What is women’s obsession with “well-educated” men?

[Anonymous]

If education is meaningless, there are a tremendous number of dupes in this country spending unfathomable amounts of money on a frivolity.

If it is meaningful, then it makes sense that women would use it as a relevant when seeking out a relationship.

[Anonymous]

smart offspring

[Anonymous]

It really amazes me the things men complain about. This thread proves that— fundamentally— many men disagree that women should be entitled to preferences whatsoever.

DCUM Men Takes:

1. Women should not be allowed to prefer taller men.
2. Women should not be allowed to prefer wealthier men.
3. Women should not be allowed to prefer mentally stable men.
4. Women should not be allowed to prefer well-educated men.

Ok the first three I try to give some sympathy since there is a genetic and historical component that is outside the man’s control but really? Get online, fill out an application, literally anyone can get an education on this country. Don’t get the test scores? Study. Don’t like the tuition? Get a loan. But this is wholly in your power and you prefer to whine on the internet about women’s preferences instead of studying for the GRE.

[Anonymous]

this illustrates the problem with dating apps. you might totally click with someone who does not have your same education background? but how do you narrow the universe in such a superficial setting if you are trying to go by something other than looks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a spin-off of another thread where a late 30s woman was asking how to meet men, and of course mentions the “well-educated” criterion multiple times.

I just don’t get this. And I should preface this by saying I’m a guy with an Ivy degree. But would you ladies not consider someone who owns his own construction business or a few Subway franchises and earns $150,000 per year? (Or we could make it 15 Subway franchises and an income of $600,000 if that is your requirement.) This is not about income – that part I understand.

But why the obsession with “well-educated” men? Do you not understand that for many people, going to college/graduate school is a terrible life decision? I mean, there was a recent article about NYU film grads coming out of the Master’s program with $30,000/year jobs and $250,000 in debt. Surely women in their late 30s recognize that the dating market is not skewed in their favor. Why add yet *another* filter that further winnows down your available options?

With all due respect, a well educated man is not an NYU film grad.

Why not? I'm impressed when I meet USC or NYU film grads. They have a lot more interesting things to say, on average, than Harvard and Yale Law grads. (I'm one of those; Harvard pumps our over 500 of us every year, and most of us do boring things and think about boring things.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really amazes me the things men complain about. This thread proves that— fundamentally— many men disagree that women should be entitled to preferences whatsoever.

DCUM Men Takes:

1. Women should not be allowed to prefer taller men.
2. Women should not be allowed to prefer wealthier men.
3. Women should not be allowed to prefer mentally stable men.
4. Women should not be allowed to prefer well-educated men.

Ok the first three I try to give some sympathy since there is a genetic and historical component that is outside the man’s control but really? Get online, fill out an application, literally anyone can get an education on this country. Don’t get the test scores? Study. Don’t like the tuition? Get a loan. But this is wholly in your power and you prefer to whine on the internet about women’s preferences instead of studying for the GRE.

I was married, through good times and bad, and you know what was irrelevant to having a worthwhile relationship? Height, wealth, and number of university degrees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:smart offspring

Doesn't intelligence come from the mom?

I mean, barring a $5m donation, of course.

NP here.

[Anonymous]

I think its a matter of compatibility, well educated people gravitate towards other well educated people. Its not all about degrees, success or income but like mindedness. Just like liberals are usually attracted towards liberals and conservatives towards other conservatives and independent moderates towards other independent moderates.

[Anonymous]

In our society a human's worth is often equated to their pedigree, wealth, educational and professional success. Personal qualities like character, kindness and intellect are really low on social score.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In our society a human's worth is often equated to their pedigree, wealth, educational and professional success. Personal qualities like character, kindness and intellect are really low on social score.

... and that's not limited to opposite gender or dating and marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:smart offspring

Doesn't intelligence come from the mom?

I mean, barring a $5m donation, of course.

NP here.

Wait, I think I answered my own question, OP!

LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In our society a human's worth is often equated to their pedigree, wealth, educational and professional success. Personal qualities like character, kindness and intellect are really low on social score.

Looks, connections and money trump character and intellect every time, even in admission and job interviews. That's why standardized testing is very important, human interactions are biased.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:smart offspring

Doesn't intelligence come from the mom?

I mean, barring a $5m donation, of course.

NP here.

You can buy eggs from intelligent women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In our society a human's worth is often equated to their pedigree, wealth, educational and professional success. Personal qualities like character, kindness and intellect are really low on social score.

People with character, kindness and intellect are not absent from the ranks of the well educated, and believing that they are suggests that (at least) one of those characteristics is lacking in you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our society a human's worth is often equated to their pedigree, wealth, educational and professional success. Personal qualities like character, kindness and intellect are really low on social score.

People with character, kindness and intellect are not absent from the ranks of the well educated, and believing that they are suggests that (at least) one of those characteristics is lacking in you.

Oh please. This forum exists in large part so women can gripe about how few men there are tall enough, educated enough, and mostly wealthy enough to meet their exacting standards.