Just got grief for bringing 5 yo DS into the women's locker room

[Anonymous]

What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?


Pools with family changing rooms.


None that I know of in Alexandria, Arlington, or Fairfax counties that have family changing rooms. Is it a private pool, or in MD or DC?
Family changing rooms are at Oak Marr, Spring Hill, Lee District Rec Center, Providence, Cub Run, Audrey Moore, ...They ALL have family changing rooms.

Yes, I understand that these pools have family changing rooms. What they do not have, however, is a cutoff age of 3 for kids in the opposite sex locker room. We are looking for the elusive pool that has both.

[Anonymous]

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I am polite, but firm, and tell them that the rules of the pool are that boys over the age of 3 are too big to be in the ladies' locker room and that they should use the family locker rooms

What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?

Turkey Thicket Rec Center in NE DC.

This is NOT true. These are the rules for Turkey Thicket and all other DPR pools:

http://dpr.dc.gov/service/pool-rules-and-safety

Read this in particular:

All parents with children, ages 6 and up, must use gender-appropriate locker rooms/family changing rooms. If you have special needs or require assistance, please contact a DPR Aquatics staff member or pool manager.

This is also important:

Children younger than 6 years must be accompanied by an adult—in swim attire—at all times, and must be within an arm's length of the adult when in the pool.


So I think we have now settled that PP is talking BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?


Pools with family changing rooms.


None that I know of in Alexandria, Arlington, or Fairfax counties that have family changing rooms. Is it a private pool, or in MD or DC?
Family changing rooms are at Oak Marr, Spring Hill, Lee District Rec Center, Providence, Cub Run, Audrey Moore, ...They ALL have family changing rooms.

Yes, I understand that these pools have family changing rooms. What they do not have, however, is a cutoff age of 3 for kids in the opposite sex locker room. We are looking for the elusive pool that has both.

No we are looking for the elusive pool that has a cut off of 3 AND does not have a family changing room.

[Anonymous]

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Don't lie. At least two clubs (mine and Turkey something have been mentioned on here with a cut-off at 3 years old for opposite sex changing rooms.

If you don't like the rules, change your membership. Or lobby to have the rules changed.

For the record I have not lied. I did not see any reference to a cut off of 3 and I don't believe it exists. Not unless there are family changing rooms available.

Ignorant rather than malicious then.

Okay, go ahead and give me links to rules of pools that 1) do not have family changing rooms and 2) have a cut of of 3. I'd prefer a link to an online page of rules, but failing that if you just give me the name, I'll go ahead and call to confirm what you're saying - I have plenty of time to waste today, plus I know you won't do that because they just don't exist (no reasonable person or organization would ever expect a 3 year old to go into a locker room on his own).

To avoid ambiguity, please reply with a statement like this:

[name of pool] does not have family changing rooms and any child over the age of 3 is required to change in the changing room of the appropriate sex, without appropriate supervision if with an opposite sex parent.

Thanks.

If you have time, go through the thread. Some of us have jobs. Must be nice to be a SAHM with that much time to kill.

As do I, (I agree it would be very nice to be a SAHM)-I knew I wouldn't need to do this work because you CAN'T PROVIDE THE INFORMATION BECAUSE YOU ARE LYING. There is no information that confirms this anywhere in this thread. However I have posted the rules at DPR pools in the district, which back up my assumptions. How about you post some info to back up your crazy claims?

Wow. You are both nuts which is your business but your little catfight has nothing to do with being a SAHM or a WOHM or a WOHD. Though it seems the one area where you agree AND are both wrong. If that doesn't make you question your bias, then don't know what will. Now you can go back to your spitting and scratching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What pool has a cutoff age of 3 for children in the opposite sex locker room?


Pools with family changing rooms.


None that I know of in Alexandria, Arlington, or Fairfax counties that have family changing rooms. Is it a private pool, or in MD or DC?
Family changing rooms are at Oak Marr, Spring Hill, Lee District Rec Center, Providence, Cub Run, Audrey Moore, ...They ALL have family changing rooms.

Yes, I understand that these pools have family changing rooms. What they do not have, however, is a cutoff age of 3 for kids in the opposite sex locker room. We are looking for the elusive pool that has both.

No we are looking for the elusive pool that has a cut off of 3 AND does not have a family changing room.

The Wheaton pool does not have a family changing room (and the women's is pretty nasty but lots of nice moms).

If you read the above statements the limit is six but the make accominidations for special needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you or your family members have trouble with those who follow pool rules and bring their opposite sex (girl or boy),children into the locker room -- again, following rules -- then you all need to stay home or, as some of you have recommended, simply cover yourselves with a robe or towel, then dash out to you nicely warmed car, and get dress in the privacy of your own homes. A pool is a public place.

Also, what do you think would happen after the first little kid complained about being sexually harassed, ogled or molested in a same-sex locker room? Big lawsuit! Hope your "private" pool stays open after that!

You get dressed in private if you are concerned. We have older cars and they take 10 minutes to start to get warm. I have no issue with wet hair as I go out with wet hair but never wet clothing. That is poor judgement.

[Anonymous]

I think it is funny that my kid could not go to kindergarten this year missing the cut off, but some think it is ok for him to be in a locker room alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is funny that my kid could not go to kindergarten this year missing the cut off, but some think it is ok for him to be in a locker room alone.

Good point! My son and I are off to the pool now. It's 24 degrees out now. It will be colder in an hour and a half. I will change him out of his wet suit before we leave. I hope no one in the locker room minds.

[Anonymous]

People need to chill out about boys seeing them change. My son is 6 and has ASD. He's in a regular classroom with an IEP, has friends, and generally leads a relatively normal kid life. Our pool does not have a family locker room. He really did not want to use the women's locker room to change and so I allowed him to go into the men's alone -he is capable of removing his own wet suit. He somehow got disoriented and completely freaked out - an older man kindly brought him out to me. We have not gone swimming since.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People need to chill out about boys seeing them change. My son is 6 and has ASD. He's in a regular classroom with an IEP, has friends, and generally leads a relatively normal kid life. Our pool does not have a family locker room. He really did not want to use the women's locker room to change and so I allowed him to go into the men's alone -he is capable of removing his own wet suit. He somehow got disoriented and completely freaked out - an older man kindly brought him out to me. We have not gone swimming since.

No, dear, you need to chill out. By all means take him swimming but change him in a family locker room, in the hall w/a towel, at home, etc. once he exceeds the age to go in the opposite sex bathroom, then he and you need to follow the rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is funny that my kid could not go to kindergarten this year missing the cut off, but some think it is ok for him to be in a locker room alone.

That is because the cut-off for locker rooms is not necessarily the same as the cut-off for kindergarten. You could suggest to the management of your pool that they make the cut-off "children who are in kindergarten or higher grades must use the locker room appropriate to their gender", instead of "children who are 5 or older must use the locker room appropriate to their gender". Or, more practically, you could suggest to the management that "6 or older" would be better than "5 or older".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is funny that my kid could not go to kindergarten this year missing the cut off, but some think it is ok for him to be in a locker room alone.

That is because the cut-off for locker rooms is not necessarily the same as the cut-off for kindergarten. You could suggest to the management of your pool that they make the cut-off "children who are in kindergarten or higher grades must use the locker room appropriate to their gender", instead of "children who are 5 or older must use the locker room appropriate to their gender". Or, more practically, you could suggest to the management that "6 or older" would be better than "5 or older".

A kid at 18 could fight in a war and get married but not drink alcohol. Life has rules.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People need to chill out about boys seeing them change. My son is 6 and has ASD. He's in a regular classroom with an IEP, has friends, and generally leads a relatively normal kid life. Our pool does not have a family locker room. He really did not want to use the women's locker room to change and so I allowed him to go into the men's alone -he is capable of removing his own wet suit. He somehow got disoriented and completely freaked out - an older man kindly brought him out to me. We have not gone swimming since.

No, dear, you need to chill out. By all means take him swimming but change him in a family locker room, in the hall w/a towel, at home, etc. once he exceeds the age to go in the opposite sex bathroom, then he and you need to follow the rules.

Do you not understand that not all pools have a family bathroom? She needs to bring him into the women's or ask a male staff member to escort him and assist (though most places have rules about physical touching due to accusations). How is it acceptable for a six year old to change in the hallway or public area? Isn't that creating the same problem problem as going to the women's bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is funny that my kid could not go to kindergarten this year missing the cut off, but some think it is ok for him to be in a locker room alone.

That is because the cut-off for locker rooms is not necessarily the same as the cut-off for kindergarten. You could suggest to the management of your pool that they make the cut-off "children who are in kindergarten or higher grades must use the locker room appropriate to their gender", instead of "children who are 5 or older must use the locker room appropriate to their gender". Or, more practically, you could suggest to the management that "6 or older" would be better than "5 or older".

I can't imagine anyone would say anything or care where we go. I am not suggesting anything. I am quickly changing my child and leaving.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is funny that my kid could not go to kindergarten this year missing the cut off, but some think it is ok for him to be in a locker room alone.

Good point! My son and I are off to the pool now. It's 24 degrees out now. It will be colder in an hour and a half. I will change him out of his wet suit before we leave. I hope no one in the locker room minds.

Have fun!