If you went to top schools but your kids are attending a lower tier, are you worried about downward mobility?

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

If they are not a people pleaser and early in high school, a lot of hormones are coming, and we as parents become less influential than their peers as much as we don’t always like it. Would you accept IU Kelley business school that is very well regarded and a couple slots away from GW or is it a hard cut-off?

I understand the peer influence factor, but my standard is clear. IU Kelley is a strong school, but it’s not good enough. I want them at a level where they’re pushed, and I don’t think Kelley meets that for me.

Funny….I’m a t200 State school guy. Built an amazing investment business and I have 4 GW kids working for me kissing my ass….

Good for you. But I want what’s best for my kid, and GW is the bar. No compromises. If they don’t make it, I’ll have no reason to stick around. Simple as that.

We get it. Give it a rest.

I was just responding to the PP's comment. I’m not backing down.

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

If they are not a people pleaser and early in high school, a lot of hormones are coming, and we as parents become less influential than their peers as much as we don’t always like it. Would you accept IU Kelley business school that is very well regarded and a couple slots away from GW or is it a hard cut-off?

I understand the peer influence factor, but my standard is clear. IU Kelley is a strong school, but it’s not good enough. I want them at a level where they’re pushed, and I don’t think Kelley meets that for me.

Funny….I’m a t200 State school guy. Built an amazing investment business and I have 4 GW kids working for me kissing my ass….

Good for you. But I want what’s best for my kid, and GW is the bar. No compromises. If they don’t make it, I’ll have no reason to stick around. Simple as that.

No reason to stick around? Sounds ominous. What major are you requiring? Are LACS acceptable?

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

If they are not a people pleaser and early in high school, a lot of hormones are coming, and we as parents become less influential than their peers as much as we don’t always like it. Would you accept IU Kelley business school that is very well regarded and a couple slots away from GW or is it a hard cut-off?

I understand the peer influence factor, but my standard is clear. IU Kelley is a strong school, but it’s not good enough. I want them at a level where they’re pushed, and I don’t think Kelley meets that for me.

Funny….I’m a t200 State school guy. Built an amazing investment business and I have 4 GW kids working for me kissing my ass….

Good for you. But I want what’s best for my kid, and GW is the bar. No compromises. If they don’t make it, I’ll have no reason to stick around. Simple as that.

No reason to stick around? Sounds ominous. What major are you requiring? Are LACS acceptable?

T15 LACs are fine, no major requirements. I just want my kid at a top place. As for sticking around, if they don’t make it into a school like that, I won’t have much left to go on for. You can call it what you want, but I’m serious, no point in going on if I can’t give my kid what they deserve. MAiD is a dignified way out.

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I wouldn’t go above T10 for SLACS.

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What is MAiD?

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Anonymous wrote:What is MAiD?

Medical Aid in Dying. Might want to read back a few pages to see what you missed this afternoon.

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

If they are not a people pleaser and early in high school, a lot of hormones are coming, and we as parents become less influential than their peers as much as we don’t always like it. Would you accept IU Kelley business school that is very well regarded and a couple slots away from GW or is it a hard cut-off?

I understand the peer influence factor, but my standard is clear. IU Kelley is a strong school, but it’s not good enough. I want them at a level where they’re pushed, and I don’t think Kelley meets that for me.

Funny….I’m a t200 State school guy. Built an amazing investment business and I have 4 GW kids working for me kissing my ass….

Good for you. But I want what’s best for my kid, and GW is the bar. No compromises. If they don’t make it, I’ll have no reason to stick around. Simple as that.

No reason to stick around? Sounds ominous. What major are you requiring? Are LACS acceptable?

T15 LACs are fine, no major requirements. I just want my kid at a top place. As for sticking around, if they don’t make it into a school like that, I won’t have much left to go on for. You can call it what you want, but I’m serious, no point in going on if I can’t give my kid what they deserve. MAiD is a dignified way out.

I ask this with gentleness and good intention: What if attaching such stakes isn’t actually helping your child maximize their potential, but rather hindering that process? What if there were another, less existential and ultimately more successful way to help them become the best version of themselves?

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Anonymous wrote:What is MAiD?

Medical Aid in Dying. Might want to read back a few pages to see what you missed this afternoon.

The madness starts on page 11 with this post:

“As a mother, I believe in giving my child every opportunity to succeed. If they chose a path that didn’t lead to a university at least on par with George Washington University, I would seriously consider medically assisted death, because without that chance, life would lose its meaning for both of us.”

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Anonymous wrote:What is MAiD?

Medical Assistance in Dying. It’s when someone can choose to end their lives on their own terms. It’s not for everyone, but it’s an option for those who need it. I’ve been clear about my choices.

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

If they are not a people pleaser and early in high school, a lot of hormones are coming, and we as parents become less influential than their peers as much as we don’t always like it. Would you accept IU Kelley business school that is very well regarded and a couple slots away from GW or is it a hard cut-off?

I understand the peer influence factor, but my standard is clear. IU Kelley is a strong school, but it’s not good enough. I want them at a level where they’re pushed, and I don’t think Kelley meets that for me.

Funny….I’m a t200 State school guy. Built an amazing investment business and I have 4 GW kids working for me kissing my ass….

Good for you. But I want what’s best for my kid, and GW is the bar. No compromises. If they don’t make it, I’ll have no reason to stick around. Simple as that.

No reason to stick around? Sounds ominous. What major are you requiring? Are LACS acceptable?

T15 LACs are fine, no major requirements. I just want my kid at a top place. As for sticking around, if they don’t make it into a school like that, I won’t have much left to go on for. You can call it what you want, but I’m serious, no point in going on if I can’t give my kid what they deserve. MAiD is a dignified way out.

I ask this with gentleness and good intention: What if attaching such stakes isn’t actually helping your child maximize their potential, but rather hindering that process? What if there were another, less existential and ultimately more successful way to help them become the best version of themselves?

I hear you, but my approach is clear. I’m not willing to lower the bar. If my kid can’t reach it, then what’s the point? They need to learn the consequences of not doing their best, and I’m not going to sugarcoat that. Maybe it’s harsh, but that’s how it is.

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Anonymous wrote:What is MAiD?

Medical Aid in Dying. Might want to read back a few pages to see what you missed this afternoon.

DCUM is educational! MAiD defiantly apporiate for non T10 SLAC. Where do you draw the line with the BIG 10? Would Ohio State be acceptable if they win the championship next Monday?

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Anonymous wrote:What is MAiD?

Medical Aid in Dying. Might want to read back a few pages to see what you missed this afternoon.

DCUM is educational! MAiD defiantly apporiate for non T10 SLAC. Where do you draw the line with the BIG 10? Would Ohio State be acceptable if they win the championship next Monday?

A win doesn’t change the fact that it’s not in the tier I’ve set. I’m serious about my standards. This isn’t a joke about rankings or championships when my child’s future is on the line. I don’t appreciate the mockery. It’s about what is the best, not hype due to temporary factors.

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

If they are not a people pleaser and early in high school, a lot of hormones are coming, and we as parents become less influential than their peers as much as we don’t always like it. Would you accept IU Kelley business school that is very well regarded and a couple slots away from GW or is it a hard cut-off?

I understand the peer influence factor, but my standard is clear. IU Kelley is a strong school, but it’s not good enough. I want them at a level where they’re pushed, and I don’t think Kelley meets that for me.

Funny….I’m a t200 State school guy. Built an amazing investment business and I have 4 GW kids working for me kissing my ass….

Good for you. But I want what’s best for my kid, and GW is the bar. No compromises. If they don’t make it, I’ll have no reason to stick around. Simple as that.

No reason to stick around? Sounds ominous. What major are you requiring? Are LACS acceptable?

T15 LACs are fine, no major requirements. I just want my kid at a top place. As for sticking around, if they don’t make it into a school like that, I won’t have much left to go on for. You can call it what you want, but I’m serious, no point in going on if I can’t give my kid what they deserve. MAiD is a dignified way out.

I ask this with gentleness and good intention: What if attaching such stakes isn’t actually helping your child maximize their potential, but rather hindering that process? What if there were another, less existential and ultimately more successful way to help them become the best version of themselves?

I hear you, but my approach is clear. I’m not willing to lower the bar. If my kid can’t reach it, then what’s the point? They need to learn the consequences of not doing their best, and I’m not going to sugarcoat that. Maybe it’s harsh, but that’s how it is.

To be sure I understand, the “consequence” of not getting into a certain caliber school is that their parent will die? Do I understand correctly?

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

If they are not a people pleaser and early in high school, a lot of hormones are coming, and we as parents become less influential than their peers as much as we don’t always like it. Would you accept IU Kelley business school that is very well regarded and a couple slots away from GW or is it a hard cut-off?

I understand the peer influence factor, but my standard is clear. IU Kelley is a strong school, but it’s not good enough. I want them at a level where they’re pushed, and I don’t think Kelley meets that for me.

Funny….I’m a t200 State school guy. Built an amazing investment business and I have 4 GW kids working for me kissing my ass….

Good for you. But I want what’s best for my kid, and GW is the bar. No compromises. If they don’t make it, I’ll have no reason to stick around. Simple as that.

No reason to stick around? Sounds ominous. What major are you requiring? Are LACS acceptable?

T15 LACs are fine, no major requirements. I just want my kid at a top place. As for sticking around, if they don’t make it into a school like that, I won’t have much left to go on for. You can call it what you want, but I’m serious, no point in going on if I can’t give my kid what they deserve. MAiD is a dignified way out.

I ask this with gentleness and good intention: What if attaching such stakes isn’t actually helping your child maximize their potential, but rather hindering that process? What if there were another, less existential and ultimately more successful way to help them become the best version of themselves?

I hear you, but my approach is clear. I’m not willing to lower the bar. If my kid can’t reach it, then what’s the point? They need to learn the consequences of not doing their best, and I’m not going to sugarcoat that. Maybe it’s harsh, but that’s how it is.

To be sure I understand, the “consequence” of not getting into a certain caliber school is that their parent will die? Do I understand correctly?

Yes, you understand correctly. If my child doesn’t make it into a top-tier school, I won’t have the will to continue. It’s not about punishment, it’s about the reality. They need to push themselves to reach that level, or there’s no reason for me to keep going.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is MAiD?

Medical Aid in Dying. Might want to read back a few pages to see what you missed this afternoon.

DCUM is educational! MAiD defiantly apporiate for non T10 SLAC. Where do you draw the line with the BIG 10? Would Ohio State be acceptable if they win the championship next Monday?

A win doesn’t change the fact that it’s not in the tier I’ve set. I’m serious about my standards. This isn’t a joke about rankings or championships when my child’s future is on the line. I don’t appreciate the mockery. It’s about what is the best, not hype due to temporary factors.

Ohio State is definatly solid, with top tier engineering. Much better than GW for engineering. My questions is would engineering from GW be more acceptable than engineering from Ohio State even though Ohio States engineering department is much more highly ranked?