Having kids sucks!

[Anonymous]

It is worse for women so think about that.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll never understand these posts, or the people who complain about adopting dogs. How do you go into these things so blind?!

OP, had you spent long lengths of time around children before you had kids? How on earth could you have been so ignorant to the responsibility, time, energy, and money drain?

I don't think experience is necessary when you want children and just follow-through. Neither my husband or I had any experience babysitting or being around other kids (he had nieces and nephews he didn't see very often, and I'm an only child who never looked after kids). But we wanted kids, and we we're happy to spend time with them. It couldn't occur to us to prioritize other things. We have work, friends, etc, but our kids come first.

I have a hard time understanding how someone can get to OP's point of view. It's one thing to struggle with work/life balance, but quite another to regret one's kids, and resent time spent with them.

Maybe you're depressed, OP. Get yourself to a doctor.

[Anonymous]

I felt that way when my kid was young but now he is 11 and I can’t stand to think about him going to college!

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Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

That's why adults educate themselves before making life altering decisions. You didn't do that so deal with the consequences with grace and patience. You can advice others the same to do due diligence, instead of telling them to have or not have kids, based on our individual sample size.

[Anonymous]

At least you are honest, most humans defend their bad decisions with as much vigor as their good decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I felt that way when my kid was young but now he is 11 and I can’t stand to think about him going to college!

Yup. Your kid and your savings going to college.

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Anonymous wrote:100% agree OP. I'm being held hostage because I have to live in a place with "good" schools, other kids for mine to play with etc. It's absolutely bonkers how much of my life is dictated by my kids needs. For example I f*king hate sleep overs. But my kids love it and my spouse thinks it's a good thing. So I have strange kids in my house when I barely want my own kids around. Also I have no interest in talking to a child about their emotional crap.
This year my plan is to do less for my kids. Otherwise I'll start to feel resentful.

So grow a pair and tell your family no more sleepovers. Or only 2 a year or whatever. It’s not an all or nothing thing. Everyone gives/everyone gets.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say it again.. "most men should not have kids. They can't handle giving up their selfish lives".

I hope to god OP that your kids never find out. You're selfish, and love your life more than your children.

If I were your DW, I'd lose all respect for you. After the kids leave the house, I'd probably divorce you having lost respect for you.

This. My brother is the exact same way, as is my father. My brother constantly pawns his kids off on others becuase he's too busy looking at his phone or trying to hit up a bar. He expects my mother or me to feed them, do laundry, babysit, etc. all because he "has too much work". Note that I've been a working mom (atty) for 15 years now.

Some dads are really just selfish a-holes. I do believe in karma and what goes around comes around.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife is partial right. You like your family, but you love your life much more. You shouldn't be a daddy.

Feel bad for your kids. They don't deserve a father like you. There I say it.

Sign,
Tired but happy father of 3.

Amen. I feel sorry for your kids that you resent them so much you feel compelled to go online and b&tch about them. What a total loser you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least you are honest, most humans defend their bad decisions with as much vigor as their good decisions.

Yes. An honest but terrible father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

I'm sure your parents feel the same way about you. Remember your kids didn't ask to be born

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

I'm sure your parents feel the same way about you. Remember your kids didn't ask to be born

100%. So typical of the modern male. Grow some balls and stop being such a wuss.

[Anonymous]

Please please please tell me this is a troll post with lots of sock puppeting. Those poor kids.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my late 40s. The thing I remember most about my childhood is my mom often and loudly stating how much she "hates kids." I felt like I was "bad" just because I was a kid.
My mom died about a year ago and I did not shed a single tear.
Is that what you want for your kids?

[Anonymous]

People who don't want kids should not have sex.

I feel so badly for the kids who have parents like this and for the women who married men like this and didn't realize it.