Men who are almost 50

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women in their 40s with kids. Assume the guy had no kids of his own.

What if he says he wants to get married soon? Never married before.

He has likely been saying this to every woman he dated for the past 30+ years. If he wanted to be married, he would have made it happen by now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Better question is how do you feel about dating someone so maladjusted they're single at 50?

Um... she's an older single person, too...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the woman's personality, attitude, and overall relationship with her kids and ex. I'm divorced in my 40s and I've been dating women in the early to mid 30s. But, that's who's available. I have met a few divorced soccer moms I'd like to get to know better. But, in general they are too busy with family and work to focus on a relationship. I will say this, I'll never date a woman in their 40s with kids who is seeking a money grab. Meaning, they want an easy life so just marry a man who's got money already so she can go back to being a SAHM. I've been introduced to at least 20-25 of those in the last two years by friends and acquaintances.

That pretty much sums up most of the divorced women in their 40s posting on DCUM.

The guy above probably has nothing to offer to divorced women in their 40s.

Singed 45 yo empty nester; NW $4,5mm make 400K/year own my home and car, travel internationally at least once a year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women in their 40s with kids. Assume the guy had no kids of his own.

Speaking as a divorced woman in her 40s w kids, the lifestyle difference is pretty significant btw someone in the thick of child rearing and someone who never had kids. When I first divorced, I thought a man w no kids/college aged kids would be ideal. I quickly realized that these men and I are just not in the same place in life at all. Even the men w kids out of the house who “remember what it was like”, that was years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about dating divorced women with kids in their 40s?

Are you in your 40s or are your kids in their 40s?

[Anonymous]

I’m almost 50 and dating has sucked. The women in the heir 40s I have met are just looking for someone to take care of them $$. I have to plan all the dates and pay for everything. Zero effort on their part. I wanted something LT but have since gone the FWB route.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about dating divorced women with kids in their 40s?

Been dating them but will not pursue anything long term. Between their exs and also what they are looking for (6ft guy making $500k who is a gym rat) most are just out of touch. The apps are a shit show.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about dating divorced women with kids in their 40s?

Been dating them but will not pursue anything long term. Between their exs and also what they are looking for (6ft guy making $500k who is a gym rat) most are just out of touch. The apps are a shit show.

Presume you are a 5'8 guy making 150K/year. It's probably the other way around: women don't pursue anything long term with you

[Anonymous]

How does this pool of men feel about a never married woman in her early 40s, no kids, financially secure ($600K+/year) and ok with not having kids of her own? Or is the never married a red flag?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does this pool of men feel about a never married woman in her early 40s, no kids, financially secure ($600K+/year) and ok with not having kids of her own? Or is the never married a red flag?

I'm in a similar position but with one grown up child in my 40s. Men will feel emasculated.

[Anonymous]

The question is what the 600K+/year women are looking for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The question is what the 600K+/year women are looking for?

Amazing sex. Decent conversation. Someone who can order a food bottle of wine and isn’t self obsessed. That’d be a good start.

[Anonymous]

*good

[Anonymous]

Men in their 50s - yeah no thanks, unless they aren't American.

[Anonymous]

To anyone reading this, he's somewhat attractive and works in big law. He is incredibly effing weird and neurotic though.

How is this (the bold part) any different than most others in Big Law?