Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

Final consensus: OP did nothing wrong and bathing suite Mom is becoming unhinged and seems to have a problem with the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did she know your son was the one who took the bathing suit? This story is fishy!

It does but people notice or maybe someone took pictures and the host gave out her information. But, why drive home knowing you live that far before getting the suit.

???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Final consensus: OP did nothing wrong and bathing suite Mom is becoming unhinged and seems to have a problem with the baby.

Not so fast. There are plenty of posters who think OP sounds self-centered and could have done the right thing and returned the trunks that night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Final consensus: OP did nothing wrong and bathing suite Mom is becoming unhinged and seems to have a problem with the baby.

I was thinking the same thing but I figured that OP's kid's swimsuit was the one that was left over so the party host put it together and gave OP's number to the irate Mom. I also agree that the traveling Mom is completely unhinged but I get that way too when I'm trying to pack for a trip at the last minute. However, even I would have driven to Walmart or Target at 10:00 at night rather than trying to force someone I didn't know (or even if I did know them) to drive a two hour round trip with small children. That's really over the top. Also, my kids each have 2 swimsuits. That's common sense.

[Anonymous]

1. Mom1's 7YO son takes $12 swimsuit by mistake.

2. Later that evening OP receives call from Mom2. How Mom2 knows that Mom1 is in possession of said swimsuit is unclear.

3. Mom1 offers to meetup and return suit to school which is about 10 minutes away. Mom2 doesn't want to do this.

4. Mom2 instead asks Mom1 to drop everything and bring it to her house. Mom1 agrees but then realizes it is 50 minutes away, or a round trip of more than an hour and 45 minutes. Let's say that about $15-20 in gas and maybe some tolls. Mom1 calls back and tries to find an alternative solution.

5. Mom2 offers to meet somewhere about halfway, which would have both Moms driving for about a 45 minutes to an hour, but can't do it until 10 PM.

6. This happened over Memorial Day weekend and Mom2 and her clique have been bad mouthing Mom1 all week and jumped on this thread to reaffirm that she is a horrible, selfish person because her son took the wrong suit, she didn't pick her don up from the pool, and wasn't willing to do exactly as Mom2 demanded.

Is this about right? In the meantime Mom2 could have gone to Target and skipped all the drama? All I can say is thank God I'm not at this school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is your son's fault.

I'm pretty sure OP knows that.

It's OP job to "fix" it.

+1
I agree. OP should've made every effort (if not the 50 minute drive then the 30 minute one) to return the suit that evening. And the other mother should've been more reasonable as well and at least agreed to meet at the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

This seems to be one of those topics that really relies on your cohort. I can't imagine moms agreeing with the other mom and not seeing her as a drama queen over a cheap bathing suit that can be returned on Monday. These positions are so far apart that there seems little use in debating it. It all depends on perspective and what you find reasonable and unreasonable. I find it interesting that people seem to view the same facts so differently.

+1000

I can't imagine anyone in my group of friends who would demand a mom at home by herself wake up her 7 year old and baby and drive 30-50 minutes after dark to return a bathing suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

This seems to be one of those topics that really relies on your cohort. I can't imagine moms agreeing with the other mom and not seeing her as a drama queen over a cheap bathing suit that can be returned on Monday. These positions are so far apart that there seems little use in debating it. It all depends on perspective and what you find reasonable and unreasonable. I find it interesting that people seem to view the same facts so differently.

+1000

I can't imagine anyone in my group of friends who would demand a mom at home by herself wake up her 7 year old and baby and drive 30-50 minutes after dark to return a bathing suit.

Thankfully, I can't imagine anyone in our group of friends asking this either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

This seems to be one of those topics that really relies on your cohort. I can't imagine moms agreeing with the other mom and not seeing her as a drama queen over a cheap bathing suit that can be returned on Monday. These positions are so far apart that there seems little use in debating it. It all depends on perspective and what you find reasonable and unreasonable. I find it interesting that people seem to view the same facts so differently.

+1000

I can't imagine anyone in my group of friends who would demand a mom at home by herself wake up her 7 year old and baby and drive 30-50 minutes after dark to return a bathing suit.

It's an entitlement mentality. No empathy for others.

[Anonymous]

Important takeaways from this thread:

Have more than one swimsuit for your kid

Don't answer texts from school moms you don't know after 8 pm. No good can come.

Uber can take your misbegotten swimsuit to its rightful owner if you decline to drag your kids out of bed for a midnight ride of 2 hours or so

there are ZERO places to buying a bathing suit at the Jersey shore

Somewhere in this tri state area, schools are already out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

This seems to be one of those topics that really relies on your cohort. I can't imagine moms agreeing with the other mom and not seeing her as a drama queen over a cheap bathing suit that can be returned on Monday. These positions are so far apart that there seems little use in debating it. It all depends on perspective and what you find reasonable and unreasonable. I find it interesting that people seem to view the same facts so differently.

+1000

I can't imagine anyone in my group of friends who would demand a mom at home by herself wake up her 7 year old and baby and drive 30-50 minutes after dark to return a bathing suit.

Thankfully, I can't imagine anyone in our group of friends asking this either.

+1

Very thankful for our kind and reasonable group of parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Important takeaways from this thread:

Have more than one swimsuit for your kid

Don't answer texts from school moms you don't know after 8 pm. No good can come.

Uber can take your misbegotten swimsuit to its rightful owner if you decline to drag your kids out of bed for a midnight ride of 2 hours or so

there are ZERO places to buying a bathing suit at the Jersey shore

Somewhere in this tri state area, schools are already out!

Also: there's more than one mom out there who thinks someone else should pay the price for their own parenting fail.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but I really think it is the one Mom (bathing suit obsessed) who thinks this way and maybe 1-2 of her very misguided cohort.

[Anonymous]

So glad that we are at a neighborhood school. 95% of friends are within a 5 min drive. And a huge chunk of those are within just a few blocks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

This seems to be one of those topics that really relies on your cohort. I can't imagine moms agreeing with the other mom and not seeing her as a drama queen over a cheap bathing suit that can be returned on Monday. These positions are so far apart that there seems little use in debating it. It all depends on perspective and what you find reasonable and unreasonable. I find it interesting that people seem to view the same facts so differently.

+1000

I can't imagine anyone in my group of friends who would demand a mom at home by herself wake up her 7 year old and baby and drive 30-50 minutes after dark to return a bathing suit.

It's an entitlement mentality. No empathy for others.

I see it differently. The bathing suit mom and her supporters on this thread have no empathy for a mom who can't drop everything and return a bathing suit in the middle of the night. That is an entitlement mentality if I ever saw one.