Possible Rape at Sidwell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The facts:

two teenagers had a prior sexual relationship

teens are having sex

there is always someone every few years getting busted " in the act " at school so we know sex goes on.

That is not scandal

Now, the question is how do parents in NW DC Privates behave when they think their DC was wronged be it a C on a test or not enough play time on a sport.

I have no idea what happened in that bathroom, but my gut is that the official story has parents written all over it.

I wouldn't be surprised at all if there is a bit of truth in what you said.

OP 3

You make a good point. I by default will support the victim until otherwise but I think we shouldn't rush to conclusions. I hope everyone's privacy can be respected until the investigation is done. I hope for the best for the alleged victim unless it's a false report.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This freaks me out. If a rape can happen on sidwel campus with all the students and faculty in broad daylight and security cameras, what can happen at my large public school?

Just another reason I prefer same sex-schools for both sexes. Keep dating/sex/competition out of the schools.

Uh, really?

Yes really. Sorry if you just don't get it (well...sorry for your children). A same sex environment (especially for boys) is the healthiest environment you can provide your children for learning. Take sex out of the equation -- at least out of the classroom, where the focus should be learning.[/quote

Not according to many of the adult men I know who attended all male high schools and hated the misogynistic, testosterone-fueled vibe. And most women I know who attended single sex schools hated them. Each to his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This freaks me out. If a rape can happen on sidwel campus with all the students and faculty in broad daylight and security cameras, what can happen at my large public school?

Just another reason I prefer same sex-schools for both sexes. Keep dating/sex/competition out of the schools.

Uh, really?

Yes really. Sorry if you just don't get it (well...sorry for your children). A same sex environment (especially for boys) is the healthiest environment you can provide your children for learning. Take sex out of the equation -- at least out of the classroom, where the focus should be learning.[/quote

Not according to many of the adult men I know who attended all male high schools and hated the misogynistic, testosterone-fueled vibe. And most women I know who attended single sex schools hated them. Each to his own.

Not my experience at all. I know many adult men who have a brotherhood with their classmates and great memories that will last a lifetime. They also have very healthy relationships with the women in their lives, whether it be a parent, sister, daughter, wife, or coworker. Sorry if you friends had a bad experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The facts:

two teenagers had a prior sexual relationship

teens are having sex

there is always someone every few years getting busted " in the act " at school so we know sex goes on.

That is not scandal

Now, the question is how do parents in NW DC Privates behave when they think their DC was wronged be it a C on a test or not enough play time on a sport.

I have no idea what happened in that bathroom, but my gut is that the official story has parents written all over it.

So I guess the question is whether they were having sex or whether she was being raped. Of course those things are not the same. I was violently raped in college by someone I had dated very briefly months before. He tricked me into walking with him through a secluded area by telling me his mother, whom I had met at parents' weekend, had been in a car accident and he wanted to talk but also needed to walk to a far parking lot at school to get his car to pack it up and drive home. It was all a lie. I never reported him. I knew better. I don't know if the Sidwell girl was raped or not. If my daughter were raped, though, I would show her this thread and let her think before deciding what to do. If you report, you go through this blame/doubt/slut shame the victim crap, if you don't, you live with not confronting your aggressor and living with a secret that should not be shameful but feels that way. There's no winning, there's just deciding which scars are worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This freaks me out. If a rape can happen on sidwel campus with all the students and faculty in broad daylight and security cameras, what can happen at my large public school?

Just another reason I prefer same sex-schools for both sexes. Keep dating/sex/competition out of the schools.

Uh, really?

Yes really. Sorry if you just don't get it (well...sorry for your children). A same sex environment (especially for boys) is the healthiest environment you can provide your children for learning. Take sex out of the equation -- at least out of the classroom, where the focus should be learning.

Totally disagree. You are wrong according to all valid research

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This freaks me out. If a rape can happen on sidwel campus with all the students and faculty in broad daylight and security cameras, what can happen at my large public school?

Just another reason I prefer same sex-schools for both sexes. Keep dating/sex/competition out of the schools.

Uh, really?

Yes really. Sorry if you just don't get it (well...sorry for your children). A same sex environment (especially for boys) is the healthiest environment you can provide your children for learning. Take sex out of the equation -- at least out of the classroom, where the focus should be learning.

Totally disagree. You are wrong according to all valid research

NP here who went to a same-sex school. It was a great environment for me but definitely had some drawbacks, including feeling like I was inexperience and behind on the dating scene when I started college. I can also assure you that many of my classmates were having sex (many outside of relationships, since there was less time to form relationships when boys weren't on campus). I don't think it takes sex out of the equation- at least on school grounds (for the most part, one of my classmates had sex in the bathroom).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This freaks me out. If a rape can happen on sidwel campus with all the students and faculty in broad daylight and security cameras, what can happen at my large public school?

Just another reason I prefer same sex-schools for both sexes. Keep dating/sex/competition out of the schools.

But what about the gays?

Seriously? There are plenty at Sidwell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The facts:

two teenagers had a prior sexual relationship

teens are having sex

there is always someone every few years getting busted " in the act " at school so we know sex goes on.

That is not scandal

Now, the question is how do parents in NW DC Privates behave when they think their DC was wronged be it a C on a test or not enough play time on a sport.

I have no idea what happened in that bathroom, but my gut is that the official story has parents written all over it.

I wouldn't be surprised at all if there is a bit of truth in what you said.

another fact: According to PEW , 75% of teen's communication with each other is via text . You are talking a whole generation of young people who don't look each other in the eye when communicating, who don't develop voice read skills because they are habitual texters and who are encouraged by FB to objectify each other.

According to PEW, 60 % of teens have engaged in sexting . That means 60% of teens today exchange naked pictures of each other via the internet like it was nothing . nothing to them.

got that .

now all of you are " so shocked" and gloating that this happened at Sidwell. It is happening at many schools and at many colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The facts:

two teenagers had a prior sexual relationship

teens are having sex

there is always someone every few years getting busted " in the act " at school so we know sex goes on.

That is not scandal

Now, the question is how do parents in NW DC Privates behave when they think their DC was wronged be it a C on a test or not enough play time on a sport.

I have no idea what happened in that bathroom, but my gut is that the official story has parents written all over it.

I wouldn't be surprised at all if there is a bit of truth in what you said.

another fact: According to PEW , 75% of teen's communication with each other is via text . You are talking a whole generation of young people who don't look each other in the eye when communicating, who don't develop voice read skills because they are habitual texters and who are encouraged by FB to objectify each other.

According to PEW, 60 % of teens have engaged in sexting . That means 60% of teens today exchange naked pictures of each other via the internet like it was nothing . nothing to them.

got that .

now all of you are " so shocked" and gloating that this happened at Sidwell. It is happening at many schools and at many colleges.

We are upset that a rape occurred. This was not just sex.

[Anonymous]

You people questioning whether this girl was truly raped are disgusting and feeding into the rape culture in this country. It's none of your business in the first place so just go away until a verdict is reached.

[Anonymous]

As a parent of a son, I think it is worth all of us thinking long and hard about whether we are producing a generation with their heads screwed on right or not.

Parents making every little decision for their kids has not exactly produced a crop of good decision makers .

The opposite : we have college students demanding " safe zones" where no one will challenge them

unable to socially read each other with a preference to text some one rather than look them in the face and talk to them.

no shark jumping here, the social behavior is a real factor

[Anonymous]

As a PP wrote, we are ALL a community, our kids play with one another regardless of the school they attend. Our lives are entwined, we see each other in the parks in the Theater, in the grocery store... We are all Sidwell and offer our support to the kids involved and their parents, as well as the immediate friends who surround them, who I am sure are shaken by this also. I wish for them this chapter ends soon with the least hurt possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The facts:

two teenagers had a prior sexual relationship

teens are having sex

there is always someone every few years getting busted " in the act " at school so we know sex goes on.

That is not scandal

Now, the question is how do parents in NW DC Privates behave when they think their DC was wronged be it a C on a test or not enough play time on a sport.

I have no idea what happened in that bathroom, but my gut is that the official story has parents written all over it.

So I guess the question is whether they were having sex or whether she was being raped. Of course those things are not the same. I was violently raped in college by someone I had dated very briefly months before. He tricked me into walking with him through a secluded area by telling me his mother, whom I had met at parents' weekend, had been in a car accident and he wanted to talk but also needed to walk to a far parking lot at school to get his car to pack it up and drive home. It was all a lie. I never reported him. I knew better. I don't know if the Sidwell girl was raped or not. If my daughter were raped, though, I would show her this thread and let her think before deciding what to do. If you report, you go through this blame/doubt/slut shame the victim crap, if you don't, you live with not confronting your aggressor and living with a secret that should not be shameful but feels that way. There's no winning, there's just deciding which scars are worse.

PP, I am very sorry that you were raped. Reading what you wrote though a contrast jumps out at me:

you were lured to an isolated spot where it was unlikely that anyone would hear you or come along

Whatever happened in that bathroom, it is a public bathroom with a door that does not lock and anyone could walk in at any time.

BIG difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The facts:

two teenagers had a prior sexual relationship

teens are having sex

there is always someone every few years getting busted " in the act " at school so we know sex goes on.

That is not scandal

Now, the question is how do parents in NW DC Privates behave when they think their DC was wronged be it a C on a test or not enough play time on a sport.

I have no idea what happened in that bathroom, but my gut is that the official story has parents written all over it.

So I guess the question is whether they were having sex or whether she was being raped. Of course those things are not the same. I was violently raped in college by someone I had dated very briefly months before. He tricked me into walking with him through a secluded area by telling me his mother, whom I had met at parents' weekend, had been in a car accident and he wanted to talk but also needed to walk to a far parking lot at school to get his car to pack it up and drive home. It was all a lie. I never reported him. I knew better. I don't know if the Sidwell girl was raped or not. If my daughter were raped, though, I would show her this thread and let her think before deciding what to do. If you report, you go through this blame/doubt/slut shame the victim crap, if you don't, you live with not confronting your aggressor and living with a secret that should not be shameful but feels that way. There's no winning, there's just deciding which scars are worse.

PP, I am very sorry that you were raped. Reading what you wrote though a contrast jumps out at me:

you were lured to an isolated spot where it was unlikely that anyone would hear you or come along

Whatever happened in that bathroom, it is a public bathroom with a door that does not lock and anyone could walk in at any time.

BIG difference.

Do we know for a fact that this incident took place in a bathroom? I have not seen that reported anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The facts:

two teenagers had a prior sexual relationship

teens are having sex

there is always someone every few years getting busted " in the act " at school so we know sex goes on.

That is not scandal

Now, the question is how do parents in NW DC Privates behave when they think their DC was wronged be it a C on a test or not enough play time on a sport.

I have no idea what happened in that bathroom, but my gut is that the official story has parents written all over it.

So I guess the question is whether they were having sex or whether she was being raped. Of course those things are not the same. I was violently raped in college by someone I had dated very briefly months before. He tricked me into walking with him through a secluded area by telling me his mother, whom I had met at parents' weekend, had been in a car accident and he wanted to talk but also needed to walk to a far parking lot at school to get his car to pack it up and drive home. It was all a lie. I never reported him. I knew better. I don't know if the Sidwell girl was raped or not. If my daughter were raped, though, I would show her this thread and let her think before deciding what to do. If you report, you go through this blame/doubt/slut shame the victim crap, if you don't, you live with not confronting your aggressor and living with a secret that should not be shameful but feels that way. There's no winning, there's just deciding which scars are worse.

PP, I am very sorry that you were raped. Reading what you wrote though a contrast jumps out at me:

you were lured to an isolated spot where it was unlikely that anyone would hear you or come along

Whatever happened in that bathroom, it is a public bathroom with a door that does not lock and anyone could walk in at any time.

BIG difference.

Do we know for a fact that this incident took place in a bathroom? I have not seen that reported anywhere.

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