Why are OOS flagships so popular these days?

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

So you're actually claiming that kids who go to Indiana or Michigan or Wisconsin somehow have had "significantly different life experiences" than kids who grew up in Northern VA? Not to mention, there are TONS of OOS kids at the top VA schools, as well as international students. My kids have friends from all over the country at their VA state universities. But do go on about how much more interesting and diverse OOS schools are. What a hoot. I think you know you're fooling yourself, you just refuse to admit it.

Yes, living in a different area of the country with people who grew up all over is a different experience than going to a state school in VA that has mostly nova students. And then most of them continue to live in VA after they graduate.

https://research.schev.edu/enrollment/e19_report.asp
https://digital.uvamagazine.org/articles/hoo-are-you/index.php

1. Yes, there are plenty of nova students at UVA, W&M and VT, but they are not "most" of the students. The SCHEV link posted shows, for example, that 40% of the entering class at W&M was from OOS, so if the remainder (60%) is divided roughly in half between nova and non-nova, that means only 30% from nova.

2. Schools like IU and Wisconsin - to use as examples - have a majority of in-state kids, so no, they aren't appreciably filled with "people who grew up all over" any more than UVA or W&M. And nova is less insular, more diverse, and less bland than suburban Indianapolis, Milwaukee, etc., which supplies a big chunk of the student body at those schools.

3. Well of course a majority of graduates from UVA, W&M, etc. continue to live in VA after they graduate. But remaining in state after graduation is true of many OOS flagships. Plus there's a lot more good career opportunities with high salaries in VA than in Indiana, Nebraska, etc.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

The 13th grade thing is such bullshit. One third of UVA is from NOVA, one third is from other parts of the state, and one third are from elsewhere. The kids from NOVA come from some of the most diverse suburbs in the country. Many have parents who moved here from elsewhere. And any given student doesn’t know the overwhelming majority of them and has nothing to do with the kids from their own high school.

I had two kids go to UVA. Both studied abroad in college and lived abroad for several years after college. One got a master’s degree in Europe in the middle of a several year stint living in Latin America. The other joined the Peace Corps. One’s bff from college is Australian; the other’s is from New Hampshire. Their experience is no less diverse than that of my other kid, who went to college 1000 miles away (turning down William & Mary for merit aid).

I guarantee you that my UVA grads are far more “worldly” than your typical Fairfax kid going to OSU or IU.

How can you guarantee this?

You’re right. I can’t. But going to IU or OSU or any other OOS flagship doesn’t alone make someone more “worldly” than going to UVA in state. That’s for sure. And I CAN guarantee that the sizable OOS population at UVA that an in state UVA kid is exposed to is going to be a lot smarter and “worldly” than just about any flagship, considering that their admissions standards for OOS are at near Ivy levels.

We were discussing VA state schools in general, but even for UVA, most kids come from VA and the vast majority end up in VA.

https://research.schev.edu/enrollment/e19_report.aasp
https://digital.uvamagazine.org/articles/hoo-are-you/index.php

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

So you're actually claiming that kids who go to Indiana or Michigan or Wisconsin somehow have had "significantly different life experiences" than kids who grew up in Northern VA? Not to mention, there are TONS of OOS kids at the top VA schools, as well as international students. My kids have friends from all over the country at their VA state universities. But do go on about how much more interesting and diverse OOS schools are. What a hoot. I think you know you're fooling yourself, you just refuse to admit it.

Yes, living in a different area of the country with people who grew up all over is a different experience than going to a state school in VA that has mostly nova students. And then most of them continue to live in VA after they graduate.

https://research.schev.edu/enrollment/e19_report.asp
https://digital.uvamagazine.org/articles/hoo-are-you/index.php

What do you mean by “people who grew up from all over?“ We are talking about out of state flag ships. Ar virtually everyone of them, the large majority of the students are from the same state. It’s no different than UVA, just a different state.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

The 13th grade thing is such bullshit. One third of UVA is from NOVA, one third is from other parts of the state, and one third are from elsewhere. The kids from NOVA come from some of the most diverse suburbs in the country. Many have parents who moved here from elsewhere. And any given student doesn’t know the overwhelming majority of them and has nothing to do with the kids from their own high school.

I had two kids go to UVA. Both studied abroad in college and lived abroad for several years after college. One got a master’s degree in Europe in the middle of a several year stint living in Latin America. The other joined the Peace Corps. One’s bff from college is Australian; the other’s is from New Hampshire. Their experience is no less diverse than that of my other kid, who went to college 1000 miles away (turning down William & Mary for merit aid).

I guarantee you that my UVA grads are far more “worldly” than your typical Fairfax kid going to OSU or IU.

How can you guarantee this?

You’re right. I can’t. But going to IU or OSU or any other OOS flagship doesn’t alone make someone more “worldly” than going to UVA in state. That’s for sure. And I CAN guarantee that the sizable OOS population at UVA that an in state UVA kid is exposed to is going to be a lot smarter and “worldly” than just about any flagship, considering that their admissions standards for OOS are at near Ivy levels.

Not sure why you are fixated on “worldly”.

Kids who grow up in VA and go to school in VA overwhelmingly settle in VA.

That’s just a fact. Nothing wrong with it. Not sure why you’re so defensive about it.

I’m being no more defensive about it than you and others are in not acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of VA high school graduates who end up in OOS flagships are there because they knew they couldn’t or in fact didn’t get into UVA. They’re not going elsewhere because they or their parents have an aversion to “13th grade.” They only wish they had the opportunity for it. But they don’t.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

Agree. For me it’s not about seeking out students who are more worldly. It’s about exposure to a different mindset—less privilege and better grounding. Lots of good schools beyond the DMV that would provide that kind of experience. But my kids haven’t applied anywhere yet, so we’ll see what happens and what they decide.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

that makes zero sense.

How is going to UVA or UMD a "continuation of what they have been doing for 13 years" compared to if they go to Wisconsin or Pitt? Going to college is only a "continuation of what they have been doing for 13 years" in that they are in an education setting. Otherwise, it's a completely different experience from K-12 no matter if you go to a school 10 hours away or 1 hour away, assuming you are not living at home.

You're looking for ways to justify your own insecurities.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

Agree. For me it’s not about seeking out students who are more worldly. It’s about exposure to a different mindset—less privilege and better grounding. Lots of good schools beyond the DMV that would provide that kind of experience. But my kids haven’t applied anywhere yet, so we’ll see what happens and what they decide.

Translation: I already know my kids are not likely to get into UVA, so I am preparing myself and them.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

Agree. For me it’s not about seeking out students who are more worldly. It’s about exposure to a different mindset—less privilege and better grounding. Lots of good schools beyond the DMV that would provide that kind of experience. But my kids haven’t applied anywhere yet, so we’ll see what happens and what they decide.

I assume then that your kid is going to pick a school that is lower tiered, because higher tiered schools generally have more kids from wealthier families. So, elite schools are out, I assume.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

So you're actually claiming that kids who go to Indiana or Michigan or Wisconsin somehow have had "significantly different life experiences" than kids who grew up in Northern VA? Not to mention, there are TONS of OOS kids at the top VA schools, as well as international students. My kids have friends from all over the country at their VA state universities. But do go on about how much more interesting and diverse OOS schools are. What a hoot. I think you know you're fooling yourself, you just refuse to admit it.

Yes, living in a different area of the country with people who grew up all over is a different experience than going to a state school in VA that has mostly nova students. And then most of them continue to live in VA after they graduate.

https://research.schev.edu/enrollment/e19_report.asp
https://digital.uvamagazine.org/articles/hoo-are-you/index.php

What do you mean by “people who grew up from all over?“ We are talking about out of state flag ships. Ar virtually everyone of them, the large majority of the students are from the same state. It’s no different than UVA, just a different state.

So not 13th grade.

Other public and most private OOSs have more geographic diversity than the two you mentioned. Plus, Indiana hates women so not sure why anyone would want to go there.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

Agree. For me it’s not about seeking out students who are more worldly. It’s about exposure to a different mindset—less privilege and better grounding. Lots of good schools beyond the DMV that would provide that kind of experience. But my kids haven’t applied anywhere yet, so we’ll see what happens and what they decide.

I assume then that your kid is going to pick a school that is lower tiered, because higher tiered schools generally have more kids from wealthier families. So, elite schools are out, I assume.

Not true for top top tier.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

Agree. For me it’s not about seeking out students who are more worldly. It’s about exposure to a different mindset—less privilege and better grounding. Lots of good schools beyond the DMV that would provide that kind of experience. But my kids haven’t applied anywhere yet, so we’ll see what happens and what they decide.

Translation: I already know my kids are not likely to get into UVA, so I am preparing myself and them.

There’s that insecurity popping up again.

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Look, who are we trying to kid? The answer to the question “why are OOS flagships becoming more popular in the DMV” could not be more obvious.

It’s because UVA and Maryland are becoming more and more competitive and many
students who would have gone to either of those schools in a heartbeat a decade or two ago are not getting in today. These same students no longer have to “settle” for other in state schools either, because the gap between UVA/W&M/UMD (and even Tech) and the other in state schools is now so large that excellent students aren’t getting into the top in state schools but are still highly qualified and often get merit aid to go to a good OOS school.

This isn’t rocket science. And the posters whi insist that they are deliberately doing this to avoid so-called 13th grade are lying to themselves.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

Please explain how it is in any way a "continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years" any more than any other college would be. Especially if we've all established they are not seeing their HS peers at these large schools. We'll wait.

You think kids from FCPS have significantly different life experiences than kids from ACPS? VA state colleges are full of nova kids who have all had similar upbringings. Many will end up back in nova. 13th grade.

I’m hoping my kids will pick somewhere OOS, but they might pick in-state. Which is fine if that’s what they prefer.

Agree. For me it’s not about seeking out students who are more worldly. It’s about exposure to a different mindset—less privilege and better grounding. Lots of good schools beyond the DMV that would provide that kind of experience. But my kids haven’t applied anywhere yet, so we’ll see what happens and what they decide.

Translation: I already know my kids are not likely to get into UVA, so I am preparing myself and them.

There’s that insecurity popping up again.

Yea. That poster. Not me.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

that makes zero sense.

How is going to UVA or UMD a "continuation of what they have been doing for 13 years" compared to if they go to Wisconsin or Pitt? Going to college is only a "continuation of what they have been doing for 13 years" in that they are in an education setting. Otherwise, it's a completely different experience from K-12 no matter if you go to a school 10 hours away or 1 hour away, assuming you are not living at home.

You're looking for ways to justify your own insecurities.

If they go OOS, they will have different experience than: growing up in VA, going to school in VA, settling in VA, rinse, repeat.

If that’s what my kids want, fine. But I’m hoping they experience more of the world and meet different people.

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That's what parents/kids say when they don't get in. It's a face-saving technique that's entirely transparent.

What? Plenty of kids who don't get into UVA or UMD can do better than VT/JMU or UMBC oos

dp... yes, but this particular thread is about how going to in state = 13th year.

If you are saying that someone applied to but didn't get into to UVA or UMD (in state), that would still mean they were willing to do the 13th grade.

And if you didn't get into UVA/UMD, and then say it's like "13th grade", then that's just face-saving sour grapes.

I hope my kids leave the state/area for college. But they may prefer the “13th grade” option. It’s just how it is and different people have different preferences.

If you are offended by “13th grade” then you may want to reflect on why.

DP. It's not "offensive," it's merely inaccurate. Students do not run into their high school classmates at any of these large schools unless they make a plan to do so. There are thousands of students, including many OOS kids. People who call it "13th grade" don't actually have kids at these schools; they're just making dumb statements that aren't backed up in way.

“13th grade” doesn’t mean they literally run into HS peers constantly. It’s just a continuation of what they have done for the last 13 years.

If you are offended by it, that really speaks more about your own insecurities.

that makes zero sense.

How is going to UVA or UMD a "continuation of what they have been doing for 13 years" compared to if they go to Wisconsin or Pitt? Going to college is only a "continuation of what they have been doing for 13 years" in that they are in an education setting. Otherwise, it's a completely different experience from K-12 no matter if you go to a school 10 hours away or 1 hour away, assuming you are not living at home.

You're looking for ways to justify your own insecurities.

If they go OOS, they will have different experience than: growing up in VA, going to school in VA, settling in VA, rinse, repeat.

If that’s what my kids want, fine. But I’m hoping they experience more of the world and meet different people.

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