Why would he be in a random parking lot?

[Anonymous]

DH typically arrives home from work around 6pm like clockwork. He rarely calls when he leaves work, but usually calls if he’s running late.

Usually if I’m making something time sensitive for dinner (like grilling steak) I will quickly check his location just to be sure he’s actually on his way and how far away so it doesn’t overcook.

A month or so ago I checked and noticed he was at a random parking lot on his route home. I thought it suspicious and so I texted him “have you left yet”, and he responded that he was running late. I had/have no other reason to suspect anything suspicious, so I ignored it, but have remained nosy nearly every day since. He was there about 30-45 minutes. It hadn’t happened again until yesterday, he texted me saying he would be late. I monitored, he left on time, but then ended up at a different random parking lot again for another 30-45 minutes, in the dark and cold. I confronted him and he looked shocked and a little disappointed. He said he was there because he doesn’t otherwise have any alone time to decompress. (I WFH and am always here.)

Does this sound believable? I don’t know what to think.

[Anonymous]

Plausible. I sit in my car when I need alone time. Listen to music. Game on my phone. Any odd call records?

[Anonymous]

Yes it sounds believable. But it could also be a hookup, prostitute, drugs, drinking, binge eating, you name it. See what happens when you breach someone’s privacy and engage in unwarranted surveillance? You invite all kinds of scrutiny and drive yourself crazy. Maybe MYOB in the future and you’ll all be happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Plausible. I sit in my car when I need alone time. Listen to music. Game on my phone. Any odd call records?

Same. It’s the only time I have to myself. I’ve even sat in my driveway for 10+ minutes just to regroup before entering the craziness of a home with young kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH typically arrives home from work around 6pm like clockwork. He rarely calls when he leaves work, but usually calls if he’s running late.

Usually if I’m making something time sensitive for dinner (like grilling steak) I will quickly check his location just to be sure he’s actually on his way and how far away so it doesn’t overcook.

A month or so ago I checked and noticed he was at a random parking lot on his route home. I thought it suspicious and so I texted him “have you left yet”, and he responded that he was running late. I had/have no other reason to suspect anything suspicious, so I ignored it, but have remained nosy nearly every day since. He was there about 30-45 minutes. It hadn’t happened again until yesterday, he texted me saying he would be late. I monitored, he left on time, but then ended up at a different random parking lot again for another 30-45 minutes, in the dark and cold. I confronted him and he looked shocked and a little disappointed. He said he was there because he doesn’t otherwise have any alone time to decompress. (I WFH and am always here.)

Does this sound believable? I don’t know what to think.

He told you he needs alone time, and you said it yourself- you're always there. Give the man some alone time. Leave the house once in a while. He doesn't want to see you all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes it sounds believable. But it could also be a hookup, prostitute, drugs, drinking, binge eating, you name it.

binge eating?! that’s totally it. 🫠

[Anonymous]

It could be anything but it certainly is one hundred percent possible he just wants to decompress alone for a bit. I do exactly the same thing when I don’t have any other time to myself.

[Anonymous]

I’d be suspicious.

[Anonymous]

Is he buying presents and left the phone in the car?

[Anonymous]

Stop tracking your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop tracking your husband.

+1. Does he track you too and log how much time you “work” in front of the TV? FFS.

[Anonymous]

I do this sometimes. Spouse rarely leaves the house and I need alone time.

[Anonymous]

I do this. My DH WFH and never leaves the house. He actually went for a bike ride today and I canceled my plans so I could have the house to myself for an hour. sad, but true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do this. My DH WFH and never leaves the house. He actually went for a bike ride today and I canceled my plans so I could have the house to myself for an hour. sad, but true.

did you binge eat?

[Anonymous]

This is why my DH & I don’t track each other.