Getting married in a month and I can't decide if I want to take his last name

[Anonymous]

I kept my last name and it's fine. It would have been fine if I changed it, too, but it just seemed like a hassle to get a new drivers license, passport, etc.

As a reference, I did try to change it 4 years afterwards and the Social Security office told me that I would have to go through a judge. So, I still have my maiden name.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had never taken my husband's name. It's a very common last name and I feel like I lost part of my identity and the ability of people to find me. I now use is as my middle name.

[Anonymous]

I do not regret keeping my maiden name. But my 10 and 12 year olds are not happy that I have a different last name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, you don't have to legally change your name.

When I visit the school I am Mrs. Husbandlastname.

My bank and office know me with my maiden name.

It's nobody's business what your drivers license may say. Yes on the official documents you need to put your real legal name but the teachers always call me Mrs Husbandlastname/

Interestingly all my dds teachers have been very careful about using the proper names of parents. I didn't change my last name and school was the one place they always remembered my actual last name and didn't use my husbands.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am very glad I didn't change my name and honestly judge my friends who did.

Seriously?

Yes seriously.

What are your assumptions that lead to the judgment? I changed my last name legally, but still largely go by my maiden name.

I didn't change my name because of an archaic or old fashioned views I have about marriage, which is probably your assumption.

I don't think I'm alone in getting the doormat impression when hearing a woman changed her name to get married.