Why would he be in a random parking lot?

Anonymous
My husband was often in a random parking lot at times. It turns out there was an adult book store near there with booths in the back for men to engage with each other.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My husband was often in a random parking lot at times. It turns out there was an adult book store near there with booths in the back for men to engage with each other.
to talk about books?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have nothing to hide but it's very odd that you need to know where your partner is at every minute of every day..... And I would be very skeptical of my husband if he was tracking my whereabouts. We do trust each other that's why we don't need to.... That is just creepy and odd. And how do you think people have survived this long without having their spouses tracked every second of their life?.
It would make me almost want to get an old beater of a car just so you couldn't be tracking me around


I feel like you don't understand how this stuff works...

Phones (and some cars) have tracking on them. So yes, in theory you could open the app and track the person all day. But I'm pretty sure not a single person on here said they did that. People said they would check location to see what time someone would be home, which equates to opening the app at a single point in time, checking the location, and then closing the app. NO ONE IS CHECKING WHERE SOMEONE IS EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY DAY. Since you seen unable to understand that.

Also, do you just leave the house without your phone for most of the day? Of course not, because we have become reliant on them. If you're Gen X, you didn't have cell phones until likely after college, and somehow we managed, yet today it feels weird to be without it. See how that works?


+1. To each their own. If both spouses agree and want to enable tracking on each other’s devices, go for it. As runners/cyclists, we have both always found it super helpful for safety reasons. Also convenient to see / guage when the other person will be home without distracting them while driving with a call or text. But if that’s not your cup of tea, then don’t. But seriously, why attack others for their very practical and rational choices?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband was often in a random parking lot at times. It turns out there was an adult book store near there with booths in the back for men to engage with each other.
to talk about books?


Yes, likely the Tyler Durden version of book club.
Anonymous
I could give two fks if my husband tracked me or not. I sometimes check his location so I know when to put something in the oven.

I’m not doing anything shady so I don’t care.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I would never track my spouse unless I suspect cheating. Call or text if you want to know so badly. Unless they 100% are cool with it. Seems creepy and controlling


I don’t call or text because if he is late arriving home that means he is probably working late, and that means he is stressed about getting finished up. I am sure DH would rather I use find my phone to gauge when he is going to be home than call or text. I’m just trying to time dinner, not control him.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I could give two fks if my husband tracked me or not. I sometimes check his location so I know when to put something in the oven.

I’m not doing anything shady so I don’t care.

It’s so funny that this is what OP was doing and so many others have commented that they look for the same reason!
Anonymous
You guys are really trying to rationalize pretty hard tracking your spouse. If you honestly trusted each other you would let each other know what time you were going to be home and if it wasn't the exact minute it really wouldn't be that big of deal. I can't think of any meal important enough that I had to know the exact time my husband was going to walk in the door that I have made in the past 15 years. You know you can turn the stove to simmer, right? You don't need to keep boiling your pasta for the next 20 minutes waiting for him. Keep rationalizing all you want but it says something about your marriage that you feel the need to do this
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I could give two fks if my husband tracked me or not. I sometimes check his location so I know when to put something in the oven.

I’m not doing anything shady so I don’t care.

It’s so funny that this is what OP was doing and so many others have commented that they look for the same reason!


+2. I do it with my kid as well and it's really to be helpful. If I see she's near my job, I offer for her to ride home with me as opposed to taking the metro. Or I might buy her something if I'm out grabbing a snack. Maybe this is generational? I'm a millennial.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I would never track my spouse unless I suspect cheating. Call or text if you want to know so badly. Unless they 100% are cool with it. Seems creepy and controlling


Texting while they're driving? They may not respond.

Calling to ask when they're going to be home is somehow less controlling than checking an app? Ok...
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You guys are really trying to rationalize pretty hard tracking your spouse. If you honestly trusted each other you would let each other know what time you were going to be home and if it wasn't the exact minute it really wouldn't be that big of deal. I can't think of any meal important enough that I had to know the exact time my husband was going to walk in the door that I have made in the past 15 years. You know you can turn the stove to simmer, right? You don't need to keep boiling your pasta for the next 20 minutes waiting for him. Keep rationalizing all you want but it says something about your marriage that you feel the need to do this


So when I check to see what time my husband will be getting home with the kids from their sport I am...doing what exactly? How is he cheating with my kids in the car? I think it's weirder that you think checking your spouse's location means there must be distrust in the marriage.
Anonymous
You’ve never pulled over to take a call you weren’t expecting?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:If he really wanted to cheat on you he could just leave his phone in his office and give the mistress a burner phone or Google number to communicate with him and rendezvous at a hotel after work. You’d think he was at the office.


Friend with an AP does this.
Anonymous
PSA: Apple tags aren’t always accurate. I checked my husband’s location once when he didn’t pick up and we’d been having a rough week - it said he was at some random location for 30 minutes. I asked him when he got back where he was (the grocery store) and I told him I saw he had been elsewhere at that time. He asked me to see what it said about the car’s location at this very minute and it showed it was still at that location although it was parked in front of our house. It was just a street he passed by on his way to the store. Anyways I felt silly. I put it in my car because I’m in DC where carjackings are more common occurrences and will keep to that instead of tracking my husbands whereabouts.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I would never track my spouse unless I suspect cheating. Call or text if you want to know so badly. Unless they 100% are cool with it. Seems creepy and controlling


Now see I would say a call or text is pestering, which is worse than checking on their whereabouts with find my phone. In fact I was just wondering if DH had left the office (he said he was leaving early to take our son somewhere) and I looked for his location, but for some reason his location sharing isn't on. I did not text or call to ask him where he is because he may have gotten caught up in a work thing and I'm not going to interrupt him just so that I can give my son an update on where he is. I don't think what I did was creepy or controlling but I guess we all have our opinions.
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