Wife won’t sleep with me

[Anonymous]

How does one avoid sounding desperate, without backing off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does one avoid sounding desperate, without backing off?

Start ur own thread. No one knows wtf you are talking about.

Giving someone space is not the topic of this thread.

This thread is some selfish bozo who neglects and mistreats his wife and then demands sex.
Him backing off of his sex demands won’t lead to jack $hit in any aspect of his or her life. He needs to stop the neglect and mistreatment.

[Anonymous]

Tbh, once the interest is gone, it's unlikely to come back. Wife is resentful, you most likely are bad in bed (you're obviously selfish, so she gets nothing out of it, just a chore for her), you're uglier and lazier. Once wife hits menopause, she'll not care at all. I always wonder about these people who behave like s* and then expect other people to pretend like nothing happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone in a similar situation tried backing off for awhile to give spouse time to miss their interest? If so, was this approach successful?

Yes. It was successful in terms of me just getting to live my life without being so worried about what my spouse thinks of me. It was not successful in terms of being able to manipulate my spouse’s behavior. But that’s really okay. I don’t need to control them any more than I needed to let them control me.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your long play at work is more important to you than spending time with your family. Great way to end up alone when you’re old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tbh, once the interest is gone, it's unlikely to come back. Wife is resentful, you most likely are bad in bed (you're obviously selfish, so she gets nothing out of it, just a chore for her), you're uglier and lazier. Once wife hits menopause, she'll not care at all.

I always wonder about these people who behave like s* and then expect other people to pretend like nothing happened.

For starters they’re deep in denial about their own poor behaviors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s been more than a few years and we both work, now have two middle schoolers and did a big move to the area two years back.

I get frisky and initiate but she does not reciprocate. Once she got sad and said it’s because she is too hurt, something about how I’m not helping run the family and then I get angry when it’s brought up. I work very hard and am playing the long game at work. We also take great family vacations.

But is no sex a grounds for divorce? Sounds like she also is unhappy but about other stuff.

Do you sleep in one bed, or separate beds and diff bedrooms? My wife also doesn’t want to have sex for at least 5-6 years now. I do most of the home tasks and kids duty, play with the kids and take them to activities. She has said in the past that she doesn’t like sex. But she is just too selfish - only cares about her job and her former family, meaning, she talks more often and much more with her parents and sibling that with me.

[Anonymous]

Just serve her papers and move on to greener pastures, that is woman’s honesty. She is cheating and only brings up her dissatisfaction when she can use it against you. RUN!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tbh, once the interest is gone, it's unlikely to come back. Wife is resentful, you most likely are bad in bed (you're obviously selfish, so she gets nothing out of it, just a chore for her), you're uglier and lazier. Once wife hits menopause, she'll not care at all. I always wonder about these people who behave like s* and then expect other people to pretend like nothing happened.

OP- Don’t listen to this idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one avoid sounding desperate, without backing off?

Start ur own thread. No one knows wtf you are talking about.

Giving someone space is not the topic of this thread.

This thread is some selfish bozo who neglects and mistreats his wife and then demands sex.
Him backing off of his sex demands won’t lead to jack $hit in any aspect of his or her life. He needs to stop the neglect and mistreatment.

Or a wife that misinterprets his actions because she can’t communicate her expectations and blames him forr not reading her mind. He s the one seeking help from DCUM over HER crazy BS.

[Anonymous]

I'm not reading 18 pages but I'm pretty sure this is a troll post by the wife who said this is what her husband has been doing, trying to get the other side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your long play at work is more important to you than spending time with your family. Great way to end up alone when you’re old.

Did OP say how much he makes per year, because realistically that totally does make a difference. Especially in how much family stuff she should expect from him. In we exchange for sex, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your long play at work is more important to you than spending time with your family. Great way to end up alone when you’re old.

Did OP say how much he makes per year, because realistically that totally does make a difference. Especially in how much family stuff she should expect from him. In we exchange for sex, I guess.

Lol

If you do not care then don’t have kids, and don’t get married.

Or be up front that you don’t intend to do anything for her, for any kids, or for the house or family schedule or for hiring help. Someone else will have to do all of that. And definitely don’t move far from her support group to go make a lot per year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your long play at work is more important to you than spending time with your family. Great way to end up alone when you’re old.

Did OP say how much he makes per year, because realistically that totally does make a difference. Especially in how much family stuff she should expect from him. In we exchange for sex, I guess.

How does it make a difference?

He comes from a billionaire family that has drivers, maids, butlers, cooks, house cleaners, house managers, onsite maintenance, concierge healthcare, private jets & pilots, estate managers, an army of attorneys, governess Nannies, etc.?

Plus works all the time making millions per year.

So all that in exchange for sex when he’s in town or not at the office?

I know women who would go for that.

[Anonymous]

Do your part around the house and get an AP.