Thin Women: How Do You Do It

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Anonymous wrote:Question to all you thin women: do you feel you get treated a lot better because of your figure? I've never been there so wondering if the societal perks are that considerable they keep skinny womens' high discipline going.

I've been both and yes.

I've been both too. I was shocked at how total stranger men would diss me or make a negative face when I gained substantial baby weight. I'd always been then and never experienced that sort of casual negativity expressed by basically bystanders.

Few years later I've lost the weight, have a very pulled together look, and the difference is huge in deference, interest, interest, everything.

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^been 'thin' not 'then,'

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Anonymous wrote:I hate grocery shopping because I do see people looking in cart and it's annoying. I mainly have meat, fruit and veggies but still. It's rude in an indirect way.

Weird, I would no more look in someone's shopping cart than look at their computer screen when passing by their cube.

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It helps if you can retrain what you are craving. For instance, I have a huge sweet tooth and I used to eat candy, cookies, cake, ice cream, etc. every day back when I had a faster metabolism. Now I eat an apple or a handful of grapes for dessert. Still sweet but fewer calories. Or I'll have a frozen fruit or sorbet bar instead of ice cream, that kind of thing. If I order a cheeseburger I'll have a third instead of the whole thing. No alcohol.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate grocery shopping because I do see people looking in cart and it's annoying. I mainly have meat, fruit and veggies but still. It's rude in an indirect way.

Weird, I would no more look in someone's shopping cart than look at their computer screen when passing by their cube.

I've noticed it too. It is definitely weird and rude as well. But many people are both of those things nowadays

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I also think that thin women don't have to super pretty to be considered attractive to men. I know so many overweight women (and smart and interesting, etc.) with pretty faces that are struggling in the dating world.

I am not drop dead gorgeous, but I have been slim all my life (even with 2 pregnancies) and have never had a problem dating.
It is just slightly harder to maintain my figure now (mid 40s), mainly to preserve muscle definition, so I do few more targeted exercises every other day. About 15 minutes top.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps if you can retrain what you are craving. For instance, I have a huge sweet tooth and I used to eat candy, cookies, cake, ice cream, etc. every day back when I had a faster metabolism. Now I eat an apple or a handful of grapes for dessert. Still sweet but fewer calories. Or I'll have a frozen fruit or sorbet bar instead of ice cream, that kind of thing. If I order a cheeseburger I'll have a third instead of the whole thing. No alcohol.

See I cannot imagine ordering a cheeseburger and only eating a third or even half for that matter. What a waste. That sounds kind of ED related IMO.

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I agree about thinness adding to attractiveness in men's eyes. I don't think I have an especially pretty face but I've always been thin and have always had more than my share of attention from guys.

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Anonymous wrote:I've always been thin - my fathers side of the family is tallish and thin. I'm in my late 40's and have gained some weight because I eat more junk and (honestly my adolecent son drives me to eat ice cream). If I stuck to my regular eating habits I'd bounce right back to thin. I have also never been a big eater.

Example: I went to happy hour yesterday and one of my coworkers had a huge appetizer, supper fatty she just chomped on it and 2 sugary drinks she's a big girl I was like ... what???? I was very happy with my tequila, I went home and had a small bowl of soup for dinner.

Sometimes I wonder if you were always skinny as a child does that carry over into adulthood???

No. I am normal now (140lbs 5'7") but was always very thin as a girl and teenager; kids used to tease me for being too thin. I ate a lot of really unhealthy foods as a girl too. I filled out more with puberty so I was no longer a stick but was still thin (125lbs 5'7"). I started drinking in college and eating more and put on weight. I moved cities and started cycling daily as my main mode of transport and became super thin (115 lbs) and all muscle, even though I ate all the time and drank a lot of weekends. When I moved back to DC and got a desk job, I was eating and drinking less but sedentary and I put on 20 lbs over the course of a year. Even though I now eat much better than I ever did as a kid and watch what I eat, get regular exercise outside of my job, I have struggled to shed more than 5-10 lbs the past few years.

The men in my family are thin, the women on one side were very thin when younger and then put on weight with age, especially in their upper bodies (they were large bosomed, had larger arms). I was always petite up top and pear shaped, but after I had a child, my body changed and I put on weight in places I never had, like my arms, even though I am doing more lifting now with my kid than I ever did before when I had thin arms. I lost a lot of muscle tone after having a kid. My mom's side has always struggled with their weight and they all have thyroid problems. I just found out I have Hashimoto's, which developed over the past few months.

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40 years old, 4 kids (they are older now---age 9 and older) and I am thin.

I exercise like mad. Typically I workout 2 hours a day, 6 days per week.
I realize that is not realistic for many people. But you asked how...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It helps if you can retrain what you are craving. For instance, I have a huge sweet tooth and I used to eat candy, cookies, cake, ice cream, etc. every day back when I had a faster metabolism. Now I eat an apple or a handful of grapes for dessert. Still sweet but fewer calories. Or I'll have a frozen fruit or sorbet bar instead of ice cream, that kind of thing. If I order a cheeseburger I'll have a third instead of the whole thing. No alcohol.

See I cannot imagine ordering a cheeseburger and only eating a third or even half for that matter. What a waste. That sounds kind of ED related IMO.

The portions are so large here that. 1/3 or a 1/2 of a cheeseburger is perfectly acceptable. Add a few fries or a side salad and you have a meal. Eat the entire thing and that's why you are overweight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It helps if you can retrain what you are craving. For instance, I have a huge sweet tooth and I used to eat candy, cookies, cake, ice cream, etc. every day back when I had a faster metabolism. Now I eat an apple or a handful of grapes for dessert. Still sweet but fewer calories. Or I'll have a frozen fruit or sorbet bar instead of ice cream, that kind of thing. If I order a cheeseburger I'll have a third instead of the whole thing. No alcohol.

See I cannot imagine ordering a cheeseburger and only eating a third or even half for that matter. What a waste. That sounds kind of ED related IMO.

And I can't remember the last time I ordered a cheeseburger! If I eat something like that I make it at home so I can control portion and ingredients.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It helps if you can retrain what you are craving. For instance, I have a huge sweet tooth and I used to eat candy, cookies, cake, ice cream, etc. every day back when I had a faster metabolism. Now I eat an apple or a handful of grapes for dessert. Still sweet but fewer calories. Or I'll have a frozen fruit or sorbet bar instead of ice cream, that kind of thing. If I order a cheeseburger I'll have a third instead of the whole thing. No alcohol.

See I cannot imagine ordering a cheeseburger and only eating a third or even half for that matter. What a waste. That sounds kind of ED related IMO.

The portions are so large here that. 1/3 or a 1/2 of a cheeseburger is perfectly acceptable. Add a few fries or a side salad and you have a meal. Eat the entire thing and that's why you are overweight.

+1

I almost always take leftovers home. DH appreciates them as a late-night snack, or I work them into a future dinner somehow.

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No booze? That gives me the vapors

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There are too many pages to this post.

I wish someone could do a quick synopsis....


Is the answer genetics, exercise, and eat smaller portions/moderation?

I'm a healthy BMI (22) but would like to lose 10lbs, it seems like after 35 the metabolism really slows down to the point I probably only need 800 cal per day instead of my usual 1800 I consume.