Was I out of line at the grocery store with a shrieking toddler?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If this happened in France someone would have spanked that child and then be thanked by the parent who wasn't paying attention possibly they would have apologized to the spanker.

You never disappoint, French poster!

Yeah, when I was in France I saw dog owners hit and kick their dogs in public. It must be a French thing.

BAHAHAHAHAHA there is always one who JUST.DOESN'T.GET.IT.

Get what? That French people are okay with physically punishing small children and animals? In public no less?

I love how riled up you got over a joke. That's the part you don't get. Bless your heart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

In the village, a kind motherly figure would have picked up the child and tried to console her. NOT yell at or punish her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

I love how a sentiment that reflects community and shared effort is being weaponized to publicly shame/talk down to/yell at/lecture a two-year-old. Seriously, y'all are off your rockers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

I love how a sentiment that reflects community and shared effort is being weaponized to publicly shame/talk down to/yell at/lecture a two-year-old. Seriously, y'all are off your rockers.

The part that you dont get is that the other post references a person clearly looking for a fight. An adult who most likely isn't all there.

SOOOOOOO not the same as simply correcting a child and moving on. You're trying desperately to make false equivalences.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

I love how a sentiment that reflects community and shared effort is being weaponized to publicly shame/talk down to/yell at/lecture a two-year-old. Seriously, y'all are off your rockers.

The part that you dont get is that the other post references a person clearly looking for a fight. An adult who most likely isn't all there.

SOOOOOOO not the same as simply correcting a child and moving on. You're trying desperately to make false equivalences.

+1.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

I love how a sentiment that reflects community and shared effort is being weaponized to publicly shame/talk down to/yell at/lecture a two-year-old. Seriously, y'all are off your rockers.

The part that you dont get is that the other post references a person clearly looking for a fight. An adult who most likely isn't all there.

SOOOOOOO not the same as simply correcting a child and moving on. You're trying desperately to make false equivalences.

No, I am saying that if you would approach the adult in the other example then approach the adult in this example and stop talking to children you dont know and who dont know you and then scream about "it takes a village".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

In the village, a kind motherly figure would have picked up the child and tried to console her. NOT yell at or punish her.

No she wouldn't and in such a village the mother would have thanked the bystander for stepping in where she was failing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

I love how a sentiment that reflects community and shared effort is being weaponized to publicly shame/talk down to/yell at/lecture a two-year-old. Seriously, y'all are off your rockers.

The part that you dont get is that the other post references a person clearly looking for a fight. An adult who most likely isn't all there.

SOOOOOOO not the same as simply correcting a child and moving on. You're trying desperately to make false equivalences.

No, I am saying that if you would approach the adult in the other example then approach the adult in this example and stop talking to children you dont know and who dont know you and then scream about "it takes a village".

And I disagree. OP approached the person doing the behavior. Nothing wrong with that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this happened in France someone would have spanked that child and then be thanked by the parent who wasn't paying attention possibly they would have apologized to the spanker.

You never disappoint, French poster!

Yeah, when I was in France I saw dog owners hit and kick their dogs in public. It must be a French thing.

What???? You're missing the point....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is autistic. People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME. They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought. They are not. People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child. A stranger's child. Without knowing what was going on. You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable. You were very much in the wrong.

If your child is shrieking in the store to the point of disturbing others, maybe it’s time to take them home. It doesn’t matter that they have autism, frankly.

+10000 it doesn't matter!! Take the kid home. Its done.

Absolutely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

In the village, a kind motherly figure would have picked up the child and tried to console her. NOT yell at or punish her.

Which country ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

In the village, a kind motherly figure would have picked up the child and tried to console her. NOT yell at or punish her.

Which country ?

The village in France, of course.
After the consolation, the scolding and the cigarette, they all have some red wine together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is autistic. People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME. They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought. They are not. People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child. A stranger's child. Without knowing what was going on. You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable. You were very much in the wrong.

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OP you were completely out of line not to approach the parent first if you really thought you had to intervene. My child has apraxia and will often shriek and squeal. She also has huge anxiety. I try to never bring her to places where judgey people like you will make the situation worse, but sometimes it’s unavoidable (cancelled sitters, etc). If that had been my dd you would have missed the 30 minute prep in the car before she’d even enter the store, the hour we would have spent on a social story with photos and videos before getting in the car, and then what would look like me turning a blind eye to her shrieks bc that’s the only way she could get through it. You also wouldn’t know that this was remarkably better than the last visit and each one was an improvement, and that we had a plan with her ABA and OT therapists to desensitize her to everyday things such as a store that should be no big deal but are to her. Guess what, if you had gotten in her face and corrected her like that, it would have set her back months and reinforced everything she was anxious about, so you bet I would have sworn at you. To the other judgey people, this isn’t a result of bad parenting or junk food or anything else. Her siblings are not like this and she was born this way. Everyday tasks are hard enough without encountering know it alls like you.

Your sob story really doesn't matter. When you go out in public you know people are going to be unpredictable. Your own kid is unpredictable. Buckle up, it can be wild out there. Or leave your kid at home.

Or perhaps those of us that can control our behavior give grace to this family that are struggling. This is not permanent impact OP. This was a brief disturbance and required patience rather than confrontation.

OP sounds like a nosy snowflake.

[Anonymous]

don't ever address someone's toddler directly without speaking to the parent. that is incredibly bizarre social etiquette

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you! You were the hero of the store.

Some parents think everything their kids do is adorable, including shrieking, yelling, hitting, running around and knocking things over at the store.

Right. A little bit of public shaming is good for those people.

Yep, and now OP is getting publicly shamed. It's good for her!

Most of the comments are supporting her. Did you get triggered because you are also a shit parent who lets her brat shriek in public?

^Childless cat lady