How To Find A SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:Make a ton of money. A fair amount of women would be willing to do the bulk of of the child/household work, so long as you make plenty to provide a good lifestyle and house help when she needs/wants it, since you aren’t willing to pitch in. She will also want to make sure, in the event of divorce, that her “half” will be still be a lot and keep her comfortable , since she pretty much gave up a career and even if she goes back to work, so won’t make nearly what she could have or once did.

OP here. I was in a relationship that just ended here I thought I found the one. We were very in love and happy but she refused to sign a prenup. I own multiple businesses and have a decent net worth. A prenup is non-negotiable. Most women do not want to sign one.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m a very high earner and work 70-80 hour weeks. I will be involved as I possibly can with kids, but she will be the default parent. We will hire help with childcare and housekeeping, but she will manage the day-to-day responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, shuffling kids to school, etc. My parents had the same setup and it worked. My dad was very involved in raising us, but my mom did the bulk of it.

Define “very high earner.” Are you talking 300 or 400 thousand? Or seven figures?

Are you on board with hiring a housekeeper and babysitters or nannies or night nurses?

Are do you expect your wife to do all the cleaning and cooking and childcare without our sourcing?

OP here. I’m looking for a normal relationship. I do not want an arranged marriage or a religious person. I also do not want anyone that is younger than 30. A mature women is more important to me than a younger woman.

I’m more than fine with her having her own career. What I do want is her to stay at home while the kids need FT care because I do not want them to be 100% raised by nannies.

I make in the $400k/year range and have assets in the millions range.

Is any of your wealth from family or family biz? Or r u totally self made? (Ie start up wealth)

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Okay. Tell me what I’m doing wrong and how to fix it to attract a woman with these qualities

Age: 30-35. A little younger is fine but I do not want a woman younger than 28. I need to have things in common and need a mature woman who has a good amount of life experience. I want a woman who knows what she wants.

Career: A woman who wants to be a lifelong SAHM or out her career on hold at least PT to be home with the kids when they need FT care.

Wife: I want a true partner. An actual marriage with respect and love. I do not want a mail order bride.

A woman ideally willing to sign a prenup relinquishing any rights to my businesses. It’s not unreasonable for me to protect my assets.

I will be involved as I can. I plan to be an involved parent and spouse.

Most of the women I attract now either do not want to a SAHM or are gold diggers and get upset when I bring up a prenup.

Kids need two active parents through age 22 really. Frankly they need more real guidance and attn age 13-18. Real guidance.

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Not tasks like nap, diaper, purées, abcs.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you OP. I don’t know why or how my brothers and lots of friends ended up in these great marriages. The partnerships are amazing to watch. These couples host the best Christmas parties and summer cookouts. Something special with a confident SAHM. I couldn’t find one. She went back to work and then we divorced. But I wish you the best.

That's because hosting Christmas parties and summer cookouts with nothing else going on intellectually is boring as shit!

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You have two choices, OP. Offer a better deal or lower your standards. The market is not buying what you are selling.

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$400 k a year is not that much. Asking a woman to give up her earning power and raise kids isn't going to work if you insist on a pre-nup. I am a SAHM with four kids married to my college sweetheart. He has a lot of life insurance and all money is in both of our names.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, you aren’t that rich. $400k is not huge salary around here with kids.

How many kids? $40-50k/year private school for each. $6k each for travel sports.

$2 million for a house in any great neighborhood.

I make what you do. I’m a woman.

Ordinary income is for suckers.
ESOP, more stock options, carry incentives, royalties, dividends are much wiser.
Incorporate yourself too.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question - why have kids if you don't really want anything to do with them?

If you want to be hands-off and continue working 80 hour weeks, just stay a bachelor and become an awesome uncle.

It's not okay to bring children into this world if you're not totally invested in it. And I don't mean financially - children would rather have an involved parent than college tuition or a car.

Ego, image, perception of success.

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Anonymous wrote:mail order bride from a 3rd world country?

But be careful, I've known a few men who have done this, and the women all left the men as soon as they got their green cards. Buyer beware.

I’ve seen this many times too...

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There are a lot of Duggar women not yet married. Also, mail-order brides.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 37 and single. I’ve been trying I find a certain type of woman and just haven’t. You can say I’m looking for a 1950’s housewife. I don’t expect a servant or anything like that, but I wanted a woman who wants to stay at home taking care of her kids and husband. I’m looking for a woman who wants to take care of raising the kids and responsibilities of the household, while I work and manage things like finances. Most of the women I meet want to be a SAHM only short-term, or want to be a SAHM but expect the man to be a 50/50 partner in childcare and household responsibilities. I’m looking for a woman who can handle the bulk of it. How do I find a woman like this?

many responses are off topic. the last 5-10 pages of responses don't answer the question posed here: HOW DO I FIND A WOMAN LIKE THIS? instead they are questioning/discussing the OPs point of view, his finances, his family history, etc etc
.. YO OP .. there was only one good piece of advice in all the noise over the last dozen or so pages of this thread. hire a professional match maker .. one who specializes in matching high net worth individuals. don't waste time on tinder etc or especially on forums like this. INVEST in your future .. spend time researching professional match makers .. they don't come cheap but you are much more likely to find what you are looking for. and the good ones are very confidential and exclusive.

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Op where do you live ? Where can we find you ?

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Anonymous wrote:Is it only me, or 400k is just not enough money to expect a wife that does not work? It is good money, but if the wife does not work and has some help, that won’t give you a very confortabile lifestyle. I am guessing you want to have 2 or 3 kids. You probably want to send them to Private school and have them do sports and camps, etc... unless you make 800+ your wife should be working so you can have that comfortable lifestyle.
The housewives someone mentioned you could meet at charity events and private schools have hisband’s that make milltions

lol - this is so dcum it hurts.

We don’t know his bonuses, assets, appreciation, etc. There’s a reason Buffett has a one dollar salary. Salary is taxed to the max! That’s why Politicians target income taxes rates, it doesn’t affect their 0.1% donor buddies with the wealth.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m a very high earner and work 70-80 hour weeks. I will be involved as I possibly can with kids, but she will be the default parent. We will hire help with childcare and housekeeping, but she will manage the day-to-day responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, shuffling kids to school, etc. My parents had the same setup and it worked. My dad was very involved in raising us, but my mom did the bulk of it.

Find an administrative assistant. That’s how my high earning husband found me. I worked until we had kids and then I was lucky to stay at home with them while he handled the high pressure corporate world. I get you OP. Most people on here won’t.

but did you sign a prenup? Did your husband ignore the kids until they were 8 because he didn't like little kids?