fulfillment. Cat puked on the bed so he had to change the sheets just like the last time I was out of town.
I know it sounds ridiculous I’m even questioning his explanations

Okay, now the whole story is definitely unbelievable. No man self-fulfills wearing a condom. Just doesn't happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PS my DH always changes the sheets when I come back from being out of town - just so we can have clean sheets. So it could be legit. Does your cat puke a lot?

He very rarely changes the sheets, only when the cat messes them up and perhaps when he’s bopping someone else. I think that the last time the cat puked was when I was gone for a long weekend a month ago. If he’s puked since then, it since then it was one other time. The cat is 18 and has issues.