My DH does both. Shrug. This is the thing I don't get about threads like this. You act like YOU have no agency in your own marriage. My husband respects me and my good opinion of him and I make him work for it. Yes he makes a lot of money. Great. But that doesn't mean he's not going to lift a finger at home. Oh no. I would just never allow that. I honestly don't get it when women complain about this. I tell him when he's not meeting my standards and he works to improve. Same with me. |
This has been my experience as well. My husband does reasonably well financially (~750k) but more importantly, he has a very flexible job where he can come and go pretty much as he wants. He's leaving today at 3 to take one of our kids to the doctor. He doesn't coach but he makes every game, does pick up from most practices, attends ALL of their school stuff with me in the middle of the day. If your prioritize your family, you'll find a way to make it work. That's all there is to it. |
ExH and I have a fairly decent relationship and we co-parent extremely well. I make significantly less than he does. I'm squarely middle management and he's at the top of the food chain. We both have flexibility in our jobs but for us the key is constant communication about what needs to be done. I WFH so for the most part childcare falls to me. It's just easier as I'm home. But when I call and say I can't do XYZ, he is the one that has the flexibility to cancel meetings. I don't call for willy nilly things but our son has SN and when school calls and says someone needs to pick him up, ExH can move things around more easily than I can. |
And yet Trump's kids all seem to adore him. |
Work to be senior by mid30s and call the shots so you can be present at home or do things that come up. |
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Yes, they are looking for affirmation, and because he gives them money and positions in his company. Duh. Per his exwife, he was never involved with his kids until they hit college. How sad. Would you be ok with your DH not being involved with your kids until they hit 18? Or I guess if you are a man that is what you would like to do but your wife probably forces you to be involved in your children's lives. How sad for your children. |
LOL men do this every damn day because they want to be in love and help to support a family and create the next generation. What a colossally selfish post. Have fun being single! |
It’s not a super high priority. Personality would be far higher. |
He provides them with an incredible lifestyle. If they didn't "adore" him he'd cut them off in a minute. |
It’s like a woman without a vagina!! |
I'm not a man. And quite frankly -- I think the ones who go into an agreement like this without a prenup are foolish. |
It’s easy for the CEO to bug out whenever he wants to. He’s in charge. I’d like to see how some senior associates do when they have to leave for a sick kid. |
Years ago my mother was visiting for a week and my husband would get home at 7 and then we would have dinner. Our kids would have had dinner at 6. One night she said “I don’t understand why you can’t be home for dinner at 5:30 like other husbands!” There was a long pause and then he said “If I could figure out how to live in a home like this and provide for your daughter and our kids the way I do and be home at 5:30 I would, but I’m just not that smart.” He never brought work home and was always with us on weekends. I always knew his family was his priority but he ran a big company and could not just head home every few days for a game. He wasn’t going to do things others in his company could not do. |
Your mother was out of bounds and your husband handled it gracefully but you should have checked her, too, and had his back. |