Can we analyze Ben Affleck?

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Anonymous wrote:Using the word trapped was very telling. It implies that if he could just be out of this marriage things would be okay. Addicts, until they are in recovery, are always looking to escape dealing with themselves. So drink, gamble, have an affair, get into a passionate relationship and rush into a second marriage….anything to avoid dealing with yourself.

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He looks so happy and relaxed when he's with his kids. Glad he's focusing on spending time with them.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13463059/Ben-Affleck-children-Santa-Monica-Jennifer-Lopez.html

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I love violets style!

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Anonymous wrote:He looks so happy and relaxed when he's with his kids. Glad he's focusing on spending time with them.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13463059/Ben-Affleck-children-Santa-Monica-Jennifer-Lopez.html

Agree, but I have to cringe at the very obvious paparazzi location for this. Look at how busy this street is.

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Anonymous wrote:He looks so happy and relaxed when he's with his kids. Glad he's focusing on spending time with them.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13463059/Ben-Affleck-children-Santa-Monica-Jennifer-Lopez.html

Agree, but I have to cringe at the very obvious paparazzi location for this. Look at how busy this street is.

This Iis why JLO should not take all the blame. Ben is also exhausting when it come these pap pics

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Anonymous wrote:He looks so happy and relaxed when he's with his kids. Glad he's focusing on spending time with them.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13463059/Ben-Affleck-children-Santa-Monica-Jennifer-Lopez.html

Agree, but I have to cringe at the very obvious paparazzi location for this. Look at how busy this street is.

This Iis why JLO should not take all the blame. Ben is also exhausting when it come these pap pics

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

DP here. Yes, it's a terrible flaw and almost impossible to ever fully overcome. I come from a family with addicts and I would never marry an addict and I would do everything possible to prevent my kids from becoming or marrying addicts. It's never fully in the past. There's literally not one addict I've ever met who has been able to transcend the behaviors of an addict and behave like a non-addict. At a certain age, I tell each of my kids about the addiction issues in our family and explain to them how it works. Our family inherited a predisposition to deal with stress the addict way. It's a mindset that's far more than the act of drinking or doing drugs. It's a lifelong lesson for me to teach myself and my kids better ways to manage challenges and stress.

It's the worst flaw in my family and it never fully goes away. Ben Affleck is an addict and it's a terrible flaw. I hope Jen Garner and her kids go to Al-Anon to get help dealing with it. You don't just accidentally pick an addict.

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Anonymous wrote:He looks so happy and relaxed when he's with his kids. Glad he's focusing on spending time with them.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13463059/Ben-Affleck-children-Santa-Monica-Jennifer-Lopez.html

Agree, but I have to cringe at the very obvious paparazzi location for this. Look at how busy this street is.

This Iis why JLO should not take all the blame. Ben is also exhausting when it come these pap pics

This reminds me of when Joe Jonas took his kids to brunch at the height of his divorce drama and they sat outside, knowing the paps were following them. At least Ben’s kids are old enough to refuse when they’re being used as props.

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Anonymous wrote:He looks so happy and relaxed when he's with his kids. Glad he's focusing on spending time with them.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13463059/Ben-Affleck-children-Santa-Monica-Jennifer-Lopez.html

“Kids, you know the drill. Don’t look at the cameras, but look like you’re having fun. Daddy needs some good press right now. If you want to keep up the fancy life I provide for you, then turn up the smiles.”

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Anonymous wrote:He looks so happy and relaxed when he's with his kids. Glad he's focusing on spending time with them.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13463059/Ben-Affleck-children-Santa-Monica-Jennifer-Lopez.html

“Kids, you know the drill. Don’t look at the cameras, but look like you’re having fun. Daddy needs some good press right now. If you want to keep up the fancy life I provide for you, then turn up the smiles.”

I think Jen G taught the kids a long time ago to just live their lives and ignore the cameras. Should they never sit outside because of them? Anyway, these photos appear to have been taken from a distance, and were not taken by Backgrid (the arranged celebrity pap photos of choice).

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Progressive alcoholic loser.

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Violet is Garners twin.
Finn looks just like Affleck.


Playing cards outside a busy street is very ridiculous. They couldn’t do this at home?

Jennifer would be mocked if she did this with her kids

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JLo not invited to any of Violet's graduation events. They are dunzo.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13465893/Ben-Affleck-looks-downcast-rolls-daughter-Violets-graduation-party-amid-Jennifer-Lopez-split-rumors.html

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Anonymous wrote:JLo not invited to any of Violet's graduation events. They are dunzo.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13465893/Ben-Affleck-looks-downcast-rolls-daughter-Violets-graduation-party-amid-Jennifer-Lopez-split-rumors.html

That doesn't mean they are done. I don’t think Violet cares much for Jlo so they probably asked her not to come to respect daughter wishes and privacy.

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Anonymous wrote:JLo not invited to any of Violet's graduation events. They are dunzo.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13465893/Ben-Affleck-looks-downcast-rolls-daughter-Violets-graduation-party-amid-Jennifer-Lopez-split-rumors.html

That doesn't mean they are done. I don’t think Violet cares much for Jlo so they probably asked her not to come to respect daughter wishes and privacy.

I do think they are likely getting divorced but agree with this. Violet did not attend their wedding and I think Ben and Jen G are very respectful of her wishes when it comes to this stuff. The recent events for Fin were different because Emme was also involved as Fin and Emme are in the same class and involved in some of the same activities.