Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

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01/16/2023 13:07

Subject: Re:Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

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Anonymous wrote:DP. Therapy is useful for dealing with events in real life. Typically events that you have little control over, at present. Eg not where you want to be in your career, romantic life etc.
Therapy can then be useful to discover why you are unhappy by xyz. But ultimately there needs to be change - either you accept your situation or you make a change so you are happier.

Social media triggering you to the point you need to discuss in therapy- okay, it's worth exploring a bit why it bothers you so much. I don't think it's useful to ask crowd source reactions- you're you, and however other people respond to social medial is irrelevant. Hopefully your therapist is working with you to understand issues like self esteem.

But some PP are wondering why not take the simpler solution' - if it's bothering you, why not just get off social media? Especially if it's the only thing in your life triggering these feelings (if they are, hopefully your therapist has identified that as the issue).

Some things in life take time to change- relationships, careers. It does seem that an obvious solution if it were only social medial causing these negative reactions to get off social media. Not only would you save time and money from therapy, you would have more time in your real life to engage with real people and real events.

It's almost like saying listening to a particular style of music really bothers you. Or a certain TV show really bothers youz creates distress.

OK so turn it off. That's all.

Op - I can’t say this more times.
I work in social media
Also you shouldn’t have to just turn off tv to avoid something that is toxic behavior. It’s also incumbent upon people I think to behave on social media in the same way you would behave in normal life. You can’t stop people from behaving badly overall - but you can point out that acting one way on Instagram and another in real life is a double standard

If you are rich in your normal life, it effectively means you cant post. "Sunday brunch!" isnt a flex, but if you post from a country club, it's taken that way. "Wheels up for vacation time!"--- not allowed if you fly business flass. This is among the reasons I never post. Normal life IS different for different people, and some people find it deeply upsetting to know that other people are doing fine in life.

"Sunday brunch!" is not a flex, "Sunday brunch at the club!" is. You could post the exact same photo but the second one is a flex because it highlights the more exclusive aspect of your experience. If you tag the club, that goes double.

"Wheels up for vacation time!" is just a dumb post. Even if the person is flying coach on a budget airline to a domestic destination in the offseason, it's just a dumb, boring post. If it is your very first time flying or a flight is very notable for some other reason, posting about your plane trip is fine -- people will get that it's special to you for this reason. If you travel a lot, posting plane photos is a way for you to highlight that you travel a lot, and therefore is obnoxious. Just post a photo from your desination, which will actually be interesting! Even if it's like "Positano is gorgeous!" and it's a photo of the view from you private boat in the water. People will just like the pretty photo and will not think too hard about how much more privileged you are unless you choose to highlight it by saying "View from our private boat! Had a private chef too and the food was amazing!"

The main issue is that a lot of people cannot resist highlighting the exclusive, rich-person aspects of their lives on social media. That's on you. It's not that other people are upset to know that people are "doing fine in life" (lol, flying business class is rich, not "doing fine", I say this as a rich person, please get some perspective). It's that you cannot resist the opportunity to let people know EXACTLY how "fine" you are doing. It's your failing, not theirs.

I think "Positano is gorgeous!" would count as a flex under this ruling. If eating chicken strips in a Delta lounge is too fancy, Positano is definitely too fancy. You'd probably have to keep it to "these Cracker Barrell mimosas are lit!" and "look at the view at the Higgens County public pool" to be safe.

You sound so bitter. Look, you can talk up your rich person things on social media if you want, but yes, it will invite jealousy and resentment unless your social media is restricted only to people who are the same level of rich as you are. Not everyone will feel that way, but some people will. The more braggy you are, the more resentful people will be. This is just how it is. You can be bitter about that or you can learn to live with it. It's honestly a very tiny price to pay for being privileged.

When people get very mad about how they "can't" post about all their rich person activities online without people getting jealous or resentful, I assume that it's because they WANT to brag. They actually want the jealousy on some level. They want people to be like "omg I'm so jealous" but like in a friendly, nice way. You want people to admire you and wish they had your life, but you also want them to think "well she's superior to me and deserves to have a nicer life." It's such an unrealistic expectation. That's not how most people work because they have egos and self-regard, just like you.

This entire post is insane. And, literally, no one said the bolded. The opposite is true, actually. We are saying to get over it if you are triggered by other people’s posts that have absolutely nothing to do with you.

I’m actually amazed that you believe what you posted above.