13yr old's pediatrician just told her she is overweight and I am pissed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is 5 ft even and 125 lbs. Is she overweight?

Yes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:150 is huge for 5-2 and at 13….. total mom fail. I’m 5’2 as well, I was 95 pounds at that age. Your daughter is a big girl, sorry.

She's 5'5", sounds like you need some carbs to fuel your brain

Hardly. OP wrote the height incorrectly in her first post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is 5 ft even and 125 lbs. Is she overweight?

Yes

+1 she should be closer to 100 lbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading this thread is depressing and makes me relieved I have a son. My wife would no doubt f*** up our daughter with this self-hatred BS. It's pathetic that you women don't want to do better for your daughters.

Boys are also increasingly overweight and can suffer from eating disorders.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It probably has something to do with the new AAP childhood obesity guidelines they released this year. BMI does not account for muscle and your kid sounds athletic.
For the past few years my daughter was a gymnast training 12-16 hours per week and weighed 86 lbs last year. Every time she went to the doctor they were saying she was in the “obese” range. She decided to move on at the end of the summer last year and try another sport. Her new sport has much less conditioning so she has lost most of the “weight” which was all muscle. She is now 2 inches taller but only 71 lbs. I don’t listen to the BMI charts at all for my kids.

Not sure how you got from 86 lbs to 151 lbs...

My own child. I was sharing a personal anecdote with OP of how my child was always deemed “obese” at her well visits but stopped training as a high level gymnast and within months lost 14 pounds of muscle. Her kid also sounds muscular with the amount of sports she does. BMI is not accurate in these cases.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Reading this thread is depressing and makes me relieved I have a son. My wife would no doubt f*** up our daughter with this self-hatred BS. It's pathetic that you women don't want to do better for your daughters.

Boys are also increasingly overweight and can suffer from eating disorders.

Mothers don’t mess with their sons’ heads about their bodies the way they do with their daughters. My MIL still does it to my wife. It really is pathetic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It probably has something to do with the new AAP childhood obesity guidelines they released this year. BMI does not account for muscle and your kid sounds athletic.
For the past few years my daughter was a gymnast training 12-16 hours per week and weighed 86 lbs last year. Every time she went to the doctor they were saying she was in the “obese” range. She decided to move on at the end of the summer last year and try another sport. Her new sport has much less conditioning so she has lost most of the “weight” which was all muscle. She is now 2 inches taller but only 71 lbs. I don’t listen to the BMI charts at all for my kids.

Not sure how you got from 86 lbs to 151 lbs...

My own child. I was sharing a personal anecdote with OP of how my child was always deemed “obese” at her well visits but stopped training as a high level gymnast and within months lost 14 pounds of muscle. Her kid also sounds muscular with the amount of sports she does. BMI is not accurate in these cases.

OP's kid is not 151 lbs of pure muscle.

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Anonymous wrote:Totally fine with this. Long term obesity is a health issue that should be spoken about. Like smoking

Right, body shaming teen girls has done wonders at keeping obesity rates under control for the past few decades!

Body shaming? He gave a medical diagnosis based on data.

So then go back and reread the OP and tell us what you think the girl (or her parents) should do. Do you think a teen who is getting plenty of exercise should start restricting calories? Do you think she should start tracking everything she eats?

Yes. She needs to look at her diet and portions.

I was 13 and probably about 15 pounds overweight when I went on my first diet. I lost weight and got so much positive attention. My parents were so proud. By 16 I had gained it all back, and then some, and was so filled with shame and self-loathing that I started bingeing and purging daily. Would actually steal cash out of my parents’ wallets so that I could buy junk food on the way home from school to binge and purge without anyone noticing. Took me almost 10 years to fully recover.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It probably has something to do with the new AAP childhood obesity guidelines they released this year. BMI does not account for muscle and your kid sounds athletic.
For the past few years my daughter was a gymnast training 12-16 hours per week and weighed 86 lbs last year. Every time she went to the doctor they were saying she was in the “obese” range. She decided to move on at the end of the summer last year and try another sport. Her new sport has much less conditioning so she has lost most of the “weight” which was all muscle. She is now 2 inches taller but only 71 lbs. I don’t listen to the BMI charts at all for my kids.

Not sure how you got from 86 lbs to 151 lbs...

My own child. I was sharing a personal anecdote with OP of how my child was always deemed “obese” at her well visits but stopped training as a high level gymnast and within months lost 14 pounds of muscle. Her kid also sounds muscular with the amount of sports she does. BMI is not accurate in these cases.

OP's kid is not 151 lbs of pure muscle.

She does need to be for the math to work out that she could have 115 lbs of muscle and at 150lbs have 23% body fat. Not fat by any means.

As a child, who is just starting to go through puberty and needs body fat to initiate and maintain menarche. This is on an individual level but in general " a minimum level of fatness (17% of body weight) is associated with menarche; however, a heavier minimum weight for height, representing an increased amount of body fat (22%), appears necessary for the onset and maintenance of regular menstrual cycles in girls over 16 years of age. "

[Anonymous]

It is unlikely that a 13 year old doing some CrossFit, volleyball, and software is solid muscle on par with an Olympic athlete. Being physically active doesn’t mean that you still can’t be overweight.

OP’s daughter weighs more than 95% of all other 13 year olds. If her height growth has slowed down and her weight has increased then the pediatrician was correct to flag this as something to address. Also if the OP is overweight or obese, it’s another risk factor for her daughter being and staying overweight.

As so many people on this board can confirm, it is very hard to lose weight once you gain it. Kids who are overweight are at a very high risk for becoming obese as adults.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:150 is huge for 5-2 and at 13….. total mom fail. I’m 5’2 as well, I was 95 pounds at that age. Your daughter is a big girl, sorry.

She's 5'5", sounds like you need some carbs to fuel your brain

And she is still overweight according to the pediatric/teen bmi guidelines at 5’5” as well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading this thread is depressing and makes me relieved I have a son. My wife would no doubt f*** up our daughter with this self-hatred BS. It's pathetic that you women don't want to do better for your daughters.

This thread is one of the worst and most f*cked up I’ve read on DCUM and I didn’t even read all of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Totally fine with this. Long term obesity is a health issue that should be spoken about. Like smoking

Right, body shaming teen girls has done wonders at keeping obesity rates under control for the past few decades!

Body shaming? He gave a medical diagnosis based on data.

So then go back and reread the OP and tell us what you think the girl (or her parents) should do. Do you think a teen who is getting plenty of exercise should start restricting calories? Do you think she should start tracking everything she eats?

Yes. She needs to look at her diet and portions.

I was 13 and probably about 15 pounds overweight when I went on my first diet. I lost weight and got so much positive attention. My parents were so proud. By 16 I had gained it all back, and then some, and was so filled with shame and self-loathing that I started bingeing and purging daily. Would actually steal cash out of my parents’ wallets so that I could buy junk food on the way home from school to binge and purge without anyone noticing. Took me almost 10 years to fully recover.

Ok, so what do you suggest? Op’s doctor ignoring a clear health issue? Just let her continue on the path?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:150 is huge for 5-2 and at 13….. total mom fail. I’m 5’2 as well, I was 95 pounds at that age. Your daughter is a big girl, sorry.

Not only are you ignorant and a terrible human being, but you are an idiot. Read the thread. Her DD is 65.25 inches

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She IS overweight for her height. It is her doctor's job to talk to her about that. It is NOT about her looks but about her health. Nothing to get your feelings hurt about.

NP but you're absolutely wrong. Height and weight is not just what you see on a chart. I am OP's daughter's height and 145 is when I look my best and is the absolute lowest I can get, no matter what I do. I believe OP that her daughter is athletic and fine. I'm sorry, OP, I empathize.