My son brought a friend on vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL I wish I was exaggerating, then my vacation wouldn't have sucked! He really was THIS annoying, I'm sorry that's hard to believe. I haven't seen him since yesterday when we finally left so I'm pretty over it but it's hilarious how polarizing this thread was.

Lenny SUCKED. Period. Like I would have come to DCUM to make up stories while on an awesome vacation. I want to send him with all of you next year and see how you like it.

I believe that he behaved rudely.

I believe that you are more than twice his age, and behaved as badly as he did, based on what a raging ——- you reveal yourself to be in your responses.

Two wrongs don’t make a right, and two rude people make everyone else miserable.

[Anonymous]

The guest doesn’t sound great but I’d love to heat the friwnd’s half of the story. A lot of it sounds like the behavior of a typical 19 y.o. boy. They tell him to take some shells so he picks the ones he likes best. She should have taken the big ones for the girls if it’s such a big deal. AThe fact that OP immediately insulted DCUM when she didn’t get her desired response makes me think she’s awful in general. Maybe the 1st and 2nd rate friends didn’t want to deal with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL I wish I was exaggerating, then my vacation wouldn't have sucked! He really was THIS annoying, I'm sorry that's hard to believe. I haven't seen him since yesterday when we finally left so I'm pretty over it but it's hilarious how polarizing this thread was.

Lenny SUCKED. Period. Like I would have come to DCUM to make up stories while on an awesome vacation. I want to send him with all of you next year and see how you like it.

I believe that he behaved rudely.

I believe that you are more than twice his age, and behaved as badly as he did, based on what a raging ——- you reveal yourself to be in your responses.

Two wrongs don’t make a right, and two rude people make everyone else miserable.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am now laughing remembering when he walked into my room asking had I seen his red swimsuit because he evidently came into his room and thought I was gathering his laundry to do. Or the time we packed 7 leftover pieces of pieces for the 3 guys to eat at the beach and HE ATE THEM ALL lol. Y'all think I'm exaggerating and I didn't even mention half of it.

I do believe you OP, but why wouldn’t your own son say something to his friend? Like your son has such poor judgment in friends and wouldn’t even stick up for himself? Why wouldn’t he say Hey Joe, why’d you eat the pizza that was clearly meant for everyone? I’m just saying most of the issues are with your sons choices - choice of friends, choice of guest (couldn’t he consider not inviting this guy and going alone with his family??), and choice of response when friend didn’t understand this family’s culture/ behaviors.
So...don’t have him invite anyone you don’t already know well. He isn’t the best decision maker here.

I agree with you, but I've also seen cases where someone has a lot more expensive taste when someone else is paying. If the kid usually pays for his own stuff (the way kids do when they're together) then maybe OP's son had simply never seen this behavior before either and is as surprised as anyone.

Yes he most likely has not dated a lot of women yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL I wish I was exaggerating, then my vacation wouldn't have sucked! He really was THIS annoying, I'm sorry that's hard to believe. I haven't seen him since yesterday when we finally left so I'm pretty over it but it's hilarious how polarizing this thread was.

Lenny SUCKED. Period. Like I would have come to DCUM to make up stories while on an awesome vacation. I want to send him with all of you next year and see how you like it.

I believe that he behaved rudely.

I believe that you are more than twice his age, and behaved as badly as he did, based on what a raging ——- you reveal yourself to be in your responses.

Two wrongs don’t make a right, and two rude people make everyone else miserable.

+1

Nope. Don't see that. What I do see are a bunch of anonymous internet posters too quick to believe the worst of anyone based on other reasons turns them off. Perhaps the OP's affluence bothers you?

I've actually met boys like the one the OP described. I know they exist. I've spent time with them. I've been on vacation with clear freeloaders. The kid is obnoxious, self-centered, and a teen boy on top of it, and everything the OP described fits this model to a T.

[Anonymous]

I call bs. No 19 year old male wants sea shells. Not even a gay one. I just spent the week with a 19 yo male gay relative who didn’t give two shits about shells unless they were those Velveeta shells & cheese. And all of teens were like this kid, kinda self centered and absolute garbage disposals. More than one the words “hey, leave some for the rest of us!” was said. Maybe since it wasn’t family the op didn’t feel she could say that. And the college aged ones were down for anything as long as they weren’t paying.

If everyone was on their own for a meal, they ate at home or hit up Taco Bell to eat cheap. When out to dinner when it was an adults turn to pay, steak & lobster were ordered. This is especially true with the guys.

[Anonymous]

I feel bad for the guy. The description reminds me of my 27-year-old nephew, who's on the spectrum (what used to be called Asperger's).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP all the way. I work at a high school and sadly there are many kids like Lenny. It is all "me, me, me" with these kids. OP was a gracious host. Too gracious I think. Lenny needs to have some one teach him you don't take all the food or supplies when they are someone else's.

Maybe the guest was not a good guest, but, based on her post, gracious is not anywhere near to how I'd describe OP. She sounds like the reason her son needed to find a third tier friend to take with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL I wish I was exaggerating, then my vacation wouldn't have sucked! He really was THIS annoying, I'm sorry that's hard to believe. I haven't seen him since yesterday when we finally left so I'm pretty over it but it's hilarious how polarizing this thread was.

Lenny SUCKED. Period. Like I would have come to DCUM to make up stories while on an awesome vacation. I want to send him with all of you next year and see how you like it.

I believe that he behaved rudely.

I believe that you are more than twice his age, and behaved as badly as he did, based on what a raging ——- you reveal yourself to be in your responses.

Two wrongs don’t make a right, and two rude people make everyone else miserable.

+1

Nope. Don't see that. What I do see are a bunch of anonymous internet posters too quick to believe the worst of anyone based on other reasons turns them off. Perhaps the OP's affluence bothers you?

I've actually met boys like the one the OP described. I know they exist. I've spent time with them. I've been on vacation with clear freeloaders. The kid is obnoxious, self-centered, and a teen boy on top of it, and everything the OP described fits this model to a T.

Complaining about the price of what your guest ordered and about the guest using a can of sunscreen doesn't scream affluence to me. I actually wondered whether the guest's family had more money than OP and so didn't realize that ordering the catch of the day wasn't in OP's budget. Also, why would you describe a 19 year old college student who you invited on your vacation as a freeloader? If I invite my kid's friend (who is still in school and unemployed) on vacation with me, I expect to pay for them. It seems as if OP extended an invitation and the guest ordered thing outside her budget, but she felt awkward making that clear to the guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL I wish I was exaggerating, then my vacation wouldn't have sucked! He really was THIS annoying, I'm sorry that's hard to believe. I haven't seen him since yesterday when we finally left so I'm pretty over it but it's hilarious how polarizing this thread was.

Lenny SUCKED. Period. Like I would have come to DCUM to make up stories while on an awesome vacation. I want to send him with all of you next year and see how you like it.

I believe that he behaved rudely.

I believe that you are more than twice his age, and behaved as badly as he did, based on what a raging ——- you reveal yourself to be in your responses.

Two wrongs don’t make a right, and two rude people make everyone else miserable.

+1

Nope. Don't see that. What I do see are a bunch of anonymous internet posters too quick to believe the worst of anyone based on other reasons turns them off. Perhaps the OP's affluence bothers you?

I've actually met boys like the one the OP described. I know they exist. I've spent time with them. I've been on vacation with clear freeloaders. The kid is obnoxious, self-centered, and a teen boy on top of it, and everything the OP described fits this model to a T.

Complaining about the price of what your guest ordered and about the guest using a can of sunscreen doesn't scream affluence to me. I actually wondered whether the guest's family had more money than OP and so didn't realize that ordering the catch of the day wasn't in OP's budget. Also, why would you describe a 19 year old college student who you invited on your vacation as a freeloader? If I invite my kid's friend (who is still in school and unemployed) on vacation with me, I expect to pay for them. It seems as if OP extended an invitation and the guest ordered thing outside her budget, but she felt awkward making that clear to the guest.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call bs. No 19 year old male wants sea shells. Not even a gay one. I just spent the week with a 19 yo male gay relative who didn’t give two shits about shells unless they were those Velveeta shells & cheese. And all of teens were like this kid, kinda self centered and absolute garbage disposals. More than one the words “hey, leave some for the rest of us!” was said. Maybe since it wasn’t family the op didn’t feel she could say that. And the college aged ones were down for anything as long as they weren’t paying.

If everyone was on their own for a meal, they ate at home or hit up Taco Bell to eat cheap. When out to dinner when it was an adults turn to pay, steak & lobster were ordered. This is especially true with the guys.

Now I’m picturing OP’s guest flamboyantly strutting around the beach house with all of his FABULOUS seashells.

[Anonymous]

So, I’ve been following this thread for days, and what is really sticking with me, is how do you know which “tier”your adult son’s friends belong to? And if this friend is only third tier, how did he end up on vacation?

Seems like you manage his friendships like you manage guests menu selections.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I’ve been following this thread for days, and what is really sticking with me, is how do you know which “tier”your adult son’s friends belong to? And if this friend is only third tier, how did he end up on vacation?

Seems like you manage his friendships like you manage guests menu selections.

A tier one friend would be happy with the free crackers and water at the restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I’ve been following this thread for days, and what is really sticking with me, is how do you know which “tier”your adult son’s friends belong to? And if this friend is only third tier, how did he end up on vacation?

Seems like you manage his friendships like you manage guests menu selections.

A tier one friend would be happy with the free crackers and water at the restaurant.

And a half of a cookie for snack

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call bs. No 19 year old male wants sea shells. Not even a gay one. I just spent the week with a 19 yo male gay relative who didn’t give two shits about shells unless they were those Velveeta shells & cheese. And all of teens were like this kid, kinda self centered and absolute garbage disposals. More than one the words “hey, leave some for the rest of us!” was said. Maybe since it wasn’t family the op didn’t feel she could say that. And the college aged ones were down for anything as long as they weren’t paying.

If everyone was on their own for a meal, they ate at home or hit up Taco Bell to eat cheap. When out to dinner when it was an adults turn to pay, steak & lobster were ordered. This is especially true with the guys.

Eh? Speak for yourself. There is a huge amount of extrapolation going on here. Do you know how silly you sound?

When I was of that age I was invited to various trips with friends' families. My hosts kindly paid for most of the costs and I would have never dreamed of ordering expensive food off the menu unless explicitly encouraged by the host. The difference was that I was well brought up. Unfortunately I have seen this kind of behavior in others, people who are greedy for anything regardless of whether it's food or sea shells. It's not the object that makes them greedy (nor the sexuality, FYI, nice display of homosexual stereotyping here, honey). It's a mindset.