Was I out of line at the grocery store with a shrieking toddler?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love that you did that. Expletive that mom.

+1 The mom is not the mom of you. You can speak to anyone in the grocery store. If she doesn't want any attention then she should tell her kid to stop shrieking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this happened in France someone would have spanked that child and then be thanked by the parent who wasn't paying attention possibly they would have apologized to the spanker.

LOL

[Anonymous]

And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this happened in France someone would have spanked that child and then be thanked by the parent who wasn't paying attention possibly they would have apologized to the spanker.

You never disappoint, French poster!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is autistic. People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME. They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought. They are not. People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child. A stranger's child. Without knowing what was going on. You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable. You were very much in the wrong.

+1
OP you were completely out of line not to approach the parent first if you really thought you had to intervene. My child has apraxia and will often shriek and squeal. She also has huge anxiety. I try to never bring her to places where judgey people like you will make the situation worse, but sometimes it’s unavoidable (cancelled sitters, etc). If that had been my dd you would have missed the 30 minute prep in the car before she’d even enter the store, the hour we would have spent on a social story with photos and videos before getting in the car, and then what would look like me turning a blind eye to her shrieks bc that’s the only way she could get through it. You also wouldn’t know that this was remarkably better than the last visit and each one was an improvement, and that we had a plan with her ABA and OT therapists to desensitize her to everyday things such as a store that should be no big deal but are to her. Guess what, if you had gotten in her face and corrected her like that, it would have set her back months and reinforced everything she was anxious about, so you bet I would have sworn at you. To the other judgey people, this isn’t a result of bad parenting or junk food or anything else. Her siblings are not like this and she was born this way. Everyday tasks are hard enough without encountering know it alls like you.

No one cares about your “30 minute prep.” And no is obliged to. And I’m not OP and have never corrected a child in public.

There’s a whole world out there that exists beyond your self-pity.

+1,000 Preach!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did the right thing and all the people posting here and sock puppeting don't want to be called on on their terrible parenting. These are the people you see out and about with uncivilized feral children. They don't want to have to be called out or forced to do their parenting job because they're so lazy.

OP is likely one of our resident story spinners but enjoy yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this happened in France someone would have spanked that child and then be thanked by the parent who wasn't paying attention possibly they would have apologized to the spanker.

You never disappoint, French poster!

Yeah, when I was in France I saw dog owners hit and kick their dogs in public. It must be a French thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is autistic. People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME. They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought. They are not. People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child. A stranger's child. Without knowing what was going on. You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable. You were very much in the wrong.

+1
OP you were completely out of line not to approach the parent first if you really thought you had to intervene. My child has apraxia and will often shriek and squeal. She also has huge anxiety. I try to never bring her to places where judgey people like you will make the situation worse, but sometimes it’s unavoidable (cancelled sitters, etc). If that had been my dd you would have missed the 30 minute prep in the car before she’d even enter the store, the hour we would have spent on a social story with photos and videos before getting in the car, and then what would look like me turning a blind eye to her shrieks bc that’s the only way she could get through it. You also wouldn’t know that this was remarkably better than the last visit and each one was an improvement, and that we had a plan with her ABA and OT therapists to desensitize her to everyday things such as a store that should be no big deal but are to her. Guess what, if you had gotten in her face and corrected her like that, it would have set her back months and reinforced everything she was anxious about, so you bet I would have sworn at you. To the other judgey people, this isn’t a result of bad parenting or junk food or anything else. Her siblings are not like this and she was born this way. Everyday tasks are hard enough without encountering know it alls like you.

No one cares about your “30 minute prep.” And no is obliged to. And I’m not OP and have never corrected a child in public.

There’s a whole world out there that exists beyond your self-pity.

+1,000 Preach!

+2. I only have corrected a child when they are in danger of being hurt or killed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this happened in France someone would have spanked that child and then be thanked by the parent who wasn't paying attention possibly they would have apologized to the spanker.

You never disappoint, French poster!

Yeah, when I was in France I saw dog owners hit and kick their dogs in public. It must be a French thing.

BAHAHAHAHAHA there is always one who JUST.DOESN'T.GET.IT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is autistic. People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME. They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought. They are not. People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child. A stranger's child. Without knowing what was going on. You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable. You were very much in the wrong.

+1
OP you were completely out of line not to approach the parent first if you really thought you had to intervene. My child has apraxia and will often shriek and squeal. She also has huge anxiety. I try to never bring her to places where judgey people like you will make the situation worse, but sometimes it’s unavoidable (cancelled sitters, etc). If that had been my dd you would have missed the 30 minute prep in the car before she’d even enter the store, the hour we would have spent on a social story with photos and videos before getting in the car, and then what would look like me turning a blind eye to her shrieks bc that’s the only way she could get through it. You also wouldn’t know that this was remarkably better than the last visit and each one was an improvement, and that we had a plan with her ABA and OT therapists to desensitize her to everyday things such as a store that should be no big deal but are to her. Guess what, if you had gotten in her face and corrected her like that, it would have set her back months and reinforced everything she was anxious about, so you bet I would have sworn at you. To the other judgey people, this isn’t a result of bad parenting or junk food or anything else. Her siblings are not like this and she was born this way. Everyday tasks are hard enough without encountering know it alls like you.

No one cares about your “30 minute prep.” And no is obliged to. And I’m not OP and have never corrected a child in public.

There’s a whole world out there that exists beyond your self-pity.

+1,000 Preach!

+2. I only have corrected a child when they are in danger of being hurt or killed.

You and above PPs better count your blessings for not having a special needs child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And see all the adults not confronting because its another adult behaving poorly but when its a 2 year old you just go ahead https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1294075.page

I commented on that post too and said that I confronted adults as well. I'm really not sure what kind of point you're trying to make.

The point is, OP choose to direct herself to a child versus the adult with her. If you would have talked to the mom instead of the child since you are consistent in confronting ADULTS about their behavior then the point wasnt for you. It is to amplify those of us saying, hey dont talk to the kid talk to the adult.

Too bad. People can talk to whomever they want to when they're out in public. What happened to "It takes a village"? Oh, you don't get to be part of a village if you're actually outside IN the village -- you just get to pick and choose, eh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is autistic. People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME. They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought. They are not. People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child. A stranger's child. Without knowing what was going on. You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable. You were very much in the wrong.

+1
OP you were completely out of line not to approach the parent first if you really thought you had to intervene. My child has apraxia and will often shriek and squeal. She also has huge anxiety. I try to never bring her to places where judgey people like you will make the situation worse, but sometimes it’s unavoidable (cancelled sitters, etc). If that had been my dd you would have missed the 30 minute prep in the car before she’d even enter the store, the hour we would have spent on a social story with photos and videos before getting in the car, and then what would look like me turning a blind eye to her shrieks bc that’s the only way she could get through it. You also wouldn’t know that this was remarkably better than the last visit and each one was an improvement, and that we had a plan with her ABA and OT therapists to desensitize her to everyday things such as a store that should be no big deal but are to her. Guess what, if you had gotten in her face and corrected her like that, it would have set her back months and reinforced everything she was anxious about, so you bet I would have sworn at you. To the other judgey people, this isn’t a result of bad parenting or junk food or anything else. Her siblings are not like this and she was born this way. Everyday tasks are hard enough without encountering know it alls like you.

No one cares about your “30 minute prep.” And no is obliged to. And I’m not OP and have never corrected a child in public.

There’s a whole world out there that exists beyond your self-pity.

+1,000 Preach!

+2. I only have corrected a child when they are in danger of being hurt or killed.

You and above PPs better count your blessings for not having a special needs child.

Well part of having a special needs child must be realizing most people don't understand that's what the issue is in the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this happened in France someone would have spanked that child and then be thanked by the parent who wasn't paying attention possibly they would have apologized to the spanker.

You never disappoint, French poster!

Yeah, when I was in France I saw dog owners hit and kick their dogs in public. It must be a French thing.

BAHAHAHAHAHA there is always one who JUST.DOESN'T.GET.IT.

Get what? That French people are okay with physically punishing small children and animals? In public no less?