Can we analyze Ben Affleck?

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

... you mean outside of saying he was so miserable being married to her that he became an alcoholic to cope with his unhappiness? that's not exactly the sweet words you hope to hear out of your spouse's mouth.

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Using the word trapped was very telling. It implies that if he could just be out of this marriage things would be okay. Addicts, until they are in recovery, are always looking to escape dealing with themselves. So drink, gamble, have an affair, get into a passionate relationship and rush into a second marriage….anything to avoid dealing with yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

... you mean outside of saying he was so miserable being married to her that he became an alcoholic to cope with his unhappiness? that's not exactly the sweet words you hope to hear out of your spouse's mouth.

+1 of course JLo thought she was too special to ever feel this way toward her. At least he left this time rather than drink. He seems to be focused on staying healthy for his kids, which is great. Hopefully he will do the work to figure out why he makes crappy choices in relationships and is not a stable, reliable partner once committed.

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

Um, no? The point is that he may not be drinking but he is still is still demonstrating the destructive behavior of an addict. Not drinking is not the same think as being SOBER. He is still struggling with his disease and he's not going to have a successful relationship until he's truly sober.

You are the person who characterized it as a "character flaw", not me.

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

Um, no? The point is that he may not be drinking but he is still is still demonstrating the destructive behavior of an addict. Not drinking is not the same think as being SOBER. He is still struggling with his disease and he's not going to have a successful relationship until he's truly sober.

You are the person who characterized it as a "character flaw", not me.

What do you mean by actions and words of an addict?

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

Um, no? The point is that he may not be drinking but he is still is still demonstrating the destructive behavior of an addict. Not drinking is not the same think as being SOBER. He is still struggling with his disease and he's not going to have a successful relationship until he's truly sober.

You are the person who characterized it as a "character flaw", not me.

What do you mean by actions and words of an addict?

Listen to the Indestructible PR podcast ep. 275. Keep in mind that the podcast is from January.

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

God i hate generalizing but you're right. It's a total total addict language. This is the way Brad Pitt talked about his dependency issues when he was with Jennifer too. He had to go back and apologize as well.

[Anonymous]

We’ve all heard the expression, “wherever you go, there you are.” It applies here. Until Ben deals with his own sh*t, he’s never going to be happy or satisfied in any relationship, and he’s always going to blame the other person for how miserable he is.

I’m sure JLo is not an easy person to be in a relationship with, but he knew exactly who she was going in. Did she trap him, too?

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

DP but you nailed it

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

Um, no? The point is that he may not be drinking but he is still is still demonstrating the destructive behavior of an addict. Not drinking is not the same think as being SOBER. He is still struggling with his disease and he's not going to have a successful relationship until he's truly sober.

You are the person who characterized it as a "character flaw", not me.

You have good intentions but you don’t get to make up the definition of sober based on what some lady on a podcast said because it resonated with you.

so·ber
/ˈsōbər/
verb
1.
make or become sober after drinking alcohol:
"that coffee sobered him up"
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become sober, become clearheaded, informal:dry out, make sober, clear someone's head, ... more
adjective
1.
not affected by alcohol; not drunk.
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not drunk, not intoxicated, clearheaded, as sober as a judge, teetotal, ... moreOpposite
drunk

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I hope his dickie is as big as his forehead….

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

Um, no? The point is that he may not be drinking but he is still is still demonstrating the destructive behavior of an addict. Not drinking is not the same think as being SOBER. He is still struggling with his disease and he's not going to have a successful relationship until he's truly sober.

You are the person who characterized it as a "character flaw", not me.

You have good intentions but you don’t get to make up the definition of sober based on what some lady on a podcast said because it resonated with you.

so·ber
/ˈsōbər/
verb
1.
make or become sober after drinking alcohol:
"that coffee sobered him up"
Similar
become sober, become clearheaded, informal:dry out, make sober, clear someone's head, ... more
adjective
1.
not affected by alcohol; not drunk.
Similar
not drunk, not intoxicated, clearheaded, as sober as a judge, teetotal, ... moreOpposite
drunk

Being dry vs being sober is a standard 12-step belief. It's not something someone on a podcast made up. I don't want to write a dissertation on it, but you can Google "dry drunk" or "white knuckling" to learn more.

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Anonymous wrote:Could he be gravitating toward JG again? He has move physically close to her house. He recently asked her to come perform for him in a new Netflix show while he directs her. There were photos of him meeting her new boyfriend. He was married to her for over a decade and had 3 kids. He could soon crave her back.

No, he is still good friends with her and respects her as the mother of his kids. His house is close to make it easier to be there for the kids. I think they have a strong bond but not romantic one. She will fight for him to be healthy because she loves him as her children’s dad. I think that’s it between them but they will always be friends. He knows she’s so much better than he deserves.

Agreed. I think they knew early it wasn't a good match early on but tired to work it out for the kids. They love each other but aren't in love with each other. Loads of parents end up like this.

I’m not sure Ben Affleck loves Jennifer Garner. Here’s what he said about being married to her:

"I'd probably still be drinking. It's part of why I started drinking … because I was trapped," the Argo director admitted to Howard Stern of feeling unhappy in his marriage to Garner, 49. "I was like 'I can't leave 'cause of my kids, but I'm not happy, what do I do?' What I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution."

I think he has just learned over time that he can be very disrespectful of Jennifer Garner and she takes it.

I don't think that is disrespectful. He was talking about himself. He was feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage. There are hundreds of posts and relationships where that happens. He didn't want to leave because of the kid and so drank to cope. He doesn't say anything about her at all.

Whoever posted about that Indestructible PR podcast-- that lady nailed it. She talked about this interview extensively. This is very much addict-speak. Always blaming things outside yourself rather than yourself. She talked about the difference between being dry vs being sober, and Ben is dry. He may not be drinking but his actions and words are very much that of an addict.

The podcast was from February and she predicted that Ben and JLo were headed for divorce based on the things (like this) that each of them were saying in the press.

Your post sounds like an addict is some terrible character flaw and that for the rest of that person's life his/her words are reflective of an addict whether drinking or not?

Um, no? The point is that he may not be drinking but he is still is still demonstrating the destructive behavior of an addict. Not drinking is not the same think as being SOBER. He is still struggling with his disease and he's not going to have a successful relationship until he's truly sober.

You are the person who characterized it as a "character flaw", not me.

You have good intentions but you don’t get to make up the definition of sober based on what some lady on a podcast said because it resonated with you.

so·ber
/ˈsōbər/
verb
1.
make or become sober after drinking alcohol:
"that coffee sobered him up"
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become sober, become clearheaded, informal:dry out, make sober, clear someone's head, ... more
adjective
1.
not affected by alcohol; not drunk.
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not drunk, not intoxicated, clearheaded, as sober as a judge, teetotal, ... moreOpposite
drunk

Being dry vs being sober is a standard 12-step belief. It's not something someone on a podcast made up. I don't want to write a dissertation on it, but you can Google "dry drunk" or "white knuckling" to learn more.

Gotcha, it’s 12 step jargon.