He runs with her 5-6 days a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is probably just a good running buddy and a very close friend but that doesn't mean he's having an affair with her. I worked closely with a colleague for 2 years- we shared an office and told each other just about everything we did in our outside life. He was a "best friend" and we were very close. But neither of us ever tried taking it beyond this- we were both married and never crossed the boundaries. In a prior job, two of my colleagues (male and female) trained for a marathon together- they spent most nights running after work and then would do long runs on weekends. We could all see the spark- but she ended up marrying her fiance who was in another state getting a law degree- i'm pretty sure that they never did anything more than run.
Tell your DH that you've seen the "gorgeous", etc. texts and explain it makes you uncomfortable. Ask that he let the running mate know this.

Avoid looking insecure. Talk about the "gorgeous" thing, but to discuss how strange it is, and see what he says, don't raise it as a way to tell him how to talk to his friend.

[Anonymous]

Don't listen to these fools. They are having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Jesus, people, read the thread before replying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus, people, read the thread before replying.

It’s 20 pages. Sum it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus, people, read the thread before replying.

It’s 20 pages. Sum it up.

They kissed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why isn't he running with a male partner? Most men run faster/at a different than most women do. I was a high school/college runner. I still run now. The girls trained in their own pacing group while the guys trained in their own. Sometimes the exceptionally fast female runner would join the middle of the pack men's group. That's a tiny detail but I still find it weird that he's sticking to a female to run with. Probably doesn't mean anything

Anyways. Why not invite her and her husband out on a double date with you guys? It can give you a chance to establish more of a relationship with her, to observe your husband and her together, and even to see what her relationship with her husband is like.

IDK female runner here. I run with guys sometimes. If you are a woman who can run 8ish minute miles, you can find a lot of guys who will run with you. Sometimes I like running with a guy friend because he speeds up my pace on days I want to go harder.

[Anonymous]

Ok PP. Good lord. This isn't like they're running b/c they have same running times. Do you kiss every guy who keeps up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus, people, read the thread before replying.

It’s 20 pages. Sum it up.

They kissed.

If he admitted that, then they f**ked.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have attractive colleagues. I'm attractive (face, height and figure) and so is DH and we set boundaries with coworkers. Last year I had to work late every single night with a VERY attractive coworker. We had a deadline and it took 2 months of working late together to get it out the door on time. I know his wife through work events, she's nice but we aren't friends. I had heard she was jealous through office gossip. I made damn sure I was as professional and platonic as possible with co-worker. He is flirtatious but I cut it right up by having a conversation with him about it. I would have NEVER sent a text calling him handsome or gorgeous. I sent things like: "We need to follow up on XYZ so bring the ABC brief" if I needed to reach him via text. This lady is breaking boundaries and that is what is setting your alarm bells off. And you are correct to follow your instinct.

[Anonymous]

People! Read the whole thread!

Geez. They admitted to kissing, which is a physical affair already.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's been a month - are you running with him now? Does he still see his old running partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People! Read the whole thread!

Geez. They admitted to kissing, which is a physical affair already.

Yup. Trust your instincts people. If it walks like a duck...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus, people, read the thread before replying.

It’s 20 pages. Sum it up.

They kissed.

If he admitted that, then they f**ked.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's been a month - are you running with him now? Does he still see his old running partner?

Wondering the same thing, but I'm guessing op stopped/gave up after trying to keep up with dh by the 3rd morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's been a month - are you running with him now? Does he still see his old running partner?

Wondering the same thing, but I'm guessing op stopped/gave up after trying to keep up with dh by the 3rd morning.

Please, this was never about running. Stop blaming the OP - her husband is a dirtbag.