Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Why are they doing it?

They are doing it to share their experiences. They are doing it for the same reasons that people post wedding photos, prom photos, baby milestones, proposals, cute outfits, new hairstyles, new cars, new homes, dogs…………..

Okay fine. My question is: When does “sharing” end “showing off” begin? You don’t think they’re showing off just a little bit?

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Why are they doing it?

They are doing it to share their experiences. They are doing it for the same reasons that people post wedding photos, prom photos, baby milestones, proposals, cute outfits, new hairstyles, new cars, new homes, dogs…………..

Okay fine. My question is: When does “sharing” end “showing off” begin? You don’t think they’re showing off just a little bit?

Not necessarily.

I’m quite introverted, and I am generally not into showing off—yet, I am the United lounge poster. Again, I was excited to share that experience. I assume similarly for other people.

Even if someone is showing off (i.e., they post themselves wearing the size-two dress they’ve been dieting to fit into), it doesn’t bother me. I’d actually be excited for them.

I’m not in therapy. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Why are they doing it?

We are not talking about nice normal people who get things and experiences as a special treat and are excited about it.
We are talking about relatively high net worth individuals who know better and have ulterior motives that are clear.
Also these people aren’t saying ‘eek I am in the United lounge so excited’ they are saying ‘wheels up to gstaad’ and tagging the American flagship first lounge.
Or they’re just doing other subtle things.
If they were actually like - I am so fired up for this exciting thing’ it wouldn’t be annoying
They want you to think this is just ‘life’ for them. Is super obvious if you see you know the difference
Also ffs there is nothing to be ashamed of for being in therapy

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Why are they doing it?

They are doing it to share their experiences. They are doing it for the same reasons that people post wedding photos, prom photos, baby milestones, proposals, cute outfits, new hairstyles, new cars, new homes, dogs…………..

New cars, new homes, and engagement rings (or other expensive jewelry) is just as tacky to post as airport lounges. That you don't see that tells me everything.

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Why are they doing it?

They are doing it to share their experiences. They are doing it for the same reasons that people post wedding photos, prom photos, baby milestones, proposals, cute outfits, new hairstyles, new cars, new homes, dogs…………..

New cars, new homes, and engagement rings (or other expensive jewelry) is just as tacky to post as airport lounges. That you don't see that tells me everything.

OK.

Stay triggered. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Why are they doing it?

We are not talking about nice normal people who get things and experiences as a special treat and are excited about it.
We are talking about relatively high net worth individuals who know better and have ulterior motives that are clear.
Also these people aren’t saying ‘eek I am in the United lounge so excited’ they are saying ‘wheels up to gstaad’ and tagging the American flagship first lounge.
Or they’re just doing other subtle things.
If they were actually like - I am so fired up for this exciting thing’ it wouldn’t be annoying
They want you to think this is just ‘life’ for them. Is super obvious if you see you know the difference
Also ffs there is nothing to be ashamed of for being in therapy

What “ulterior motive”? This really makes no sense and sounds a lot like the narcissistic response of assuming because you have a feeling in reaction to someone’s behavior it must mean they behaved that way intending to cause you to feel that feeling.

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They are sharing for pride and ego.

The end.

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

They do it because you give them the audience. Why do you associate with shallow people? Don’t complain if you can’t look away.

Why are they doing it?

We are not talking about nice normal people who get things and experiences as a special treat and are excited about it.
We are talking about relatively high net worth individuals who know better and have ulterior motives that are clear.
Also these people aren’t saying ‘eek I am in the United lounge so excited’ they are saying ‘wheels up to gstaad’ and tagging the American flagship first lounge.
Or they’re just doing other subtle things.
If they were actually like - I am so fired up for this exciting thing’ it wouldn’t be annoying
They want you to think this is just ‘life’ for them. Is super obvious if you see you know the difference
Also ffs there is nothing to be ashamed of for being in therapy

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Well said

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Why are they doing it?

They are doing it to share their experiences. They are doing it for the same reasons that people post wedding photos, prom photos, baby milestones, proposals, cute outfits, new hairstyles, new cars, new homes, dogs…………..

Okay fine. My question is: When does “sharing” end “showing off” begin? You don’t think they’re showing off just a little bit?

Not necessarily.

I’m quite introverted, and I am generally not into showing off—yet, I am the United lounge poster. Again, I was excited to share that experience. I assume similarly for other people.

Even if someone is showing off (i.e., they post themselves wearing the size-two dress they’ve been dieting to fit into), it doesn’t bother me. I’d actually be excited for them.

I’m not in therapy. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

This is how I feel about SM posts. I am excited for people as they share about what's good in their lives. It's uplifting. It seems condescending to think that your middle class friends would begrudge you a Swiss ski trip. I really doubt most lower and middle class people are that petty.

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Anonymous wrote:Op - there’s a lot of back and forth about what is an is not ok to post. Not sure exactly how to put this but for me it’s not about the exact specifics as when I can tell that the person knows they are showing off and is kind of displaying false ignorance by posting anyway. The person tagging gstaad knows full well what they are doing. The person posting something good in their life with at least an effort at humility is not. It’s the intention that bothers me. I’m bothered by the ‘I don’t care what you think, scroll on by’ ppl. Like - you should care about being a good human. You should care what you are putting out in the world. It’s ppl like this that make social media such a toxic stew. I love social in theory - that’s why I work in it. Social media has the power to make amazing connections and change the world. But we all have to use it responsibly. And to someone else’s point - don’t get me started on misinformation.

Girl you do not know people’s intentions. You are completely ridiculous.

People posting their fancy travel experiences aren’t bad people. It’s really wild that you think that.

You need more therapy sessions.

Seriously.

Why are they doing it?

They are doing it to share their experiences. They are doing it for the same reasons that people post wedding photos, prom photos, baby milestones, proposals, cute outfits, new hairstyles, new cars, new homes, dogs…………..

Okay fine. My question is: When does “sharing” end “showing off” begin? You don’t think they’re showing off just a little bit?

Not necessarily.

I’m quite introverted, and I am generally not into showing off—yet, I am the United lounge poster. Again, I was excited to share that experience. I assume similarly for other people.

Even if someone is showing off (i.e., they post themselves wearing the size-two dress they’ve been dieting to fit into), it doesn’t bother me. I’d actually be excited for them.

I’m not in therapy. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

This is how I feel about SM posts. I am excited for people as they share about what's good in their lives. It's uplifting. It seems condescending to think that your middle class friends would begrudge you a Swiss ski trip. I really doubt most lower and middle class people are that petty.

People can spend their money however they want, obviously, but why do they feel the need to post those high-end excursions on social media? Are they not able to fully enjoy the experience unless other people know what they’re doing? It’s kind of weird, and maybe a little sad, when you think about it. What are they getting out of it? It’s not “just sharing” in my opinion. There’s something kind of unseemly at the heart of it. I think that’s what turns people off.

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I just want to add, airport lounges can be economical. I get them free, but after looking over the pay-per-use fee that anyone can pay, I recommended it to several colleagues who have reported back success . If you are a govie on travel, your travel-day per diem is around the same as the fee in many cases, and you get food, drink, and a private place to catch up on work. I dont understand the idea that a $40 lounge is exclusive.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

Oh dear. Your ignorance is showing.

How's your therapy bill? Maybe that's why you can't afford business class.

No one on here said they can’t afford business class.
Many here said they can but would never post about traveling business class. Literally as tacky as posting a photo of you making it rain with actual cash. I’m serious. It’s that obvious

Ok, they don't see it is tacky, and it drives you nuts. Too bad.

DP here. Tacky people never see their tacky behavior as tacky. Either that or they know its tacky and don't have a problem with being tacky. That doesn't change the fact that it is.

You’l be OK, boo.

Oh, I see. You’re 12. That explains a lot.

Whine more.

Twelve.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

Oh dear. Your ignorance is showing.

How's your therapy bill? Maybe that's why you can't afford business class.

No one on here said they can’t afford business class.
Many here said they can but would never post about traveling business class. Literally as tacky as posting a photo of you making it rain with actual cash. I’m serious. It’s that obvious

Ok, they don't see it is tacky, and it drives you nuts. Too bad.

DP here. Tacky people never see their tacky behavior as tacky. Either that or they know its tacky and don't have a problem with being tacky. That doesn't change the fact that it is.

You’l be OK, boo.

Oh, I see. You’re 12. That explains a lot.

Whine more.

You seem to be pretty good at whining yourself. Just scroll on by, boo, if you can't add anything constructive or nice.

I didn’t whine once. You can’t handle triggering social media posts. Maybe DCUM is also too triggering.

(Also, I enjoy your dorky use of boo.) 😆😆

They were mocking the imbecile who agrees with you who used “boo” first. I enjoy the fact that you were too dim to recognize that.

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Anonymous wrote:DP. Therapy is useful for dealing with events in real life. Typically events that you have little control over, at present. Eg not where you want to be in your career, romantic life etc.
Therapy can then be useful to discover why you are unhappy by xyz. But ultimately there needs to be change - either you accept your situation or you make a change so you are happier.

Social media triggering you to the point you need to discuss in therapy- okay, it's worth exploring a bit why it bothers you so much. I don't think it's useful to ask crowd source reactions- you're you, and however other people respond to social medial is irrelevant. Hopefully your therapist is working with you to understand issues like self esteem.

But some PP are wondering why not take the simpler solution' - if it's bothering you, why not just get off social media? Especially if it's the only thing in your life triggering these feelings (if they are, hopefully your therapist has identified that as the issue).

Some things in life take time to change- relationships, careers. It does seem that an obvious solution if it were only social medial causing these negative reactions to get off social media. Not only would you save time and money from therapy, you would have more time in your real life to engage with real people and real events.

It's almost like saying listening to a particular style of music really bothers you. Or a certain TV show really bothers youz creates distress.

OK so turn it off. That's all.

Op - I can’t say this more times.
I work in social media
Also you shouldn’t have to just turn off tv to avoid something that is toxic behavior. It’s also incumbent upon people I think to behave on social media in the same way you would behave in normal life. You can’t stop people from behaving badly overall - but you can point out that acting one way on Instagram and another in real life is a double standard

If you are rich in your normal life, it effectively means you cant post. "Sunday brunch!" isnt a flex, but if you post from a country club, it's taken that way. "Wheels up for vacation time!"--- not allowed if you fly business flass. This is among the reasons I never post. Normal life IS different for different people, and some people find it deeply upsetting to know that other people are doing fine in life.

"Sunday brunch!" is not a flex, "Sunday brunch at the club!" is. You could post the exact same photo but the second one is a flex because it highlights the more exclusive aspect of your experience. If you tag the club, that goes double.

"Wheels up for vacation time!" is just a dumb post. Even if the person is flying coach on a budget airline to a domestic destination in the offseason, it's just a dumb, boring post. If it is your very first time flying or a flight is very notable for some other reason, posting about your plane trip is fine -- people will get that it's special to you for this reason. If you travel a lot, posting plane photos is a way for you to highlight that you travel a lot, and therefore is obnoxious. Just post a photo from your desination, which will actually be interesting! Even if it's like "Positano is gorgeous!" and it's a photo of the view from you private boat in the water. People will just like the pretty photo and will not think too hard about how much more privileged you are unless you choose to highlight it by saying "View from our private boat! Had a private chef too and the food was amazing!"

The main issue is that a lot of people cannot resist highlighting the exclusive, rich-person aspects of their lives on social media. That's on you. It's not that other people are upset to know that people are "doing fine in life" (lol, flying business class is rich, not "doing fine", I say this as a rich person, please get some perspective). It's that you cannot resist the opportunity to let people know EXACTLY how "fine" you are doing. It's your failing, not theirs.

I think "Positano is gorgeous!" would count as a flex under this ruling. If eating chicken strips in a Delta lounge is too fancy, Positano is definitely too fancy. You'd probably have to keep it to "these Cracker Barrell mimosas are lit!" and "look at the view at the Higgens County public pool" to be safe.

You sound so bitter. Look, you can talk up your rich person things on social media if you want, but yes, it will invite jealousy and resentment unless your social media is restricted only to people who are the same level of rich as you are. Not everyone will feel that way, but some people will. The more braggy you are, the more resentful people will be. This is just how it is. You can be bitter about that or you can learn to live with it. It's honestly a very tiny price to pay for being privileged.

When people get very mad about how they "can't" post about all their rich person activities online without people getting jealous or resentful, I assume that it's because they WANT to brag. They actually want the jealousy on some level. They want people to be like "omg I'm so jealous" but like in a friendly, nice way. You want people to admire you and wish they had your life, but you also want them to think "well she's superior to me and deserves to have a nicer life." It's such an unrealistic expectation. That's not how most people work because they have egos and self-regard, just like you.

This entire post is insane. And, literally, no one said the bolded. The opposite is true, actually. We are saying to get over it if you are triggered by other people’s posts that have absolutely nothing to do with you.

I’m actually amazed that you believe what you posted above.

It's... insane? You can't believe that anyone believes this? After TWENTY PAGES that include many people, including OP, arguing exactly this. You sound triggered, frankly.

Anyway, yes, I absolutely believe this. I think people who post very braggy things on social media do it because they want others to be jealous. They actually do not want you to "scroll on by", they want you to stop and look and think "oh wow I wish that was me." It is the main reason they do it.

If it makes you feel better, I think the reason they do it is because they think this jealousy is a form of admiration and love. They are mistaken, but I think they find it validating and everyone wants validation. I just think this is a very anti-social way to get validation.