Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

How did she know your son was the one who took the bathing suit? This story is fishy!

[Anonymous]

However, the other lady showed just a lack of understanding, whereas OP shows a sense of entitlement. Both are wrong, but OP is more wrong.

I'm really having a hard time understanding how anyone could think this way. For all the people talking about what it teaches children, I can't think of any circumstance under which my parents would have allowed me to expect someone else solve MY problem. And being stuck with no bathing suit the night before a trip to the beach is in fact, the other mother's problem, no matter how it came about. It shows lack of foresight, lack of planning, lack of problem-solving abilities, and no tact to let someone know you're missing these essential parenting and life skills.

[Anonymous]

I have a feeling this family is of a lower socio-economic class and is traveling from somewhere like Bowie to go to Sidwell and the other mom lives in Woodley Park.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling this family is of a lower socio-economic class and is traveling from somewhere like Bowie to go to Sidwell and the other mom lives in Woodley Park.

Since when is Bowie a "lower socio-economic" area? Please STFU.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

This seems to be one of those topics that really relies on your cohort. I can't imagine moms agreeing with the other mom and not seeing her as a drama queen over a cheap bathing suit that can be returned on Monday. These positions are so far apart that there seems little use in debating it. It all depends on perspective and what you find reasonable and unreasonable. I find it interesting that people seem to view the same facts so differently.

You're right about the parenting cohort. The OP calls into the self-centered mommy cohort. Me. Me. Me. I'm a busy mommy, so I can't drive my kid to the party. Somebody needs to help me...after all, DH is away and I'm not equipped to manage on my own. And my baby is asleep! I have a rigid sleep schedule and put the kids down by 7 so I can have some me time.

I bet that if the roles were reversed the OP would expect everyone to drop everything and cater to her. After all, she has a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did she know your son was the one who took the bathing suit? This story is fishy!

It does but people notice or maybe someone took pictures and the host gave out her information. But, why drive home knowing you live that far before getting the suit.

[Anonymous]

Why not uber it over?

Thank goodness for uber...a lifesaver for first world white people problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was in OP's shoes, I would have made sure that the swim trunk was returned somehow - maybe Uber, maybe driving by myself.

If I was in the other lady's shoes, I would have bought a swimsuit on the way to the beach.

However, the other lady showed just a lack of understanding, whereas OP shows a sense of entitlement. Both are wrong, but OP is more wrong.

Omg putting the swimsuit in an Uber to have it delivered to the other mom. This. THIS IS WHY I DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP.

Asking another mom to wake a baby and schlep two kids at 10 p.m. is an unreasonable demand. It's a harmless mistake and swimsuits are easily procured.

I hope I am not friends with any of you ridiculous hard asses who believe OP should have accommodated.

I don't have a baby or two little kids. I am not schlepping anywhere for anyone at 10 pm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did she know your son was the one who took the bathing suit? This story is fishy!

She guessed because the two kids had similar suits. And OP confirmed it.

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Anonymous wrote:You should have driven it to them. Your son took it, his mistake. It sucks but that is what you should have done.

really?

What ding-a-ling only has one suit for his/her kid?

lots of people only have one bathing suit. why does that make someone a "ding a ling"?

b/c if you're away for SEVERAL days who wants to spend time washing/rinsing a suit and waiting for it to dry? Take the dry one on day two while the wet one has time to dry!

one suit?

I found trunks at Target for $10.99.

Yes, ding-a-ling is an appropriate term to use within this context.

Wow, so people who do things differently than you are worthy of being called names. nice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your child only has one suit, and it is THAT important, then why did you send it to a pool party the day before the trip and not check it to see if it came back? Some things are YOUR responsibility as a parent. (the probably only want that particular suit for pictures or something)

Taking your child to a party yourself or teaching them how to handle shit in your absence is also your responsibility as a parent. Guess OP missed the boat.

The kids are 7, still learning how to handle themselves. It's a good time to make (usually) small mistakes. Carpooling isnot a sin, nor is asking for help from others when you have a new baby.

So it's the other mom's fault for not checking the swimsuit (but maybe she did - OP's kid was already gone with the other one.) But not OP's fault at all for not going or checking. Having a baby absolves you of any responsibility? It all falls on everyone else? Ok, primadonna.

No, OP's kid made a mistake. It's not the other woman's fault. The only question is how much trouble is OP obligated to go to to return the suit. Is returning it on Monday enough, or must she do it at 10pm with two young children and a long drive, possibly in the rain. I probably would have done the drive, but it would have been the wrong decision, safetywise.

Also, in your response, you were blaming OP for not driving her child herself. That's unfair.

Not blaming her. Stating a fact. That's a risk you take in having someone watch your kid and theirs. If someone else takes my kid to a party I review what my kid needs to do with my kid, because I expect the other parent to keep my kid alive, not follow them around and make sure they aren't losing shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do we know it's not the other kid's fault? Sounds like they have the same suit in different sizes. Maybe the size 10 kid took the size 7 suit first and OPs kid took the remaining suit thinking it was his.

OP should have demanded that the other mom drive over and return HER kids suit.

OP said her kid took the suit and left first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

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I have to agree completely with this. I know people who are apish*t about "the nap" - and now the kid is three or four! That is just obsessive and crazy, at that point.

OP, it's on you - you should have sucked it up and done the right thing. You both sound like ridiculous, immature, spoiled princesses, BTW.

Since you asked.

This was not a nap situation. It is kids being in bed as OP has a 7 year old. OP would have to drag the 7 year old out of bed, to the car to drive an hour or two, then return home for a $10 pair of swim trunks. Why didn't mom check before she left the party and called OP then?

OP only had to go at 10 pm if meeting halfway. She could have left them with the mom at anytime if she drove there. She could have done it that afternoon, or maybe even caught the mom before the party, if she had unpacked her kids wet clothes right away like a normal person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

+1

I have to agree completely with this. I know people who are apish*t about "the nap" - and now the kid is three or four! That is just obsessive and crazy, at that point.

OP, it's on you - you should have sucked it up and done the right thing. You both sound like ridiculous, immature, spoiled princesses, BTW.

Since you asked.

This was not a nap situation. It is kids being in bed as OP has a 7 year old. OP would have to drag the 7 year old out of bed, to the car to drive an hour or two, then return home for a $10 pair of swim trunks. Why didn't mom check before she left the party and called OP then?

OP only had to go at 10 pm if meeting halfway. She could have left them with the mom at anytime if she drove there. She could have done it that afternoon, or maybe even caught the mom before the party, if she had unpacked her kids wet clothes right away like a normal person.

Caught the mom BEFORE the party at which the trunks were switched? You want op to time travel now?