I just physically abused my husband
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Anonymous
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I'm sitting in the car after I smacked my husband over the head repeatedly with my hands. I'm currently shaking and I'm pretty sure my hands/fingers are bruised. Let me explain: it's been building for months. We are about to make a huge move with our toddler and he's arguably been handling all the logistics plus working a FT job. I work PT and take care of our child all other times. He literally resents doing ANYTHING for her (thinks it's my job). It's been this way since she was born but it's way worse now. I had to talk him into giving her a bath tonight while i got a load of laundry started. once she was in and he sat down to wash her hair, I was walking out and he said to her "mommy is sick of being with you so I'm doing this". Before I knew what I was doing I was battering him- I don't even know what happened.
My fear is that this is something you can't recover from. And I'm scared because I don't feel guilty in the slightest. Am I horrible? |
Anonymous
| All of this in front of your daughter? Yes, you are VERY horrible. |
Anonymous
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You need help.
Is this the first time you have attacked your husband? Regardless of what was building and what he said, your reaction was out of control and an inappropriate response to the situation. Therapy, anger management therapy are a few suggestions. Hopefully your husband will forgive you and support you in getting help for your issue. |
Anonymous
We're not feeling sorry for you. You hit another human being (who is working full time to support you) in front of a child?? And you don't feel guilty? You need to get some help. Please. |
Anonymous
| No, hopefully your husband calls the cops on you. Domestic violence at its finest. |
Anonymous
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Stress is a mind killer, and it sounds like you are very stressed. You will need help recovering from this and getting it under control.
Be that as it may, your husband sounds like he is being a complete and total ass by saying something like that in front of your daughter. You both have a lot of work ahead of you. |
Anonymous
| Go apologist to your DH. Don't say anything abou what he did. Get into counseling together ASAP. |
Anonymous
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Is your husband injured? Did you even check if he needed medical attention?
Is your child okay? Poor thing to have to witness mommy attacking Daddy. |
Anonymous
| I am not excusing your behavior but I can understand. I would take a few deep breaths and go back in and talk with him about what happened and what got you to that point...including his attitude toward your childs care and his comment which sent you over the edge. |
Anonymous
I agree. What you did is unacceptable. It doesn't matter what he did/didn't do, said/didn't say, there's nothing that excuses or justifies what you did. You lost control, abused your DH - all in front of your child. You need to go to therapy. If you're lucky and work hard on yourself, you may have a chance at salvaging your relationship. If my DH did this to me, I don't know that I'd be willing to give him a second chance. There should be no dobule standard. |
Anonymous
| I'm curious ...the pps who are commenting about how the husband is to blame...what would your advise be if this was a dh who hit his wife? |
Anonymous
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You need to do some serious, SERIOUS soul-searching. That reaction is, needless to say, completely beyond the pale for the situation. Your DH sounds like someone who is an ass and can easily push buttons, but the answer should never be physical. If you need physical release from your anger, that's fine. Go running, go punch something that isn't living like a punching bag, go work out. What are you going to do the first time you really loose your temper with your DD? I can't even imagine...
If your DH is willing to give you a second chance, you need to seek help immediately. BTW, I am actually more worried that you don't feel guilty about the whole thing. That reeks of something seriously out of whack with you. |
Anonymous
| I'm also seriously wondering if this is real... |
Anonymous
Which post "blames" the husband? Please quote or include the time stamp. He sounds like a jackass and folks can point that out. I just re-read each post and didn't see any that implied that he was to blame for her getting out of control and using physical violence. She's an adult. She's fully responsible for that behavior. |
Anonymous
| You realize that you could be arrested and your husband can use this to sue for custody of your child. |