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13yr old's pediatrician just told her she is overweight and I am pissed
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Anonymous
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At my daughter's well visit and during that time she talked to her about physical activity etc...
My daughter does cross fit in winter, volleyball in Fall, and travel softball year round. She definitely has an athletic body. She wears a size 6 in jeans and a small or medium in shirts/pants. She is 5.25 height and was 151lbs with her clothes and sneakers on. This pediatrician talked to her about being in the overweight category in the BMI and I almost lost my $hit. My jaw dropped. She looks nothing overweight. She has muscular legs and arms (she is a softball pitcher) and no belly gut. She isn't a twig but man, I was thrown they would talk like this to a girl teen. When we left, I told my daughter to not listen to her and she is strong and beautiful and muscle weights more than fat and not to worry at all. But I know this made her start overthinking. I could see it. Is this normal? Really thinking of moving doctors. |
Anonymous
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She IS overweight for her height. It is her doctor's job to talk to her about that. It is NOT about her looks but about her health. Nothing to get your feelings hurt about.
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Anonymous
| I’m surprised and sorry for you all but honestly, I think most peds would have said the same with those stats based on charts. Is it accurate or correct? Not really. But 150 at 5’2” is going to invite that. If you can get a trusted recommendation for a doctor who is particularly astute with girls going through puberty definitely switch. |
Anonymous
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She is overweight, sorry. If she doesn't address this now, she will have life long issues.
If you mean 5'2 1/2 (5.25 is an odd measurement) then she's in the overweight category for BMI. I can tell you're defensive by bringing up her clothes/shoes. Thats a pound or 2. |
Anonymous
+1 This is about her health. We don't need a generation of people reliant on Ozempic. Start addressing the real issues early. |
Anonymous
| Your kid is overweight. Instead of getting upset, try to work on her losing weight. |
Anonymous
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OP I am with you.
I personally would move her now to a gyn and new physician. All bodies are not the same BMI is ridiculous. |
Anonymous
Yes, it is. The DD is overweight, not big-boned or muscular. |
Anonymous
| I think doctors will start to do this more. But I agree, it’s not helpful and leaves awful feelings and at such a sensitive age. The time time for doctors to do this is when kids are younger, and talk to the parents privately. Not the children! |
Anonymous
Oh brother! I am the one you're responding to and on Ozempic. Just stop. |
Anonymous
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What is 5.25 height in feet / inches? 5 foot 3 inches? I can't really get a sense of the weight for height to know whether it's a real concern.
In general even if she is in the overweight category I would probably think that should be discussed with the parent only, I think. |
Anonymous
Omg I am the OP. Sorry, she is 5 ft and 5.25 inches. I changed it |
Anonymous
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Well I'm 5'2 and 130lbs and my doctor spoke to me about my weight. I lost 10lbs and a lot of health problems went away. I do think 151lbs is overweight for that height. Obese is 30lbs overweight.
Your doctor is looking at this from a medical perspective. Of course from a parental perspective, you should help her love the body she has, but also understand nutrition, eating well, stopping eating when full, etc. |
Anonymous
Big-boned is such a farce! Open your eyes people! Stop saying your kid has baby fat until they're in puberty and then using the big boned excuse. |
Anonymous
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Her BMI is high, but her doctor should do a body fat measurement before having any concern, because you are absolutely correct that, if she has a lot of muscle, a high BMI alone does not indicate a health issue.
I would likely change doctors if her current doctor does not grasp that issue. |