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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Over the last few years, I have witnessed a trend that is very surprising to me: ridiculously well compensated men who have some how achieved the ability to get MORE time with their families at the height of their careers.  I am talking managing partners of major law firms, developers, high end lobbyists, CEOs of mid sized businesses and large publicly traded ones - all making seven figures and up - who are simply AROUND for their kids.  Coaching, volunteering, attending games, taking sons and daughters on trips, driving them to and from stuff.  All very successful men who absolutely make time above and beyond the norm to be present for their kids.  They all also appear to have strong marriages and do a lot of things with their wives.  I am sure they all have help to take a lot of the running around out of their lives and to get chores done but they don't appear to use the time saved for more work or golf or what have you.  The new "goal" for the DC super achievers that I know is to use their time well with their families, careers, communities and their hobbies.  These are not man-children at all.     [/quote]

This has been my experience as well. My husband does reasonably well financially (~750k) but more importantly, he has a very flexible job where he can come and go pretty much as he wants. He's leaving today at 3 to take one of our kids to the doctor. He doesn't coach but he makes every game, does pick up from most practices, attends ALL of their school stuff with me in the middle of the day.

If your prioritize your family, you'll find a way to make it work. That's all there is to it. [/quote]

ExH and I have a fairly decent relationship and we co-parent extremely well.  I make significantly less than he does.  I'm squarely middle management and he's at the top of the food chain.  We both have flexibility in our jobs but for us the key is constant communication about what needs to be done.  I WFH so for the most part childcare falls to me.  It's just easier as I'm home.  But when I call and say I can't do XYZ, he is the one that has the flexibility to cancel meetings.  I don't call for willy nilly things but our son has SN and when school calls and says someone needs to pick him up, ExH can move things around more easily than I can.[/quote]

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