Was I out of line at the grocery store with a shrieking toddler?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Karen’s are delighting in this ASD OP

Is there something wrong with people who have ASD? If we have to tolerate shrieking children we also need to tolerate adults on the spectrum who may act in unexpected ways. Do better. Also "Karen's" is not correct.

[Anonymous]

If mom was enjoying it and encouraging it, it probably wasn’t loud. I mean, it’s possible. But it’s equally possible is that OP is over reacting and cranky.

In any case, it’s not her place to reprimand other people’s children when she has NO information about anything else in their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Didn’t read all the replies, but wanted to share..Once saw a Mom clearly struggling with her daughter. Remembered hearing to be nice to the Mom to be helpful. Said something empathetic, and the Mom burst into tears. She was overwhelmed, her daughter had special needs, and Mom really needed to pee! I’m an RN, showed her my ID and we went to the back of the store, I stayed with her daughter while she used the restroom. She actually cried because someone reached out to her

+1 Empathy

How does that apply to OP who saw a mom delighting in the shrieking? That wouldn't signal to anyone a mom was in distress, rather it points to mom being a sociopath.

Don't be an idiot. The mom was probably trying to get the baby to stop crying by acting in a fun manner rather than by yelling at a very young baby/toddler.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Didn’t read all the replies, but wanted to share..Once saw a Mom clearly struggling with her daughter. Remembered hearing to be nice to the Mom to be helpful. Said something empathetic, and the Mom burst into tears. She was overwhelmed, her daughter had special needs, and Mom really needed to pee! I’m an RN, showed her my ID and we went to the back of the store, I stayed with her daughter while she used the restroom. She actually cried because someone reached out to her

+1 Empathy

How does that apply to OP who saw a mom delighting in the shrieking? That wouldn't signal to anyone a mom was in distress, rather it points to mom being a sociopath.

Don't be an idiot. The mom was probably trying to get the baby to stop crying by acting in a fun manner rather than by yelling at a very young baby/toddler.

And yet, OP is what stopped it, idiot.

I hope you’re enjoying all the memories when people told you about your ain’t-shit parenting.

OP, well done! Let the losers who can’t pluralize “Karen” spend a weekend both insisting the child may have been SN, and also insulting individuals with ASD. On DCUM, the mama bears get ornery not when their cubs are spoken to, but when it dawns on them that they caused that scenario…

[Anonymous]

Enemas for all. Geez

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Didn’t read all the replies, but wanted to share..Once saw a Mom clearly struggling with her daughter. Remembered hearing to be nice to the Mom to be helpful. Said something empathetic, and the Mom burst into tears. She was overwhelmed, her daughter had special needs, and Mom really needed to pee! I’m an RN, showed her my ID and we went to the back of the store, I stayed with her daughter while she used the restroom. She actually cried because someone reached out to her

+1 Empathy

How does that apply to OP who saw a mom delighting in the shrieking? That wouldn't signal to anyone a mom was in distress, rather it points to mom being a sociopath.

Don't be an idiot. The mom was probably trying to get the baby to stop crying by acting in a fun manner rather than by yelling at a very young baby/toddler.

And yet, OP is what stopped it, idiot.

I hope you’re enjoying all the memories when people told you about your ain’t-shit parenting.

OP, well done! Let the losers who can’t pluralize “Karen” spend a weekend both insisting the child may have been SN, and also insulting individuals with ASD. On DCUM, the mama bears get ornery not when their cubs are spoken to, but when it dawns on them that they caused that scenario…

OP didn’t stop the child from crying. The child started crying after OP approached it.

[Anonymous]

How could there be 27 pages on this?

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Anonymous wrote:Didn’t read all the replies, but wanted to share..Once saw a Mom clearly struggling with her daughter. Remembered hearing to be nice to the Mom to be helpful. Said something empathetic, and the Mom burst into tears. She was overwhelmed, her daughter had special needs, and Mom really needed to pee! I’m an RN, showed her my ID and we went to the back of the store, I stayed with her daughter while she used the restroom. She actually cried because someone reached out to her

+1 Empathy

How does that apply to OP who saw a mom delighting in the shrieking? That wouldn't signal to anyone a mom was in distress, rather it points to mom being a sociopath.

Don't be an idiot. The mom was probably trying to get the baby to stop crying by acting in a fun manner rather than by yelling at a very young baby/toddler.

And yet, OP is what stopped it, idiot.

I hope you’re enjoying all the memories when people told you about your ain’t-shit parenting.

OP, well done! Let the losers who can’t pluralize “Karen” spend a weekend both insisting the child may have been SN, and also insulting individuals with ASD. On DCUM, the mama bears get ornery not when their cubs are spoken to, but when it dawns on them that they caused that scenario…

OP didn’t stop the child from crying. The child started crying after OP approached it.

OP stopped the child from shrieking, which is what the mom was “laughing and being fun” about. Try to read with comprehension.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How could there be 27 pages on this?

What is the allowed number?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You sound crazy OP to yell at a toddler.

She didn't yell. And what she said is perfectly acceptable.

Judging by the child’s and the mother’s reactions, it’s highly unlikely that the OP sounded as calm as she’s describing now in the OP. So, yes, as described in the OP here, it sounds ok, but I guess it came out louder / meaner than it was unwarranted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will be honest and sound crazy but if you mess with my kid- especially in that pseudo condescending Karen way you did- I would consider clocking you. I wouldn’t do it, but it evokes an extremely strong response in many women. You were wrong.

This. One time a woman made a remark to my intellectually disabled 5 year old. And I’ve never done anything like this in my life, but it’s like a switch flipped and I got up in her face screaming. Like I’m talking 3 inches from her face. Saying HE IS INTELLECTUALLY DISABLED. How DARE YOU. She was shocked and scared and immediately apologized but my rage didn’t dissipate. I told her she SHOULD be sorry. It was like….i was kind of afraid of myself in that moment. Had no idea I had that in me. I was beyond conscious thought in that moment.

You must have been stressed to the point of insanity. No normal person acts like this. This falls under the category, "Don't say anything because you never know if the people around you are mentally ill."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will be honest and sound crazy but if you mess with my kid- especially in that pseudo condescending Karen way you did- I would consider clocking you. I wouldn’t do it, but it evokes an extremely strong response in many women. You were wrong.

The fact that you would even consider violence towards someone who did nothing more than speak sternly to your child, who was in fact misbehaving, is not an indication that you are an emotionally mature parent.

Does your kid go to school? Teachers will absolutely speak this way, or even much more harshly because they are charged with a couple dozen kids (if they are lucky) and don't have time to handhold if a child doesn't understand that screaming endlessly is not an acceptable behavior in a public place. Are you going to "clock" all your kid's teachers too?

Is op a teacher in a classroom who I have voluntarily ceded this authority to? No. She is not. She’s a busy body snowflake.

She is definitely white.

So white people know how to act in public and other races don't? Weird take.

[Anonymous]

If your kid is bothering people around them then it's time to take them home, or at least out of the situation. This is true of the grocery store, story time, a movie, whatever.

[Anonymous]

A mother laughing at her child when that child is screaming? Sounds like a sociopath - she's taunting the child, making fun of its distress. She is showing her child she enjoys that & rather than be relieved the screaming stopped she got angry & lashed out - The mothers' actions are concerning, not OPs

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Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old went through a short phase where she did this. Nothing would stop it so I decided ignoring it was best. I got dirty looks which is fine, but I would have had a MAJOR problem with you talking to my kid directly.

So what? Did you care that shoppers had a major problem with your kid shrieking? You would just seethe in silence and the kid would stop shrieking.

I don’t even understand what you’re saying.

Nothing I did stopped it. We share the world with babies and children who are still learning and growing. As an adult, you should be mature enough to deal with it.

So, no, you don’t care at all about the people around. You want the benefit of living in a society without doing your part.

she procreated...she did her part. the childless people need to do theirs by not acting like the world owes them something because they chose to live a simple life