Why American teens are so sad - four main takeaways
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Anonymous
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I think that the loss of socialization was becoming a problem before the pandemic, but now it is a crisis. I'm not sure that it is a preference for online communication or social media that caused the problem. However, the ever-looming danger of being humiliated through social media makes normal in-person relationships that much more intimidating. Kids are more accepting to being negative and to spreading negativity now in general. They are use to it and they think it’s normal. |
Anonymous
This is sadly true. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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1. Permissive and absent parenting leaves kids without family closeness.
2. Social media. Just plain bad. |
Anonymous
This is why I don’t hang out with other parents at school nor my kid’s friend’s parents. I had kids last in my group of friends, it’s ‘safer’ and a friendlier interaction to hang out with them. Plus I get good parenting tips and they help me with parenting issues. To think it use to bother me to be the last in my group, not any more. They can’t believe how things have gotten worse and “unmanageable.” |
Anonymous
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The reality is that is not safe any more for young women to go outside and run/bike alone.
It has not gotten less safe for females to be outside walking or bike riding. When was it safe? Not in the 90s when I loved to walk alone and bike alone. The predators were out in the high crime 1990s. It's much safer now although safety is never guaranteed. Up-thread, several people have pointed out one huge reason it’s less safe for females to be outside walking around or bike riding in public: it’s because of all the incels out there. It’s more and more common every day now. When are we going to wake up to the fact that boys are predators? Incels because girls have become more “unkind,” less gracious, conceited, wannabes. Doesn’t help they prance around with barely any clothes on- crop tops, super short skirts, shorts. Ass and crotch revealing leggings. What’s the name for girls/women hating women groups? There’s that too. Depression out there, yes. Add anger and the need for anger management to the top of the list. |
Anonymous
Social media is absolutely toxic and it leads to depression. |
Anonymous
In the 20th century it was rare to find a sober mother. We were raised by valium. |
Anonymous
| 3 YEARS OLD ZOMBIE THREAD |
Anonymous
| For those who claim that kids are better prepared / smarter than previous generations; this is incorrect. I hire a new class of 22 year-olds each year and have for 30 years. Intelligence, work ethic, and executive function have been declining since about 2015. The article's author is right about the factors noted, but there is a mega trend that underlies everything: the professional jobs that we were all taught would lead to success and happiness are drying up, so more and more kids are being "trained" for a world that doesn't exist. Ironically, we are inculcating fragility in our kids in order to make them super PMCs (professional managerial class)--but they will find very actual jobs open to them. |
Anonymous
It has not gotten less safe for females to be outside walking or bike riding. When was it safe? Not in the 90s when I loved to walk alone and bike alone. The predators were out in the high crime 1990s. It's much safer now although safety is never guaranteed. Up-thread, several people have pointed out one huge reason it’s less safe for females to be outside walking around or bike riding in public: it’s because of all the incels out there. It’s more and more common every day now. When are we going to wake up to the fact that boys are predators? Incels because girls have become more “unkind,” less gracious, conceited, wannabes. Doesn’t help they prance around with barely any clothes on- crop tops, super short skirts, shorts. Ass and crotch revealing leggings. What’s the name for girls/women hating women groups? There’s that too. Depression out there, yes. Add anger and the need for anger management to the top of the list. This is factually incorrect. Violent victimizations per 100 people have fallen from 747 in 1993 to 381 in 2022 according to Pew and the FBI. Your perception is a perception. In fact, young men have become much shyer and less likely to approach women at all. |
Anonymous
But most teens in previous generations were out and socializing and forming friendship and relationships in person. And yes, there was sex and maybe you don't want that but it is 10x healthier than all the porn, nudes, videos, etc.. that are happening on their phone that you are clueless about. I will add that kids that are bullied are now bullied 24/7 and also to a larger gathering of teens know about the bullying thanks to phones. There is no break when they get home from school and it can spread all everywhere |
Anonymous
| I think it is mostly the lack of in person socialization. My son rarely sees friends outside of organized activities, and he is a high school junior. It's all video games while on the phone with classmates. |
Anonymous
I agree with this and I will also add that most young adults and teens lack grit and perseverance. I mean many of us now do too. Computer, phones, AI, ChatGPT have taught kids there is instant gratification. But parents have also made this worse. They fight teachers for grades instead of holding their kid responsible. Move their kids off sports teams so easily, sometimes mid season. They get paid help in work teens used to do at home (Jiffy lube, lawn services, car washes, power washers, and sometimes even housekeeping. Kids and teens have a much easier life. I mean look at DCUM. There are parents looking for babysitters of TEENS who should be babysitting. We coddle and baby them but hand them a phone with a screen to stare at for the average 8-10hours a day (per many poles) If you step back and think about it, a lot of this is our fault. I mean look at the parents fighting about taking phones out of school. How stupid are we? They should have never ever been inside schools. But here we are. |
Anonymous
| I would agree it is screens, lazy parents, and over accommodating every discomfort. The amount of teens on anxiety meds, SSRIs, and receiving regular therapy sessions is astounding. They don’t even have real problems yet |