Dating at gender-lopsided universities

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Anonymous wrote:College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

It was like that in the 90s also.

+1 I went to college in the 80s, and there was plenty of casual sex and hookups.

As a recent college grad, hooking up with 40+ people is the norm.

Ewww. Nasty

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Anonymous wrote:College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

It was like that in the 90s also.

+1 I went to college in the 80s, and there was plenty of casual sex and hookups.

As a recent college grad, hooking up with 40+ people is the norm.

not judging but isn't that very risky for health?

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Anonymous wrote:You want your boys to date? Have them reject MAGA and respect women. It’s really not that hard.

Except it’s not about that. It would be nice if things were so tidy. They aren’t.

There are plenty of middle of the road boys who respect people. Who play some video games but not a ton. Who are reasonably fit. Who are in college or college bound. Normal people. Who are having trouble meeting people and can’t figure it out. Don’t turn them into the enemy.

They aren’t “the enemy” but they are, as a whole, violent, problematic, and toxic. They have a lot they need to figure out and own up to before they should even consider a relationship.

Says they aren't the enemy.

Then describes them as an enemy who needs to surrender unconditionally.

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Anonymous wrote:I do agree with some of the conclusions here. I have both boys and girls, so you won't catch me bashing either.

My daughter would love to be "asked out" in the old-fashioned way. Dinner, coffee, whatever. She's sick of "talking to" guys.

My son is definitely a bit afraid to ask out a girl and either be shot down or shamed. He has friends who are gay and bisexual, but he admits to being confused about whether it's OK to pursue a girl who has said she's bi.

I don’t really understand sort of extreme reactions like this.

My two sons attended DCPS and while they shrugged at some of the social engineering, neither felt oppressed or overwhelmed by the messaging. Maybe in the scheme of things DCPS isn’t that crazy.

Neither has ever had an issue reading social cues and asking women out…sometimes a rejection happens but I guess they ask out normal people because there is no public shaming.

I don't think he'd get shamed, either, but HE thinks he would!

I totally agree.

The guys (thanks to social media in my opinion) think they are going to be mocked and shamed if they make a misstep.

Social media has destroyed dating relationships.

Social media, and more specifically influencers and podcasters are feeding your children crap information.

It is the female centered influencers, mostly.

I have boys, and I listen to guy focused social media, which is mostly right leaning.

Almost all of them are telling young men to get off video games, stop watching porn, exercise, get a job, go to church, learn about the world and make yourself worthy of the young women you want to be with, with a bunch of sports and things like aliens and moon landing conspiracies thrown in.


The girl social media is heavily skewed to cutting out any guy from your life who is not hard left.

Just read the Facebook posts of your adult female friends and neighbors. They say the exact same thing. I can't tell you how many times women post here and on their identifiable Facebook pages things like "I would divorce my husband if I found out he was conservative/voted for Trump."

That polarization by women is not good for dating or for society at large.

My girls do not want to date maga guys and has nothing to do with social influencers. It affects their lives and they have the right to want to date soneone closer to their ideals rather than soneone who wants five kids and a trad wife. Are you suggesting otherwise?

There are very few red hat MAGA men at top 20 colleges. Most young men are center left if you press them on issues. I don’t think politics is the problem.

Eh… they may not wear the hats, but that’s where their hearts and votes are. But it’s the same for white women, so not really a big deal.

It’s not for either…why would their hearts support idiotic policies like tariffs, cutting funding for their own colleges and other policies that completely work against their interests?

They aren’t morons like farmers who can expect a bailout when they elect someone who is destroying their livelihood.

DP the white women did not vote for HRC. They voted for Trump. Go look at the data.

Yeah…the data shows that white college women voted for Harris.

Also, this was specifically about top 20 schools. Like 90% of the top 20 schools were 80%+ for Harris. Even Vanderbilt was like 60%+.

You can’t get to those numbers without a lot of white men and women.

The honesty of those polls is highly questionable.

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Anonymous wrote:I do agree with some of the conclusions here. I have both boys and girls, so you won't catch me bashing either.

My daughter would love to be "asked out" in the old-fashioned way. Dinner, coffee, whatever. She's sick of "talking to" guys.

My son is definitely a bit afraid to ask out a girl and either be shot down or shamed. He has friends who are gay and bisexual, but he admits to being confused about whether it's OK to pursue a girl who has said she's bi.

I don’t really understand sort of extreme reactions like this.

My two sons attended DCPS and while they shrugged at some of the social engineering, neither felt oppressed or overwhelmed by the messaging. Maybe in the scheme of things DCPS isn’t that crazy.

Neither has ever had an issue reading social cues and asking women out…sometimes a rejection happens but I guess they ask out normal people because there is no public shaming.

I don't think he'd get shamed, either, but HE thinks he would!

I totally agree.

The guys (thanks to social media in my opinion) think they are going to be mocked and shamed if they make a misstep.

Social media has destroyed dating relationships.

Social media, and more specifically influencers and podcasters are feeding your children crap information.

It is the female centered influencers, mostly.

I have boys, and I listen to guy focused social media, which is mostly right leaning.

Almost all of them are telling young men to get off video games, stop watching porn, exercise, get a job, go to church, learn about the world and make yourself worthy of the young women you want to be with, with a bunch of sports and things like aliens and moon landing conspiracies thrown in.


The girl social media is heavily skewed to cutting out any guy from your life who is not hard left.

Just read the Facebook posts of your adult female friends and neighbors. They say the exact same thing. I can't tell you how many times women post here and on their identifiable Facebook pages things like "I would divorce my husband if I found out he was conservative/voted for Trump."

That polarization by women is not good for dating or for society at large.

My girls do not want to date maga guys and has nothing to do with social influencers. It affects their lives and they have the right to want to date soneone closer to their ideals rather than soneone who wants five kids and a trad wife. Are you suggesting otherwise?

There are very few red hat MAGA men at top 20 colleges. Most young men are center left if you press them on issues. I don’t think politics is the problem.

Eh… they may not wear the hats, but that’s where their hearts and votes are. But it’s the same for white women, so not really a big deal.

It’s not for either…why would their hearts support idiotic policies like tariffs, cutting funding for their own colleges and other policies that completely work against their interests?

They aren’t morons like farmers who can expect a bailout when they elect someone who is destroying their livelihood.

DP the white women did not vote for HRC. They voted for Trump. Go look at the data.

Yeah…the data shows that white college women voted for Harris.

Also, this was specifically about top 20 schools. Like 90% of the top 20 schools were 80%+ for Harris. Even Vanderbilt was like 60%+.

You can’t get to those numbers without a lot of white men and women.

The honesty of those polls is highly questionable.

Why would college-educated women vote for a POS like Trump?

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Anonymous wrote:I do agree with some of the conclusions here. I have both boys and girls, so you won't catch me bashing either.

My daughter would love to be "asked out" in the old-fashioned way. Dinner, coffee, whatever. She's sick of "talking to" guys.

My son is definitely a bit afraid to ask out a girl and either be shot down or shamed. He has friends who are gay and bisexual, but he admits to being confused about whether it's OK to pursue a girl who has said she's bi.

I don’t really understand sort of extreme reactions like this.

My two sons attended DCPS and while they shrugged at some of the social engineering, neither felt oppressed or overwhelmed by the messaging. Maybe in the scheme of things DCPS isn’t that crazy.

Neither has ever had an issue reading social cues and asking women out…sometimes a rejection happens but I guess they ask out normal people because there is no public shaming.

I don't think he'd get shamed, either, but HE thinks he would!

I totally agree.

The guys (thanks to social media in my opinion) think they are going to be mocked and shamed if they make a misstep.

Social media has destroyed dating relationships.

Social media, and more specifically influencers and podcasters are feeding your children crap information.

It is the female centered influencers, mostly.

I have boys, and I listen to guy focused social media, which is mostly right leaning.

Almost all of them are telling young men to get off video games, stop watching porn, exercise, get a job, go to church, learn about the world and make yourself worthy of the young women you want to be with, with a bunch of sports and things like aliens and moon landing conspiracies thrown in.


The girl social media is heavily skewed to cutting out any guy from your life who is not hard left.

Just read the Facebook posts of your adult female friends and neighbors. They say the exact same thing. I can't tell you how many times women post here and on their identifiable Facebook pages things like "I would divorce my husband if I found out he was conservative/voted for Trump."

That polarization by women is not good for dating or for society at large.

My girls do not want to date maga guys and has nothing to do with social influencers. It affects their lives and they have the right to want to date soneone closer to their ideals rather than soneone who wants five kids and a trad wife. Are you suggesting otherwise?

There are very few red hat MAGA men at top 20 colleges. Most young men are center left if you press them on issues. I don’t think politics is the problem.

Eh… they may not wear the hats, but that’s where their hearts and votes are. But it’s the same for white women, so not really a big deal.

It’s not for either…why would their hearts support idiotic policies like tariffs, cutting funding for their own colleges and other policies that completely work against their interests?

They aren’t morons like farmers who can expect a bailout when they elect someone who is destroying their livelihood.

DP the white women did not vote for HRC. They voted for Trump. Go look at the data.

Yeah…the data shows that white college women voted for Harris.

Also, this was specifically about top 20 schools. Like 90% of the top 20 schools were 80%+ for Harris. Even Vanderbilt was like 60%+.

You can’t get to those numbers without a lot of white men and women.

The honesty of those polls is highly questionable.

That sure sounds scientific. I mean, have you been to top 20 school campuses?

What's highly questionable is your post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

It was like that in the 90s also.

+1 I went to college in the 80s, and there was plenty of casual sex and hookups.

As a recent college grad, hooking up with 40+ people is the norm.

not judging but isn't that very risky for health?

DP. NOt only risky but hooking up with that many people is a guaranteed way to make yourself undateable. Not a smart move if you actually want to date.

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Anonymous wrote:I do agree with some of the conclusions here. I have both boys and girls, so you won't catch me bashing either.

My daughter would love to be "asked out" in the old-fashioned way. Dinner, coffee, whatever. She's sick of "talking to" guys.

My son is definitely a bit afraid to ask out a girl and either be shot down or shamed. He has friends who are gay and bisexual, but he admits to being confused about whether it's OK to pursue a girl who has said she's bi.

I don’t really understand sort of extreme reactions like this.

My two sons attended DCPS and while they shrugged at some of the social engineering, neither felt oppressed or overwhelmed by the messaging. Maybe in the scheme of things DCPS isn’t that crazy.

Neither has ever had an issue reading social cues and asking women out…sometimes a rejection happens but I guess they ask out normal people because there is no public shaming.

I don't think he'd get shamed, either, but HE thinks he would!

I totally agree.

The guys (thanks to social media in my opinion) think they are going to be mocked and shamed if they make a misstep.

Social media has destroyed dating relationships.

Social media, and more specifically influencers and podcasters are feeding your children crap information.

It is the female centered influencers, mostly.

I have boys, and I listen to guy focused social media, which is mostly right leaning.

Almost all of them are telling young men to get off video games, stop watching porn, exercise, get a job, go to church, learn about the world and make yourself worthy of the young women you want to be with, with a bunch of sports and things like aliens and moon landing conspiracies thrown in.


The girl social media is heavily skewed to cutting out any guy from your life who is not hard left.

Just read the Facebook posts of your adult female friends and neighbors. They say the exact same thing. I can't tell you how many times women post here and on their identifiable Facebook pages things like "I would divorce my husband if I found out he was conservative/voted for Trump."

That polarization by women is not good for dating or for society at large.

My girls do not want to date maga guys and has nothing to do with social influencers. It affects their lives and they have the right to want to date soneone closer to their ideals rather than soneone who wants five kids and a trad wife. Are you suggesting otherwise?

There are very few red hat MAGA men at top 20 colleges. Most young men are center left if you press them on issues. I don’t think politics is the problem.

Eh… they may not wear the hats, but that’s where their hearts and votes are. But it’s the same for white women, so not really a big deal.

It’s not for either…why would their hearts support idiotic policies like tariffs, cutting funding for their own colleges and other policies that completely work against their interests?

They aren’t morons like farmers who can expect a bailout when they elect someone who is destroying their livelihood.

DP the white women did not vote for HRC. They voted for Trump. Go look at the data.

Yeah…the data shows that white college women voted for Harris.

Also, this was specifically about top 20 schools. Like 90% of the top 20 schools were 80%+ for Harris. Even Vanderbilt was like 60%+.

You can’t get to those numbers without a lot of white men and women.

The honesty of those polls is highly questionable.

Why would college-educated women vote for a POS like Trump?

Why would a soybean farmer? Or a Union member? Or a fed employee? Or, frankly, a woman of any education?

People vote against their interests for all sorts of reasons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

It was like that in the 90s also.

+1 I went to college in the 80s, and there was plenty of casual sex and hookups.

As a recent college grad, hooking up with 40+ people is the norm.

not judging but isn't that very risky for health?

More than 4 sexual partners per year is considered promiscuous from a health risk perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:I do agree with some of the conclusions here. I have both boys and girls, so you won't catch me bashing either.

My daughter would love to be "asked out" in the old-fashioned way. Dinner, coffee, whatever. She's sick of "talking to" guys.

My son is definitely a bit afraid to ask out a girl and either be shot down or shamed. He has friends who are gay and bisexual, but he admits to being confused about whether it's OK to pursue a girl who has said she's bi.

I don’t really understand sort of extreme reactions like this.

My two sons attended DCPS and while they shrugged at some of the social engineering, neither felt oppressed or overwhelmed by the messaging. Maybe in the scheme of things DCPS isn’t that crazy.

Neither has ever had an issue reading social cues and asking women out…sometimes a rejection happens but I guess they ask out normal people because there is no public shaming.

I don't think he'd get shamed, either, but HE thinks he would!

I totally agree.

The guys (thanks to social media in my opinion) think they are going to be mocked and shamed if they make a misstep.

Social media has destroyed dating relationships.

Social media, and more specifically influencers and podcasters are feeding your children crap information.

It is the female centered influencers, mostly.

I have boys, and I listen to guy focused social media, which is mostly right leaning.

Almost all of them are telling young men to get off video games, stop watching porn, exercise, get a job, go to church, learn about the world and make yourself worthy of the young women you want to be with, with a bunch of sports and things like aliens and moon landing conspiracies thrown in.


The girl social media is heavily skewed to cutting out any guy from your life who is not hard left.

Just read the Facebook posts of your adult female friends and neighbors. They say the exact same thing. I can't tell you how many times women post here and on their identifiable Facebook pages things like "I would divorce my husband if I found out he was conservative/voted for Trump."

That polarization by women is not good for dating or for society at large.

My girls do not want to date maga guys and has nothing to do with social influencers. It affects their lives and they have the right to want to date soneone closer to their ideals rather than soneone who wants five kids and a trad wife. Are you suggesting otherwise?

There are very few red hat MAGA men at top 20 colleges. Most young men are center left if you press them on issues. I don’t think politics is the problem.

Eh… they may not wear the hats, but that’s where their hearts and votes are. But it’s the same for white women, so not really a big deal.

It’s not for either…why would their hearts support idiotic policies like tariffs, cutting funding for their own colleges and other policies that completely work against their interests?

They aren’t morons like farmers who can expect a bailout when they elect someone who is destroying their livelihood.

DP the white women did not vote for HRC. They voted for Trump. Go look at the data.

Yeah…the data shows that white college women voted for Harris.

Also, this was specifically about top 20 schools. Like 90% of the top 20 schools were 80%+ for Harris. Even Vanderbilt was like 60%+.

You can’t get to those numbers without a lot of white men and women.

The honesty of those polls is highly questionable.

Why would college-educated women vote for a POS like Trump?

Only the billionaires might. The rest know better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

It was like that in the 90s also.

+1 I went to college in the 80s, and there was plenty of casual sex and hookups.

As a recent college grad, hooking up with 40+ people is the norm.

not judging but isn't that very risky for health?

DP. NOt only risky but hooking up with that many people is a guaranteed way to make yourself undateable. Not a smart move if you actually want to date.

+1

Maybe this is the reason the birth rate is going down...because young men don't want a real relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

It was like that in the 90s also.

+1 I went to college in the 80s, and there was plenty of casual sex and hookups.

As a recent college grad, hooking up with 40+ people is the norm.

not judging but isn't that very risky for health?

DP. NOt only risky but hooking up with that many people is a guaranteed way to make yourself undateable. Not a smart move if you actually want to date.

+1

Maybe this is the reason the birth rate is going down...because young men don't want a real relationship.

Not with girls who give it away like candy on halloween. There's hope. I have college aged kids and know their friends. They (boys and girls) actually do want serious relationships. They find people with high body counts gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

It was like that in the 90s also.

+1 I went to college in the 80s, and there was plenty of casual sex and hookups.

As a recent college grad, hooking up with 40+ people is the norm.

not judging but isn't that very risky for health?

DP. NOt only risky but hooking up with that many people is a guaranteed way to make yourself undateable. Not a smart move if you actually want to date.

+1

Maybe this is the reason the birth rate is going down...because young men don't want a real relationship.

Not with girls who give it away like candy on halloween. There's hope. I have college aged kids and know their friends. They (boys and girls) actually do want serious relationships. They find people with high body counts gross.

Give me a break. Hook-up culture has been a thing since the 1980s. Almost nobody had a serious BF or GF in the late 1980s when I was at college...but there were lots of hook-ups.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You want your boys to date? Have them reject MAGA and respect women. It’s really not that hard.

Except it’s not about that. It would be nice if things were so tidy. They aren’t.

There are plenty of middle of the road boys who respect people. Who play some video games but not a ton. Who are reasonably fit. Who are in college or college bound. Normal people. Who are having trouble meeting people and can’t figure it out. Don’t turn them into the enemy.

They aren’t “the enemy” but they are, as a whole, violent, problematic, and toxic. They have a lot they need to figure out and own up to before they should even consider a relationship.

Wow. I sure hope you don't have sons. Or any children, for that matter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

It was like that in the 90s also.

+1 I went to college in the 80s, and there was plenty of casual sex and hookups.

As a recent college grad, hooking up with 40+ people is the norm.

Statistically, that isn't true. The average number of partners for Americans over a lifetime is 4.3 for women and 6.3 for men. And Gen X tend to have had significantly more partners than Millennials and Gen Z. And Gen Z in particular is having much less sex than prior generations. Obviously, there are outliers.

But according to the numbers, 50 year olds are the most promiscuous generation.