Slim picking dating in your fifties

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Anonymous wrote:Also, I know a ton of women who are stuck on how they were attractive when they were younger and they somehow think that makes them different from other 50 year olds. I think aging is really rough for women who were considered beauties and some cannot deal. I have never been considered beautiful so 50 is 50. I am not chasing the idea of how hot I allegedly was 25 years ago.

You are just envious towards fit 50s women who can still wear tight dresses and you can’t.
What’s your weight ? If you are not attractive don’t compare yourself to those who have this natural gifts and healthy lifestyle. Men I date tell me I’m beautiful at 48 and have one of the most proportional bodies they ever slept with

DP - I was never considered beautiful either, so completely agree with the PP's mindset. 50 is just 50 for me. I didn't have looks to lose. I don't really stress about natural aging and I don't compare myself to beautiful women, because that would be really depressing. It's not about envy – it's about observing a subset of people who seem genuinely panicked by the impact of aging.

Beautiful women are not panicked I don’t know anyone who is. My friends are busy with career, kids, go ball dancing, wear mini skirts and yes some Botox. It can be done naturally so you won’t notice. Nobody pretends to be 25 but they want to look the best for their age, and it’s attainable

You are very judgmental and likely unhappy person. I see many women like you at work, fat, grumpy married married ladies who are chatting about my way of dressing behind my back. While all these younger men are actively hitting on me, asking to give me a ride home after work.

I think it’s a fear of your husband walking out on you that drives such feelings. You perceive younger women as danger and judge older women who might look better than you.

Mind your own business

I don't know what a "fat, grumpy, married, married lady" looks like, but I'm none of those things. I'm glad you and all of your friends are beautiful and enjoy "ball dancing." That means you're not in the SUBSET of women I was discussing.

No, you actually came here with a statement that majority of 50s women have slim pickings, only meet ugly men and are well past their prime chances to remarry. Now, after being presented with the real life facts that in fact they remarry more than 30-40s divorced groups, you flipped.

Anyways, your pointless post is a total BS

I'm not the OP, Crazy Lady. There are lots of other people posting. I posted 13:23 and 14:03. That's it. No flipping.

Ok , so you are just another women hater with baseless statements. It is unpleasant to face the facts that most other women date and remarry, and you are not in demand, right ? So you’ve got to find a misogynistic “theory” to explain why.

Don’t extrapolate

I don't know why you are wasting your brilliant insights here with us undesirables.

Because you keep stating women in their 50s stand no chances and it’s just not a statistical fact. I think we can wrap it up after everyone read the actual middle remarriage data. People WANT to remarry in middle age - it’s easier to age with a good companion.

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Anonymous wrote:My newly divorced friend showed me her options on the dating apps. These older men she is matching with are not physically attractive or the ones who are don’t seem interested or obviously only want sex. I guess all the good ones are taken or prefer a younger woman.

My friend was beautiful in her twenties and thirties. She now looks like an average middle aged woman. She looks great for her age but she is still in her fifties.

Your friend is not in her twenties anymore though. Assuming she is still beautiful her best bet is an attractive upper class man age 60-70.

I made this post and I an a 50 year old married woman. I made it based on seeing tons of 60-ish guys on dates with women who are younger than they are. If my husband divorced me or died I would date older men because most men like women younger than they are.

Women have so much self hatred. I think this post is an example of that. Just thinking that you automatically need to date older men.

My mom met her second husband at 60 and he was just a couple years older, and it was the happiest relationship of her life.

I don't hate myself. I am going by the pattern I have seen throughout my life of men with women who are younger than them, particularly the second marriage. I am the same age as my husband so I know that some people marry at similar ages. However if you look at online dating or go speed dating you will see that there are a lot of men looking for women who are 8-10 years younger than them. I have personally witnessed it at tons of social events and in online dating.

But saying what I see makes me a self hater apparently Lol.

NP. In most marriages people are around the same age.

I don't think men or women should feel pressured to date someone older or younger than them, I encourage people to fall in love with other people who they care about and click with, and to stop caring so much about gender stereotypes!

Marriages last because people are good together and love each other, and in quality marriages this isn't linked to your respective ages of course.

Maybe that is true for some people. My mom was 8 years younger than her second husband. He was definitely attracted by the fact that she was younger.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, I know a ton of women who are stuck on how they were attractive when they were younger and they somehow think that makes them different from other 50 year olds. I think aging is really rough for women who were considered beauties and some cannot deal. I have never been considered beautiful so 50 is 50. I am not chasing the idea of how hot I allegedly was 25 years ago.

You are just envious towards fit 50s women who can still wear tight dresses and you can’t.
What’s your weight ? If you are not attractive don’t compare yourself to those who have this natural gifts and healthy lifestyle. Men I date tell me I’m beautiful at 48 and have one of the most proportional bodies they ever slept with

Yeah, I'm "just jellus." Wtf. I don't care what clothes you wear or what men tell you. I only care about one man and that's the one I am married to.

My point is that women who are 50 clinging to when they were 25 are sad. I see these women with their botox and filler faces deluding themselves about their age. If you are 50, you are 50. It does not matter how you were 25 years ago unless you can get a time machine and travel back. You should try to look the best you can bur don't pretend you are still 25 or 30.

How do you know these women with botched botoxed/filled faces were beautiful before? A lot of these procedures are also used by young women to alter their facial features. Cosmetic industry isn’t only serving anti-aging purpose trying to preserve your natural features but making you slightly less tired and aged looking. In fact a lot of women who didn’t used to look great in their younger years find themselves resorting to “alteration” plastic surgeries at the age when anti-aging surgery is fair game. And many also make positive changes to diet/exercise and look better in their 50s than they did in their 30s, more fit, able to wear clothes they couldn’t before.

There is always an assumption that anything A woman does in her 50s is pathetic and isn’t worth it. That’s literally complete BS. And a myth that previously naturally beautiful women just look more terrible after anti-aging procedures than allowing themselves to get wrinkled and saggy is ludicrous. There is bad and good cosmetic work, that’s all there is.

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Anonymous wrote:Do 50 year old women still even have sex?

WTAF. We do, and we typically know what we want / what pleases us way more than we did when we were 25, which makes us more fun if you know what you are doing or are willing to be guided. We tend to have little patience for partners who are not interested in mutual satisfaction.

I am 51 and my wife 53. She is ready for sex everyday and I am not. And she is also wetter, more vocal and more "nasty" I love it.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, I know a ton of women who are stuck on how they were attractive when they were younger and they somehow think that makes them different from other 50 year olds. I think aging is really rough for women who were considered beauties and some cannot deal. I have never been considered beautiful so 50 is 50. I am not chasing the idea of how hot I allegedly was 25 years ago.

You are just envious towards fit 50s women who can still wear tight dresses and you can’t.
What’s your weight ? If you are not attractive don’t compare yourself to those who have this natural gifts and healthy lifestyle. Men I date tell me I’m beautiful at 48 and have one of the most proportional bodies they ever slept with

Yeah, I'm "just jellus." Wtf. I don't care what clothes you wear or what men tell you. I only care about one man and that's the one I am married to.

My point is that women who are 50 clinging to when they were 25 are sad. I see these women with their botox and filler faces deluding themselves about their age. If you are 50, you are 50. It does not matter how you were 25 years ago unless you can get a time machine and travel back. You should try to look the best you can bur don't pretend you are still 25 or 30.

You are married and your friend may be not as beautiful as you think thus she has ugly matches

And that’s how YOU feel: plain and not desirable. Other women who are successfully dating may feel differently but you came here to bash them. Why is it even bothering you, so happily married ??

Trust me it’s still different for attractive 50s women (truly beautiful women she well) vs plane, average and overweight ladies. In fact, top 20% of fit women in all age groups attract 80% men and vice versa. Men only have a few percentage statistical advantage in dating in middle age and not in all states. Lots of women in 50s don’t even date so 50s men have no choice but trying to tap into younger ones.

I am not bashing women for being 50 and dating. All I am saying is how beautiful someone was in their twenties has nothing to do with it once they are 50. Yes people can get dates. But they are no longer 25 and must accept that.

I'll take your word that men are lining up to date hot 50 year old women. I know a few women around 50 who are divorced. Although attractive they are workaholics and do not date very much.

A certain segment of men will always want younger women. Usually the richer and more successful guys who take good care of themselves can get women younger than them.

You are stating obvious facts: nobody thinks they look 25 at 50. Yes, rich men can buy a younger body. These marriages have very high divorce rates. Your statement that women in their 50s don’t date very much is simply untrue and not supported by statistics. In fact, an higher percentage of 55+ women would remarry over 40+:


Chat GpT states that:

“Approximately 63% of divorced women who are in their 50s will remarry. This figure is slightly higher than the 57% remarriage rate for those in their 30s and 40s, and slightly lower than the 67% for those in their 55 to 64 age group.

So attractive women in their 50s are still dating and according to stats majority will remarry after 55.

Good luck with your husband !

I did not say women in their 50's don't date. Show me where I said that

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Anonymous wrote:Also, I know a ton of women who are stuck on how they were attractive when they were younger and they somehow think that makes them different from other 50 year olds. I think aging is really rough for women who were considered beauties and some cannot deal. I have never been considered beautiful so 50 is 50. I am not chasing the idea of how hot I allegedly was 25 years ago.

You are just envious towards fit 50s women who can still wear tight dresses and you can’t.
What’s your weight ? If you are not attractive don’t compare yourself to those who have this natural gifts and healthy lifestyle. Men I date tell me I’m beautiful at 48 and have one of the most proportional bodies they ever slept with

Yeah, I'm "just jellus." Wtf. I don't care what clothes you wear or what men tell you. I only care about one man and that's the one I am married to.

My point is that women who are 50 clinging to when they were 25 are sad. I see these women with their botox and filler faces deluding themselves about their age. If you are 50, you are 50. It does not matter how you were 25 years ago unless you can get a time machine and travel back. You should try to look the best you can bur don't pretend you are still 25 or 30.

How do you know these women with botched botoxed/filled faces were beautiful before? A lot of these procedures are also used by young women to alter their facial features. Cosmetic industry isn’t only serving anti-aging purpose trying to preserve your natural features but making you slightly less tired and aged looking. In fact a lot of women who didn’t used to look great in their younger years find themselves resorting to “alteration” plastic surgeries at the age when anti-aging surgery is fair game. And many also make positive changes to diet/exercise and look better in their 50s than they did in their 30s, more fit, able to wear clothes they couldn’t before.

There is always an assumption that anything A woman does in her 50s is pathetic and isn’t worth it. That’s literally complete BS. And a myth that previously naturally beautiful women just look more terrible after anti-aging procedures than allowing themselves to get wrinkled and saggy is ludicrous. There is bad and good cosmetic work, that’s all there is.

Because I have known a couple of these people for 20 years. It always starts with a little work and progresses to clown territory. Lip filler is an egregious sin, and I can't believe women are paying to deform their lips in the name of "beauty."

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Anonymous wrote:Also, I know a ton of women who are stuck on how they were attractive when they were younger and they somehow think that makes them different from other 50 year olds. I think aging is really rough for women who were considered beauties and some cannot deal. I have never been considered beautiful so 50 is 50. I am not chasing the idea of how hot I allegedly was 25 years ago.

You are just envious towards fit 50s women who can still wear tight dresses and you can’t.
What’s your weight ? If you are not attractive don’t compare yourself to those who have this natural gifts and healthy lifestyle. Men I date tell me I’m beautiful at 48 and have one of the most proportional bodies they ever slept with

Yeah, I'm "just jellus." Wtf. I don't care what clothes you wear or what men tell you. I only care about one man and that's the one I am married to.

My point is that women who are 50 clinging to when they were 25 are sad. I see these women with their botox and filler faces deluding themselves about their age. If you are 50, you are 50. It does not matter how you were 25 years ago unless you can get a time machine and travel back. You should try to look the best you can bur don't pretend you are still 25 or 30.

You are married and your friend may be not as beautiful as you think thus she has ugly matches

And that’s how YOU feel: plain and not desirable. Other women who are successfully dating may feel differently but you came here to bash them. Why is it even bothering you, so happily married ??

Trust me it’s still different for attractive 50s women (truly beautiful women she well) vs plane, average and overweight ladies. In fact, top 20% of fit women in all age groups attract 80% men and vice versa. Men only have a few percentage statistical advantage in dating in middle age and not in all states. Lots of women in 50s don’t even date so 50s men have no choice but trying to tap into younger ones.

I am not bashing women for being 50 and dating. All I am saying is how beautiful someone was in their twenties has nothing to do with it once they are 50. Yes people can get dates. But they are no longer 25 and must accept that.

I'll take your word that men are lining up to date hot 50 year old women. I know a few women around 50 who are divorced. Although attractive they are workaholics and do not date very much.

A certain segment of men will always want younger women. Usually the richer and more successful guys who take good care of themselves can get women younger than them.

You are stating obvious facts: nobody thinks they look 25 at 50. Yes, rich men can buy a younger body. These marriages have very high divorce rates. Your statement that women in their 50s don’t date very much is simply untrue and not supported by statistics. In fact, an higher percentage of 55+ women would remarry over 40+:


Chat GpT states that:

“Approximately 63% of divorced women who are in their 50s will remarry. This figure is slightly higher than the 57% remarriage rate for those in their 30s and 40s, and slightly lower than the 67% for those in their 55 to 64 age group.

So attractive women in their 50s are still dating and according to stats majority will remarry after 55.

Good luck with your husband !

I did not say women in their 50's don't date. Show me where I said that

You literally named the thread “slim pickings”. But in fact these 50+ women are the group that remarries the most ! They must be marrying someone they find remotely attractive

And not all lip fillers are distorting the lips. There are some you wouldn’t notice but they make the lips appear younger

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Anonymous wrote:Also, I know a ton of women who are stuck on how they were attractive when they were younger and they somehow think that makes them different from other 50 year olds. I think aging is really rough for women who were considered beauties and some cannot deal. I have never been considered beautiful so 50 is 50. I am not chasing the idea of how hot I allegedly was 25 years ago.

You are just envious towards fit 50s women who can still wear tight dresses and you can’t.
What’s your weight ? If you are not attractive don’t compare yourself to those who have this natural gifts and healthy lifestyle. Men I date tell me I’m beautiful at 48 and have one of the most proportional bodies they ever slept with

Yeah, I'm "just jellus." Wtf. I don't care what clothes you wear or what men tell you. I only care about one man and that's the one I am married to.

My point is that women who are 50 clinging to when they were 25 are sad. I see these women with their botox and filler faces deluding themselves about their age. If you are 50, you are 50. It does not matter how you were 25 years ago unless you can get a time machine and travel back. You should try to look the best you can bur don't pretend you are still 25 or 30.

You are married and your friend may be not as beautiful as you think thus she has ugly matches

And that’s how YOU feel: plain and not desirable. Other women who are successfully dating may feel differently but you came here to bash them. Why is it even bothering you, so happily married ??

Trust me it’s still different for attractive 50s women (truly beautiful women she well) vs plane, average and overweight ladies. In fact, top 20% of fit women in all age groups attract 80% men and vice versa. Men only have a few percentage statistical advantage in dating in middle age and not in all states. Lots of women in 50s don’t even date so 50s men have no choice but trying to tap into younger ones.

I am not bashing women for being 50 and dating. All I am saying is how beautiful someone was in their twenties has nothing to do with it once they are 50. Yes people can get dates. But they are no longer 25 and must accept that.

I'll take your word that men are lining up to date hot 50 year old women. I know a few women around 50 who are divorced. Although attractive they are workaholics and do not date very much.

A certain segment of men will always want younger women. Usually the richer and more successful guys who take good care of themselves can get women younger than them.

You are stating obvious facts: nobody thinks they look 25 at 50. Yes, rich men can buy a younger body. These marriages have very high divorce rates. Your statement that women in their 50s don’t date very much is simply untrue and not supported by statistics. In fact, an higher percentage of 55+ women would remarry over 40+:


Chat GpT states that:

“Approximately 63% of divorced women who are in their 50s will remarry. This figure is slightly higher than the 57% remarriage rate for those in their 30s and 40s, and slightly lower than the 67% for those in their 55 to 64 age group.

So attractive women in their 50s are still dating and according to stats majority will remarry after 55.

Good luck with your husband !

I did not say women in their 50's don't date. Show me where I said that

You literally named the thread “slim pickings”. But in fact these 50+ women are the group that remarries the most ! They must be marrying someone they find remotely attractive

And not all lip fillers are distorting the lips. There are some you wouldn’t notice but they make the lips appear younger

I did not start the thread so I did not "literally name" anything. Geez.

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Anonymous wrote:My newly divorced friend showed me her options on the dating apps. These older men she is matching with are not physically attractive or the ones who are don’t seem interested or obviously only want sex. I guess all the good ones are taken or prefer a younger woman.

My friend was beautiful in her twenties and thirties. She now looks like an average middle aged woman. She looks great for her age but she is still in her fifties.

Your friend is not in her twenties anymore though. Assuming she is still beautiful her best bet is an attractive upper class man age 60-70.

I made this post and I an a 50 year old married woman. I made it based on seeing tons of 60-ish guys on dates with women who are younger than they are. If my husband divorced me or died I would date older men because most men like women younger than they are.

Women have so much self hatred. I think this post is an example of that. Just thinking that you automatically need to date older men.

My mom met her second husband at 60 and he was just a couple years older, and it was the happiest relationship of her life.

I don't hate myself. I am going by the pattern I have seen throughout my life of men with women who are younger than them, particularly the second marriage. I am the same age as my husband so I know that some people marry at similar ages. However if you look at online dating or go speed dating you will see that there are a lot of men looking for women who are 8-10 years younger than them. I have personally witnessed it at tons of social events and in online dating.

But saying what I see makes me a self hater apparently Lol.

Yes, I’m sure men on online dating would like to date a woman 10 years younger. No one is disputing that. What people are saying is statistically it is rare to date someone 10 years or younger. It just is what it is in. These are statistics and no matter how many 57-year-old men get on DCUM and say they’re banging hot 20-year-olds, it is simply not true.

The fact is less than 10% of couples in America are 10 years apart or older. People tend to date their age or around it and the outliers tend to be incredibly good looking and incredibly wealthy people. It just is what it is and the amount of hate posting about women will change it.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, I know a ton of women who are stuck on how they were attractive when they were younger and they somehow think that makes them different from other 50 year olds. I think aging is really rough for women who were considered beauties and some cannot deal. I have never been considered beautiful so 50 is 50. I am not chasing the idea of how hot I allegedly was 25 years ago.

You are just envious towards fit 50s women who can still wear tight dresses and you can’t.
What’s your weight ? If you are not attractive don’t compare yourself to those who have this natural gifts and healthy lifestyle. Men I date tell me I’m beautiful at 48 and have one of the most proportional bodies they ever slept with

Yeah, I'm "just jellus." Wtf. I don't care what clothes you wear or what men tell you. I only care about one man and that's the one I am married to.

My point is that women who are 50 clinging to when they were 25 are sad. I see these women with their botox and filler faces deluding themselves about their age. If you are 50, you are 50. It does not matter how you were 25 years ago unless you can get a time machine and travel back. You should try to look the best you can bur don't pretend you are still 25 or 30.

How do you know these women with botched botoxed/filled faces were beautiful before? A lot of these procedures are also used by young women to alter their facial features. Cosmetic industry isn’t only serving anti-aging purpose trying to preserve your natural features but making you slightly less tired and aged looking. In fact a lot of women who didn’t used to look great in their younger years find themselves resorting to “alteration” plastic surgeries at the age when anti-aging surgery is fair game. And many also make positive changes to diet/exercise and look better in their 50s than they did in their 30s, more fit, able to wear clothes they couldn’t before.

There is always an assumption that anything A woman does in her 50s is pathetic and isn’t worth it. That’s literally complete BS. And a myth that previously naturally beautiful women just look more terrible after anti-aging procedures than allowing themselves to get wrinkled and saggy is ludicrous. There is bad and good cosmetic work, that’s all there is.

Because I have known a couple of these people for 20 years. It always starts with a little work and progresses to clown territory. Lip filler is an egregious sin, and I can't believe women are paying to deform their lips in the name of "beauty."

Fillers are a sign of bad cosmetic work and also being scared to face the reality that the only truly anti-aging procedure is a surgical lift of various parts. You cannot beat gravity and hormones just by filling up and smoothing out.

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At my 25th high school reunion, the women definitely had aged better than the men. They mostly stayed in decent shape but a lot of men had ballooned. Maybe that was also true at the 30th reunion. So I'm not surprised that lots of divorced women in their 40s find it pretty each to date.

50s might be different. At my 35th reunion, I thought the men started to look better than the women as a group. At the 40th, most of the class looked pretty worn out, but there were stil quite a few fit and good looking men. Most of the women were starting too look like grandmothers.

Sometimes magazines and websites run photo spreads of celebrities in their 50s or 60s. I think the celebrity men usually look better. Some men even look better at 50 than 30. Think George Clooney or Harrison Ford or Paul Newman or Tom Hanks. That's rarely true for the female celebrities (especially white ones).

I think a lot of men look great with some grey hair and lines around their eyes. Also, a fit man may lose a bit of muscle tone at 50 to 60 but his shape will basically be the same. Even if you like grey hair on women, and I like the natural look, you have to admit that most women start to change shape after menopause. By age 55, most women get pretty thick around the middle and they usually aren't perky.

That doesn't mean "slim pickings" necessarily, but I think it does mean that quite a few men in their 50s are attractive to women 10 or 15 years younger, which reduces the number of men in their 50s available for women in their 50s.

I still think most men in their 50s are happy to date women in their 50s, but they aren't unhappy if they hit it off with a woman 10 or years younger, which is very possible without looking ridiculous (like a 70 year old footballbcoach dating a woman 45 years younger).

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10:54, at my 40th, it was a mixed bag with some men and women in shape and others the opposite. The one look I did not like was some of the women who were brunettes and awesome in HS had platinum dyed blonde hair. What's up with that? And then the usual. Cheerleader who gained a ton of weight and dork who looked really good and was fun to speak with.

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At the 40th, most women looked like grandmothers and it wasn’t hot. You are saying the men didn’t look like grandfathers? Or grandfathers can be hot but not grandmothers. Really just sounds like age old misogyny that plays out time and again on this subject.

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Anonymous wrote:Do 50 year old women still even have sex?

Are you kidding?

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Anonymous wrote:Do 50 year old women still even have sex?

Are you kidding?

I am the “are you kidding” poster. I am 47 and told I look younger. My last two partners were 28. I met one of them 3 years ago. They are both still interested.