Hookup Culture

[Anonymous]

^ I was agreeing with you, meant to quote other.

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Anonymous wrote:Encourage safe sex and only being with people who are interested in the same things she's interested in. Don't aim for a ONS with a guy who is sensitive, a virgin, and wants a LTR, for example.

These same sensitive guys in their 30s, after they have had a few relationships and experience, have their pick of women between 20-40. And they deserve it. They only need wait it out a few years and the power dynamic totally changes…don’t feel sorry for them. As for OP’s DD, I do feel sorry for her.

[Anonymous]

When you say hook up, do you mean actual sex, or just making out?

I knew a lot of girls who were making out with different guys every weekend but they weren’t actually having sex with them. The only people I knew who were having actual sex in college were in relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

Why wouldn’t a guy want to date her? She isn’t obligated to tell him “her number” and any guy that would ask this and demand to know isn’t worth dating.

They’ll all date, few will want to marry her.

I'm the PP who said I was probably a lot like her daughter. I, along with most of my friends who also happily hooked up a lot in college, are all happily married with families now. Not sure why people always post that they won't be able to have relationships when they want them. None of us had trouble getting boyfriends when we actually wanted to settle down in a relationship.

That depends on how honest you are, and how early in the relationship.

This. I’m yet to meet a reasonable decent man that would knowingly want to marry a girl who has lived it up with 30+ guys in college…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

True but consequences are different for women in many ways.

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Anonymous wrote:hooking up with a different guy every weekend? as in FULL hookup?

gross!

I have two college sons who are D1 athletes at P4 schools. They told me that they are sleeping with different women every few days because women want them. Many of these women get passed around by athletes. My sons told me they will sleep with these women, but no serious relationship with them because of their sexual activities.

is this in the South? no surprise that women like the BMOCs/jocks, but it is somewhat disheartening that women are acting this way. Personally would not want my athlete sons going to a school where the women are not looking to get to know them as people, not objects - hard pass imo

[Anonymous]

Be sure that she knows to use a condom each time, because who knows how many other women (or men) these guys are also hooking up with.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

Why wouldn’t a guy want to date her? She isn’t obligated to tell him “her number” and any guy that would ask this and demand to know isn’t worth dating.

They’ll all date, few will want to marry her.

I'm the PP who said I was probably a lot like her daughter. I, along with most of my friends who also happily hooked up a lot in college, are all happily married with families now. Not sure why people always post that they won't be able to have relationships when they want them. None of us had trouble getting boyfriends when we actually wanted to settle down in a relationship.

That depends on how honest you are, and how early in the relationship.

This. I’m yet to meet a reasonable decent man that would knowingly want to marry a girl who has lived it up with 30+ guys in college…

How would he tell?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

Why wouldn’t a guy want to date her? She isn’t obligated to tell him “her number” and any guy that would ask this and demand to know isn’t worth dating.

They’ll all date, few will want to marry her.

I'm the PP who said I was probably a lot like her daughter. I, along with most of my friends who also happily hooked up a lot in college, are all happily married with families now. Not sure why people always post that they won't be able to have relationships when they want them. None of us had trouble getting boyfriends when we actually wanted to settle down in a relationship.

That depends on how honest you are, and how early in the relationship.

This. I’m yet to meet a reasonable decent man that would knowingly want to marry a girl who has lived it up with 30+ guys in college…

How would he tell?

That is why I sad “knowingly”. But sure go ahead. if you want to build a marriage on deceit than sure go head. IF you dont think it is a big deal, then why not be honest with the person you are planning on spending the next 75 years with….

[Anonymous]

Encourage her to be diligent with protection. A friends's daughter ended up with herpes from hook ups.

[Anonymous]

And regular gyn checks

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Anonymous wrote:Encourage her to be diligent with protection. A friends's daughter ended up with herpes from hook ups.

A guy I worked with at my summer job ended up with herpes from hookups. He got really sick.

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Anonymous wrote:hooking up with a different guy every weekend? as in FULL hookup?

gross!

I have two college sons who are D1 athletes at P4 schools. They told me that they are sleeping with different women every few days because women want them. Many of these women get passed around by athletes. My sons told me they will sleep with these women, but no serious relationship with them because of their sexual activities.

is this in the South? no surprise that women like the BMOCs/jocks, but it is somewhat disheartening that women are acting this way. Personally would not want my athlete sons going to a school where the women are not looking to get to know them as people, not objects - hard pass imo

PP here. They are both at UVA.

[Anonymous]

I live in a college town and know women who were given date rape drugs. The more a women embraces the hookup culture the higher the risk of something bad happens.

[Anonymous]

My DS is going to college in the fall and doesn’t not want to participate in hookup culture as he prefers longer relationships. Is this attitude dominant or is it mostly hookups?