Please let me shamelessly brag here: I am so happy I only have 1 child!

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Anonymous wrote:I have three and I think many posters here were cruel against OP. I think (maybe because I have three) that there are many more women that wished they could have more, but couldn’t than women who had multiples and regretted that decision.
So I think it’s cruel for women that like me have many kids to tell everyone how amazing it is to have a bunch of kids... we had them so obviously we prefer that to having only one or we would have stopped at 1.

Several women are happy with 1 and they made the conscious choice of stopping (like OP), but others did not have a choice... life chose for them... because I was more fortunate than those women, I need to think about their feelings before I write about how amazing it is to have 3 kids

I can only speak of myself but I wouldn’t be offended if you talked to me about how great it is. I wouldn’t believe you though OP

It’s great and difficult at the same time OP. I know your would not be offended because you chose to have only one. I was talking about women who wanted more, but were not able to... it is cruel towards them

Thank you. I die a little every time someone smugly goes on about how amazing and irreplaceable the bond is between siblings. I did five IVFs and had three miscarriages chasing a sibling for my child. Posts like OP’s remind me that there ARE advantages to one, and I’m grateful for that.

I still can’t get over the earlier poster who told terrible stories of only children dying. Most people are not as thoughtful as you, mom-of-three.

Siblings are only great if everyone gets along. I have no relationship with my sibling. And, after what she did recently along with my parents, I hope never to have any contact with any of them again. You can have one child and a really good strong relationship with them. You can have three kids and none get along with each other or you or it can be wonderful. Its not cut and dry. My sibling was always mean to mean. I would have much preferred to be an only but since I was the youngest it would have been better if my parents stopped at one.

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I’m happy I have 2 for many reasons, but I think it’s great and healthy to be happy with what you have in life, so I’m not going to tear your post down. There are pluses and minuses to every family scenario, including child free.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m happy I have 2 for many reasons, but I think it’s great and healthy to be happy with what you have in life, so I’m not going to tear your post down. There are pluses and minuses to every family scenario, including child free.

Except OP is tearing others down for having two. She thinks she can give more to her anxious, introverted kid whose dad neglects him and who she did not like to parent very much much of his life. But she is not exactly giving more to him, is she?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m happy I have 2 for many reasons, but I think it’s great and healthy to be happy with what you have in life, so I’m not going to tear your post down. There are pluses and minuses to every family scenario, including child free.

Except OP is tearing others down for having two. She thinks she can give more to her anxious, introverted kid whose dad neglects him and who she did not like to parent very much much of his life. But she is not exactly giving more to him, is she?

Yikes. NP here. Get over yourself!

OP, I was an only child and I have an only child. It's fabulous! We realistically don't have enough resources for another child, so one is great. We are very close and it's all very doable.

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I have 2 and wish I’d stopped at one. My second born has a rare genetic disease and will have profound special needs. I wish we hadn’t pushed our luck.

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I'd rather hear what OP has to say than most parents who moan day in and day out about the kids that they wanted to have. One friend is freaking out about #3 and groaning about figuring out logistics with child care and paying for a new mortgage. Both the mcmansion home purchase and #3 were planned. I don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 and wish I’d stopped at one. My second born has a rare genetic disease and will have profound special needs. I wish we hadn’t pushed our luck.

Did you test during pregnancy? I absolutely would adore adore a second but this is my biggest fear and anxiety and I can’t get past this potential scenario.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 and wish I’d stopped at one. My second born has a rare genetic disease and will have profound special needs. I wish we hadn’t pushed our luck.

Did you test during pregnancy? I absolutely would adore adore a second but this is my biggest fear and anxiety and I can’t get past this potential scenario.

Pp here. Yes I did NIPT and nuchal translucency-both showed no issues. I didn’t do an amnio-not sure if that would have picked it up.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 and wish I’d stopped at one. My second born has a rare genetic disease and will have profound special needs. I wish we hadn’t pushed our luck.

Did you test during pregnancy? I absolutely would adore adore a second but this is my biggest fear and anxiety and I can’t get past this potential scenario.

Pp here. Yes I did NIPT and nuchal translucency-both showed no issues. I didn’t do an amnio-not sure if that would have picked it up.

I think amnio only picks up some genetic issues. I am very risk adverse and for our last baby we did genetic testing (spit from both DH and I). Our kid was fine (so far), but I discovered that DH is a carrier for a hearing disease and my kids have 25% chances of being carriers as well. Also, if they marry someone with the same gene, their kids will have 50% chance of being deaf.
There was still so much unknown. A geneticist told me that even you do all the test known to mankind, there are still 40-60% of issues you can’t test for

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Anonymous wrote:I’m happy I have 2 for many reasons, but I think it’s great and healthy to be happy with what you have in life, so I’m not going to tear your post down. There are pluses and minuses to every family scenario, including child free.

Except OP is tearing others down for having two. She thinks she can give more to her anxious, introverted kid whose dad neglects him and who she did not like to parent very much much of his life. But she is not exactly giving more to him, is she?

Well hello again, bully! Didn’t I wish you a nice life? FYI being introverted is not a bad thing... good night! -Op

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 and wish I’d stopped at one. My second born has a rare genetic disease and will have profound special needs. I wish we hadn’t pushed our luck.

I am sorry about that, PP...
-OP

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, it’s fine, people are trying hard to find grounds for bullying, whatever.
I do enjoy my kid and always have, but I don’t enjoy limitations that come with parenting.

I think a lot of people are just triggered by someone they perceive as judging their choice of number of children, something everyone is kind of insecure about. Especially if you have young kids and are overwhelmed, you probably question the choice and have to remind yourself of the good parts all the time.

Speak for yourself. I have never once felt insecure about the number of children I have. I don’t think any of my friends are either. We’re also secure in our choices to either work or stay home. People with such insecurities like yours should really stay away from the internet. Or seek help. Or both.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, it’s fine, people are trying hard to find grounds for bullying, whatever.
I do enjoy my kid and always have, but I don’t enjoy limitations that come with parenting.

I think a lot of people are just triggered by someone they perceive as judging their choice of number of children, something everyone is kind of insecure about. Especially if you have young kids and are overwhelmed, you probably question the choice and have to remind yourself of the good parts all the time.

Speak for yourself. I have never once felt insecure about the number of children I have. I don’t think any of my friends are either. We’re also secure in our choices to either work or stay home. People with such insecurities like yours should really stay away from the internet. Or seek help. Or both.

DP. Look, you’re clearly not quite right in the head if you’re coming on this kind of thread to scold other people about their insecurities. I wouldn’t be too smug if I were you.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh...my kids all don't like "only" children. Say they can tell right off who is and they are entitled, think the world revolves around them, and are unable to share. So good luck

Your kids sound like jerks. So good luck!

Seriously. It's also an outdated view.

I remember as a kid in elementary, an adult contemptuously asking me if I was an only child because I ordered a burger plain at McDonald's. I told her that actually, I'm the middle child of three. People have stereotypes, and look for examples that fit them (confirmation bias). That's all.

Love all the push back I'm getting from parents of onlies here. I didn't ask them - they say it themselves. Brought up independently. And yes, to all of you chiming in with how much bettered mannered - totally agree. They are also wonderful at manipulating adults. As you can see...

I’m one of the PPs who responded to your disgusting post and I have multiple children and I am also not an only child. But the fact that you and your kids can’t see that kids can be entitled whether there are one or more of them speaks volumes about all of you. And none of it is good.