Wife won’t sleep with me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your long play at work is more important to you than spending time with your family. Great way to end up alone when you’re old.

Did OP say how much he makes per year, because realistically that totally does make a difference. Especially in how much family stuff she should expect from him. In we exchange for sex, I guess.

How does it make a difference?

He comes from a billionaire family that has drivers, maids, butlers, cooks, house cleaners, house managers, onsite maintenance, concierge healthcare, private jets & pilots, estate managers, an army of attorneys, governess Nannies, etc.?

Plus works all the time making millions per year.

So all that in exchange for sex when he’s in town or not at the office?

I know women who would go for that.

Sign me up.

Sounds like the dude isn’t even around most of the time. Just me, the kids and staff. Easy peasy.

[Anonymous]

So then that’s not the same PP. He’s not around making messes all the time and being rude. To the staff or the wife. Plus the billionaire guy isn’t likely to be an utter slob given his upbringing.

[Anonymous]

I don't think we have enough information to say whether OP truly is or is not a good husband, but I agree that rekindling the sexual fire is tough.

I'm always amazed at the level of anger in here. Marriages sometimes fall apart and it's sad for all concerned when that happens, whether the household duties are split 50-50 or not, and whether the salaries are roughly equal or not. Couples' sex lives sometimes deteriorate and that's also sad and common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think we have enough information to say whether OP truly is or is not a good husband, but I agree that rekindling the sexual fire is tough.

I'm always amazed at the level of anger in here. Marriages sometimes fall apart and it's sad for all concerned when that happens, whether the household duties are split 50-50 or not, and whether the salaries are roughly equal or not. Couples' sex lives sometimes deteriorate and that's also sad and common.

I know!

Just so weird how things fall apart and no one knows why.

Such a mystery.

[Anonymous]

Almost 20 pages and OP never responded. You all realize this is a troll, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s been more than a few years and we both work, now have two middle schoolers and did a big move to the area two years back.

I get frisky and initiate but she does not reciprocate. Once she got sad and said it’s because she is too hurt, something about how I’m not helping run the family and then I get angry when it’s brought up. I work very hard and am playing the long game at work. We also take great family vacations.

But is no sex a grounds for divorce? Sounds like she also is unhappy but about other stuff.

You both work outside the home but “you work very hard” so you don’t need to “run the family”

Is the implication that although your wife also works and does everything for the kids and family that because she isn’t “working hard” at work it’s ok that everything is dumped on her forever?

And you probably did a “big move” with kids in elementary school a few years ago for your job (I imagine you would have said if it was for her job) but she’s been the person navigating the kids through that while you “play the long game.”

I’m surprised you can’t understand that your dropping the rope on literally everything except for your job has resulted in your wife not wanting to have sex with you. You need couples therapy if you want to save your marriage. You need to learn how to communicate and listen to each other, and then you need to figure out whether you have the capacity to stay married …. And how that marriage is going to look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one avoid sounding desperate, without backing off?

Start ur own thread. No one knows wtf you are talking about.

Giving someone space is not the topic of this thread.

This thread is some selfish bozo who neglects and mistreats his wife and then demands sex.
Him backing off of his sex demands won’t lead to jack $hit in any aspect of his or her life. He needs to stop the neglect and mistreatment.

Or a wife that misinterprets his actions because she can’t communicate her expectations and blames him forr not reading her mind. He s the one seeking help from DCUM over HER crazy BS.

Did...did you even read the OP?

Once she got sad and said it’s because she is too hurt, something about how I’m not helping run the family and then I get angry when it’s brought up... Sounds like she also is unhappy but about other stuff.

This sounds exactly like she HAS communicated and he isn't listening - or caring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s been more than a few years and we both work, now have two middle schoolers and did a big move to the area two years back.

I get frisky and initiate but she does not reciprocate. Once she got sad and said it’s because she is too hurt, something about how I’m not helping run the family and then I get angry when it’s brought up. I work very hard and am playing the long game at work. We also take great family vacations.

But is no sex a grounds for divorce? Sounds like she also is unhappy but about other stuff.

You both work outside the home but “you work very hard” so you don’t need to “run the family”

Is the implication that although your wife also works and does everything for the kids and family that because she isn’t “working hard” at work it’s ok that everything is dumped on her forever?

And you probably did a “big move” with kids in elementary school a few years ago for your job (I imagine you would have said if it was for her job) but she’s been the person navigating the kids through that while you “play the long game.”

I’m surprised you can’t understand that your dropping the rope on literally everything except for your job has resulted in your wife not wanting to have sex with you. You need couples therapy if you want to save your marriage. You need to learn how to communicate and listen to each other, and then you need to figure out whether you have the capacity to stay married …. And how that marriage is going to look.

+1 million

Truth. Close the thread.

Op can’t handle the truth.