Indian Matchmaking on Netflix - anyone watching?

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Anonymous wrote:Someone else brought up how much of the exterior of Aparna's house was shown. It really was and I wondered about that and how it would play to the "average American."

Houston real estate is relatively cheap, so we are not talking about Arlington, VA. Her house really isn't that nice -- the house itself, the decor, or anything about it. At some point they show her clinking wine glasses with her "friends" (how do they tolerate her?) and the glasses look like she got them off of the Pier 1 clearance rack.

I wouldn't judge her for it EXCEPT that she holds herself out as having the highest of standards and nothing being good enough. She supposedly a successful attorney but she does not present that way at all, especially her home. She's been a successful lawyer for 10 years and has a home that needs a shabby chic makeover.

I agree her decor was cheap and tacky, but if you check out her Instagram, it's clear she spends a lot on travel.

She’s an in-house lawyer in Texas. Does she even break six figures? Either she is in a ton of debt between law school, house and travel, or her mom is bankrolling her lifestyle.

Which is just like a lot of ya’ll on this board!

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The documentary “A Suitable Girl” features three women in India in the process of getting married. It is a different perspective. And, one of the women is Sima Auntie’s daughter. It is from 2010.

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Anonymous wrote:Pradhyuman is not gay. Y’all are whack. Straight guys like clothing too, and it’s less taboo outside of American.

-a gay person.

Honest question. Do straight guys make clothes for their dolls?

This is beyond a ridiculous question, I hope you never have children.

Why is it ridiculous

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As a south Asian American I have found that in India and Pakistan and the middle east even, there are behaviors we (Americans) associate with being gay but are not . We can cynically see all these people as closeted or we can recognize that our perception of gender and sexuality is very limited.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pradhyuman is not gay. Y’all are whack. Straight guys like clothing too, and it’s less taboo outside of American.

-a gay person.

Honest question. Do straight guys make clothes for their dolls?

This is beyond a ridiculous question, I hope you never have children.

Why is it ridiculous

First of all, because they are not gods. They are deities. That may not be your belief system but it is very belittling to refer to them that way.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pradhyuman is not gay. Y’all are whack. Straight guys like clothing too, and it’s less taboo outside of American.

-a gay person.

Honest question. Do straight guys make clothes for their dolls?

This is beyond a ridiculous question, I hope you never have children.

Why is it ridiculous

First of all, because they are not gods. They are deities. That may not be your belief system but it is very belittling to refer to them that way.

Hit send too quickly. Second of all, there are male fashion designers who are straight. Interest in fashion does not mean a person is gay.

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Aparna is doing cameos now - she has a good sense of humor about things! I think yes she comes off as rather upright, but I think she also has kind of a dry, sarcastic sense of bitchy humor.

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Anonymous wrote:I was just hoping to learn how so many indian women get their hair so shiny.

I work closely with two American Indian women and they both have super shiny hair without it looking oily.

I have a jew fro that NEVER looks shiny.

YES. THIS. Who has the answer?

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Anonymous wrote:I was just hoping to learn how so many indian women get their hair so shiny.

I work closely with two American Indian women and they both have super shiny hair without it looking oily.

I have a jew fro that NEVER looks shiny.

YES. THIS. Who has the answer?

Coconut oil.

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Anonymous wrote:I was just hoping to learn how so many indian women get their hair so shiny.

I work closely with two American Indian women and they both have super shiny hair without it looking oily.

I have a jew fro that NEVER looks shiny.

YES. THIS. Who has the answer?

Coconut oil.

Maybe some. But my indian twin sisters have naturally straight hair that is ridiculously shiny when blow dried.

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^^I should add, I'm pretty sure that shiny hair is just genetics. Which is why indian hair is #1 for weave!

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Anonymous wrote:As a south Asian American I have found that in India and Pakistan and the middle east even, there are behaviors we (Americans) associate with being gay but are not . We can cynically see all these people as closeted or we can recognize that our perception of gender and sexuality is very limited.

I think you’re partially right. But not entirely.

It could also be that gay men exist in India just as they do here...and it is not socially acceptable to be gay, so they date & get married instead.

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Anonymous wrote:As a south Asian American I have found that in India and Pakistan and the middle east even, there are behaviors we (Americans) associate with being gay but are not . We can cynically see all these people as closeted or we can recognize that our perception of gender and sexuality is very limited.

I think you’re partially right. But not entirely.

It could also be that gay men exist in India just as they do here...and it is not socially acceptable to be gay, so they date & get married instead.

No, the pp is right. So many things would be viewed as gay here but are normal parts of society there. You are trying to project again.

For example, there is no weirdness about two straight, male friends walking while holding hands. It happens all the time. It's a sign of friendship. There would be no weirdness about a male wearing 'eyeliner', aka kajal. There would be no weirdness about a man wearing a dhoti, which is basically a sarong. It is common, traditional clothing. Men learn traditional dance like Bharatnatyam, not weird. Being a tailor, weaver, embroidery, artist, are all professions that straight men are in and are not labeled as things that only mostly women do.

Now of course gay men exist in India just as they do here. And are you implying that it is socially acceptable here? Moreso than there, where things like 3rd gender have always been on official forms? Where it was never illegal until the British Penal code that implemented Christian morals into the rule of law. Of course, some men will not come out and marry a beard instead, just like here. And of course there is societal judgement, just like here. And there is a very strong movement there for LGBTQ rights, just like here. They face hardships there, just like here.

But no one getting legally thrown off of buildings for being gay.

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SPOILER ALERT.....How is it possible we are at 22 pages in and no one has complained about how the show ended without closure on how Risha reacted to Vaysar telling her about his dad going to jail for 10 years for hiring a hit man. They end an episode with him calling her and saying do you have a minute to talk after he had angst all day about how to tell her. Anyways - loved Vaysar - and hope he finds someone who makes him happy. I loved this entire show she much. So well done!

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Anonymous wrote:^^I should add, I'm pretty sure that shiny hair is just genetics. Which is why indian hair is #1 for weave!

I also believe that shiny hair is just genetic and not related to nationality. Straight hair tends to be very smooth and shiny. My family members tend to have extremely shiny hair and they are of Irish and English background.