Neither AC wants kids. I can't help feeling like I failed.

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Anonymous wrote:I suggest therapy. This type of thinking isn’t making you feel good and you might benefit from counseling to overcome it.

I will add this as gently as I can. Your kids may not want children due how they were parented.

I had a mentally ill mother and she was mostly terrible. For years, I had no desire for kids because I didn’t want to pass on the trauma and illness.

Only after many years did I have children and only after I had kids did my older sister start to have kids.

So you might start by examining yourself.

Similar here. My dad is abusive and my mom takes it. I left as soon as l could and l never wanted kids until mid 30s l changed my mind, finally figured out l didn’t need to be like them. It took me a long time to get there.

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Anonymous wrote:I would feel sad, too, Op. I think your feelings are normal.

+1 This is becoming sadly common with this generation. I have 21 cousins (aged 50-70) and between us, 40 kids, and yet there are only six grandchildren, and the ones young enough to still have kids all express some version of not wanting to marry or have kids. I'm hearing similar things from lots of friends.

What is going on?

Women are waking up that's what. They don't want to have to work a job and then take on the second job of raising kids and taking care of the home and emotional stuff. Society still expects women to care for the family. Men think because they are doing a tiny bit more they should get a medal.

Women are "waking up" to weeding themselves out of the gene pool. Know quite a few female professionals with no children or maybe one. Their values aren't being transmitted to the next generation while the moms who do the domestic work and have four kids have a much better shot of being represented in the future. This problem self-corrects in the long run.

Yes and the population will continue to get dumber and dumber. The professional women are smart. Who cares about gene pool? We are not blue-bloods.

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Anonymous wrote:I would feel sad, too, Op. I think your feelings are normal.

+1 This is becoming sadly common with this generation. I have 21 cousins (aged 50-70) and between us, 40 kids, and yet there are only six grandchildren, and the ones young enough to still have kids all express some version of not wanting to marry or have kids. I'm hearing similar things from lots of friends.

What is going on?

Women are waking up that's what. They don't want to have to work a job and then take on the second job of raising kids and taking care of the home and emotional stuff. Society still expects women to care for the family. Men think because they are doing a tiny bit more they should get a medal.

Women are "waking up" to weeding themselves out of the gene pool. Know quite a few female professionals with no children or maybe one. Their values aren't being transmitted to the next generation while the moms who do the domestic work and have four kids have a much better shot of being represented in the future. This problem self-corrects in the long run.

Yes and the population will continue to get dumber and dumber. The professional women are smart. Who cares about gene pool? We are not blue-bloods.

Wait, did you evet learn about evolution, natural selection, genetic drift? Any of these things. The traits of people who reproduce more will become dominant traits. If women of lower intelligence reproduce more, we will have many more people who inherit lower intelligence. This has nothing to do with "blue bloods." In fact, it's best they stop reproducing so we can stop all that inbreeding.

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Having or not having kids should be a couple's decision, grandkids aren't playthings they need to provide as some obligation.

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Anonymous wrote:As long as I have my harem of men for sex partners I will not object to my partner having a harem.

I get really bored fast with the same sex partner. This is one reason I like dating married men. No pressure either way.

You are not a nice person.

I enjoy my harem of men, too. Do not care if married or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Having or not having kids should be a couple's decision, grandkids aren't playthings they need to provide as some obligation.

Or singles' decision.

--SIngle mom by choice.

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Anonymous wrote:I would feel sad, too, Op. I think your feelings are normal.

+1 This is becoming sadly common with this generation. I have 21 cousins (aged 50-70) and between us, 40 kids, and yet there are only six grandchildren, and the ones young enough to still have kids all express some version of not wanting to marry or have kids. I'm hearing similar things from lots of friends.

What is going on?

Women are waking up that's what. They don't want to have to work a job and then take on the second job of raising kids and taking care of the home and emotional stuff. Society still expects women to care for the family. Men think because they are doing a tiny bit more they should get a medal.

Women are "waking up" to weeding themselves out of the gene pool. Know quite a few female professionals with no children or maybe one. Their values aren't being transmitted to the next generation while the moms who do the domestic work and have four kids have a much better shot of being represented in the future. This problem self-corrects in the long run.

Yes and the population will continue to get dumber and dumber. The professional women are smart. Who cares about gene pool? We are not blue-bloods.

The smart people I know who have 3-4 kids are far more likely to be right wing. Leftists are currently peaking.

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My teen daughter told me several years ago that she doesn't want kids. I asked her why, and she said that my child-free friends have such great lives. They travel, they have free time and money and clean houses and nice cars. I don't blame her. She's right. So she said she would definitely give me doggie grand-kids and that sounds pretty good too. It's not about me.

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Anonymous wrote:My teen daughter told me several years ago that she doesn't want kids. I asked her why, and she said that my child-free friends have such great lives. They travel, they have free time and money and clean houses and nice cars. I don't blame her. She's right. So she said she would definitely give me doggie grand-kids and that sounds pretty good too. It's not about me.

I love it! Both my kids are early 30s and no plans for kids. I love my 3 grand-kitties and 1 grand-doggie.

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Oh god I always roll my eyes at these women who describe themselves as fur moms or whatever at work.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh god I always roll my eyes at these women who describe themselves as fur moms or whatever at work.

Np. No one asked you.

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Not having kids is like a trendy thing to do these days. I would be sad for my kids if they grew up and did not want to have their own family.

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The whole DINK thing is pretty stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:The whole DINK thing is pretty stupid.

Why? Are you jealous?

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I hope my DD has kids. But ultimately It’s up to her. I can’t make her do so.

I think lots of young people are having g reservations, based on finances and other factors, and that is reasonable. That was me. But then I had one DC (mid thirties) and she is amazing. And I could not imagine not having her. Beat thing I ever did.